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Been sitting with this observation for a while and i think it's finally clear enough to articulate.

The world doesn't pay for intelligence. It doesn't pay for potential, for good ideas sitting in a notes app, for the ability to analyze a problem from 12 different angles. It pays for results, leverage and distribution. And those things are often built by people with completely different strengths than the ones we associate with being smart.

A few patterns i keep seeing, and honestly recognizing in myself at different points:

Analysis feels safe. Execution feels risky. Analytical people live in their heads because it genuinely feels productive. You can always go one level deeper, refine one more time, find one more flaw in the plan. But real progress requires being okay with embarrassing first attempts and being wrong in public. Most analytical people would rather be right in private than wrong out loud.

Perfectionism is just fear with a better vocabulary. "I'm not ready yet" and "my standards are high" are sometimes true. But a lot of the time it's just that shipping feels exposed in a way that planning never does. Certainty doesn't come before action, it comes after it, and waiting for it is a trap.

The market rewards output not intelligence. You don't get paid for understanding the problem deeply. You get paid for reaching people, solving something real, building something that compounds. None of that happens in your head.

Smart doesn't mean effective. IQ helps you understand things faster. But effectiveness comes from focus, consistency, the ability to sell, tolerance for chaos and the capacity to keep moving when things are unclear. those aren't really taught anywhere, and they matter more to income than raw intelligence ever will.

The hardest thing to accept, and i've been guilty of this more than i'd like to admit, is that a lot of what feels like deep work is just discomfort avoidance with a productivity label slapped on it.

Curious if others have felt this tension, and what actually helped you shift from analysis mode to just moving.

Been sitting with this observation for a while and i think it's finally clear enough to articulate.

The world doesn't pay for intelligence. It doesn't pay for potential, for good ideas sitting in a notes app, for the ability to analyze a problem from 12 different angles. It pays for results, leverage and distribution. And those things are often built by people with completely different strengths than the ones we associate with being smart.

A few patterns i keep seeing, and honestly recognizing in myself at different points:

Analysis feels safe. Execution feels risky. Analytical people live in their heads because it genuinely feels productive. You can always go one level deeper, refine one more time, find one more flaw in the plan. But real progress requires being okay with embarrassing first attempts and being wrong in public. Most analytical people would rather be right in private than wrong out loud.

Perfectionism is just fear with a better vocabulary. "I'm not ready yet" and "my standards are high" are sometimes true. But a lot of the time it's just that shipping feels exposed in a way that planning never does. Certainty doesn't come before action, it comes after it, and waiting for it is a trap.

The market rewards output not intelligence. You don't get paid for understanding the problem deeply. You get paid for reaching people, solving something real, building something that compounds. None of that happens in your head.

Smart doesn't mean effective. IQ helps you understand things faster. But effectiveness comes from focus, consistency, the ability to sell, tolerance for chaos and the capacity to keep moving when things are unclear. those aren't really taught anywhere, and they matter more to income than raw intelligence ever will.

The hardest thing to accept, and i've been guilty of this more than i'd like to admit, is that a lot of what feels like deep work is just discomfort avoidance with a productivity label slapped on it.

Curious if others have felt this tension, and what actually helped you shift from analysis mode to just moving.

I've been doing customer research for the past few weeks trying to figure out who actually wants what I'm building.

And somewhere in that process I had this uncomfortable realization: almost every AI tool I was looking at for inspiration was built by founders, for founders. Productivity tools, AI assistants, "second brain" apps, vibe coding platforms. The ICP is always basically the same person as the builder.

Which makes sense. You build for the pain you know. But it creates this weird echo chamber where the whole AI SaaS space is just founders selling to other founders who are also building tools to sell to founders.

And that ICP is honestly brutal if you think about it. They've already used 15 AI tools this month. They'll churn the second something shinier shows up. They're not emotionally attached to your product, they're evaluating it. Low loyalty, high skepticism, zero patience.

Meanwhile I talked to a friend who runs a small construction company. He's drowning in paperwork, scheduling chaos, invoice follow-ups. He doesn't know what "multi-agent orchestration" means and he doesn't care. He just wants to not lose 3 hours a day to admin.

He'd pay for that. Happily. And he's not comparing you to 40 competitors.

Same with a parent trying to help a kid with learning difficulties. Or someone managing elderly care. Or a local business owner who's never heard of YC.

These markets have real urgency, real emotional stakes, and way less "tool fatigue." The problem is that most AI founders are fishing in the same tiny overcrowded pond while entire oceans are sitting there untouched.

Maybe I'm wrong. But it feels like the biggest AI opportunities right now aren't inside the founder bubble at all.

Anyone actually building outside of it?

I think influencer marketing is underrated. There are a lot of people who are really good at creating content and others who are great at building really good products. I think it can be an excellent win-win. On top of that, affiliate marketing is possible so it can be extremely profitable on both sides. Has anyone ever tried it and if so, what were the results?

Pattern recognition is probably the most important skill in the AI era.

For example, pattern recognition is simply the ability to identify, among a group of videos you watch on social media, the ones that keep showing up over and over again.

Example: TikTok videos that perform well are emotional, relatable, and extremely dynamic (sound, editing, writing).

3 patterns that appear constantly.

Another example: you look at successful SaaS products and instantly notice what works and how they do it.

Recurring patterns: simple onboarding, clear offer, compelling freemium model.

And it’s even more important in the AI era where everything moves insanely fast.

Being able to recognize a strong signal among the massive amount of content AI generates allows you to amplify it → to create 10 videos from the winning pattern.

AI amplifies winning patterns, but it also amplifies bad ones. So you have to be careful when generating content:  you can spend hours generating something that simply doesn’t work.

Pattern recognition can be trained, but I also think we all naturally have some level of it. Some people do it instinctively, others don’t.

Recognizing patterns also allows you to quickly update what you’re building and rapidly understand why you’re failing compared to others.

Execution + pattern recognition = success

What do you think?

I think this is one of the biggest frustrations related to our psychological type. We have the capacity to dream more than any other type and to envision absolutely every angle of what we could become.

But when it comes to taking action, structuring things, sticking to a plan, staying highly disciplined, and sometimes grinding through repetitive tasks… it breaks down.

Because that's simply not our zone of genius (which is... dreaming!).

So it creates a chronic frustration.

And the worst part is that we probably have the intellectual capacity to understand everything.

But executing is another story.

No real solution to this. Just put meaning into what you do, it'll maximize your ability to execute. And do your best.

Anyone else noticed this?

At the beginning of the AI wave, I had two questions:

• Would AI be allowed by the platforms? (Because users could get tired of it, and because it removes a form of humanity)
• Would AI-generated content actually work?

I think both questions have now been answered.

Not only are platforms allowing AI content, but AI-generated marketing videos are driving massive sales. I’ve lost count of how many apps blew up thanks to AI videos: fitness apps with AI influencers, golf apps, and many more.

So this is going to become mandatory.

The real thing that will make the difference, as always, is the signal: a deep understanding of human psychology, marketing, and what makes people buy. The way the video is structured, how strongly people feel connected to it, how relatable it feels, etc.

In the end, what will make the difference is exactly what made the difference before, back when marketing was only written, or when people had to film videos manually.

But now the doubt is gone: AI in marketing is no longer optional. It’s encouraged both by the platforms and by the audience. And it's necessary because volume is one of the key to growth in 2026

I'm French and I've seen all his interviews (he's the future/current best basketball player, for those who don't know). It's great to see an INFP perform so well in sports (at this level), it's not common.

There's something i keep noticing about the way people, including myself, think about complex things.

We tend to arrive at a problem and immediately fan out. List the variables. Weigh the options. Pick the best one. It feels rigorous. It's actually just... lateral movement. Moving across the surface of something instead of going through it.

The question i keep coming back to is: what if most problems have a single causal origin? Not just a "root cause" in the corporate sense. Something more like a seed : the one thing that, if it grows, makes everything else downstream almost inevitable (think of a tree that grows from a seed, without the seed nothing grows).

The domino analogy gets at it from a different angle. There's always a first domino. Push the second one and not all the dominoes will fall. Find the first one and the rest falls on its own.

What's strange is that once you start seeing it, you see it everywhere.

Self-confidence, for instance. Most people try to build it at the wrong level, affirmations, posture, forcing themselves into uncomfortable situations. But those are level 2 or 3 at best. The actual seed is self-knowledge. A person who knows themselves deeply, their values, their flaws, what their ego is protecting, what lives in their shadow, becomes almost impossible to destabilize. What are you going to attack them on? They know themselves better than you do.

From that, the absence of need for external validation follows almost automatically. And from that, a different relationship with failure, it becomes information about a method, not a verdict on who you are.

Strong identity --> no need for validation --> tolerance for failure. All the dominoes have fallen, confidence is there

Try to build the third without the first and it collapses. Try to build the second without the first and it's performance.

Same thing with discipline. People optimize their to-do lists and wonder why nothing changes. But discipline at its core is doing what you don't feel like doing. You do what you don't feel like doing when it's necessary. So the real question is: how do you manufacture that sense of necessity? The answer is identity. If your self-concept requires discipline, if being undisciplined creates genuine internal conflict, not just guilt, then indiscipline becomes costly by default. The execution systems are level 3. The environment you build around yourself is level 2. The identity is the seed.

Same thing with business. Bezos understood this with Amazon. The core question wasn't "how do we grow revenue", it was "how do we become the global reference for customer service?" Everything else followed from that single premise. Musk did the same with SpaceX: go back to first principles, identify what the aerospace industry was actually constrained by at a physical level, then optimize everything else ruthlessly. Jobs: merge creativity with technology. One seed, everything downstream.

The human psyche follows the same logic. The seed, the first layer is survival and reproduction. All of social psychology, tribalism, status games, sexual behavior, it's all downstream of that. My mother smoked for years and quit the day she understood she was doing it to irritate her own mother. The behavior wasn't the problem. The seed was.

I'm not sure this is an original idea. But i think it's underused, mostly because the seed is harder to find than the branches. And sometimes harder to see. It requires actually defining the problem first, which is genuinely harder than it sounds and accounts for maybe half the solution. Most people skip it because listing options feels like progress.

Maybe the useful question isn't "what should i do about this." Maybe it's "what is the one thing that, if it were true, would make most of the other things resolve themselves."

I don't know if there's always an answer. But i've started assuming there is, and it's changed how i approach almost everything. Business, relationship, intellectual reflexion. It often comes from a domino or a seed.

Been thinking about something that's been bothering me for a while and I can't fully shake it.

We live in arguably the most morally vocal era in human history. Every opinion, every stance, loudly stated. And yet I feel like actual moral behavior, the kind that costs something, is getting rarer.

Here's what I mean.

Someone who's never had the opportunity to cheat on their partner isn't morally virtuous for "never cheating." They just haven't been in the situation. The person who has the opportunity, the feelings are there, the door is open, and chooses not to because of who they are, that's where actual character lives. We confuse the absence of temptation with virtue all the time.

Same thing with racism and immigration. Someone who grew up in a homogeneous suburb, has zero daily friction with immigration, and announces proudly that they're not racist, they do not discriminate against any community. okay, but that's not really a moral achievement. It's just the path of least resistance. The person who lives in a neighborhood with real integration tension, genuinely struggles with it sometimes, and still chooses fairness and basic humanity, that person is doing something real. They're paying a cost.

Same for the person who says they'd "always speak up against injustice" but has never once been in a room where doing so would actually cost them something, socially or professionally. Do it on X doesn't cost anything.

I'm not trying to rank people or play moral gatekeeper. honestly i do this too, probably more than i'd like to admit.

But it feels like we've built this giant loud infrastructure for signaling moral positions on things that are largely costless to signal. Twitter, Instagram, LinkedIn, whatever. And in the meantime the actual quiet stuff, being honest when honesty is uncomfortable, being fair to people who make your life harder, keeping your word when it would be easier not to, that barely registers anywhere.

Maybe it was always like this. Maybe every generation thought the previous one had more integrity. But I don't think it's the same as before. The scale at which you can now perform morality without practicing it is genuinely new.

The problem is also that it diminishes the importance of truly moral acts. When everyone claims to be moral without paying the price, when it costs something, people are no longer moral. Because morality has lost its power.

To draw an analogy, it's like womans who make false rape accusations and make the real victims invisible. Many people use morality at every turn, and this makes truly moral people invisible.

idk. curious if other people feel this or if i'm just being cynical about the wrong things.

Been thinking about something that's been bothering me for a while and I can't fully shake it.

We live in arguably the most morally vocal era in human history. Every opinion, every stance, loudly stated. And yet I feel like actual moral behavior, the kind that costs something, is getting rarer.

Here's what I mean.

Someone who's never had the opportunity to cheat on their partner isn't morally virtuous for "never cheating." They just haven't been in the situation. The person who has the opportunity, the feelings are there, the door is open, and chooses not to because of who they are, that's where actual character lives. We confuse the absence of temptation with virtue all the time.

Same thing with racism and immigration. Someone who grew up in a homogeneous suburb, has zero daily friction with immigration, and announces proudly that they're not racist, they do not discriminate against any community. okay, but that's not really a moral achievement. It's just the path of least resistance. The person who lives in a neighborhood with real integration tension, genuinely struggles with it sometimes, and still chooses fairness and basic humanity, that person is doing something real. They're paying a cost.

Same for the person who says they'd "always speak up against injustice" but has never once been in a room where doing so would actually cost them something, socially or professionally. Do it on X doesn't cost anything.

I'm not trying to rank people or play moral gatekeeper. honestly i do this too, probably more than i'd like to admit.

But it feels like we've built this giant loud infrastructure for signaling moral positions on things that are largely costless to signal. Twitter, Instagram, LinkedIn, whatever. And in the meantime the actual quiet stuff, being honest when honesty is uncomfortable, being fair to people who make your life harder, keeping your word when it would be easier not to, that barely registers anywhere.

Maybe it was always like this. Maybe every generation thought the previous one had more integrity. But I don't think it's the same as before. The scale at which you can now perform morality without practicing it is genuinely new.

The problem is also that it diminishes the importance of truly moral acts. When everyone claims to be moral without paying the price, when it costs something, people are no longer moral. Because morality has lost its power.

To draw an analogy, it's like womans who make false rape accusations and make the real victims invisible. Many people use morality at every turn, and this makes truly moral people invisible.

idk. curious if other people feel this or if i'm just being cynical about the wrong things.

Been thinking about something that's been bothering me for a while and I can't fully shake it.

We live in arguably the most morally vocal era in human history. Every opinion, every stance, loudly stated. And yet I feel like actual moral behavior, the kind that costs something, is getting rarer.

Here's what I mean.

Someone who's never had the opportunity to cheat on their partner isn't morally virtuous for "never cheating." They just haven't been in the situation. The person who has the opportunity, the feelings are there, the door is open, and chooses not to because of who they are, that's where actual character lives. We confuse the absence of temptation with virtue all the time.

Same thing with racism and immigration. Someone who grew up in a homogeneous suburb, has zero daily friction with immigration, and announces proudly that they're not racist, they do not discriminate against any community. okay, but that's not really a moral achievement. It's just the path of least resistance. The person who lives in a neighborhood with real integration tension, genuinely struggles with it sometimes, and still chooses fairness and basic humanity, that person is doing something real. They're paying a cost.

Same for the person who says they'd "always speak up against injustice" but has never once been in a room where doing so would actually cost them something, socially or professionally. Do it on X doesn't cost anything.

I'm not trying to rank people or play moral gatekeeper. honestly i do this too, probably more than i'd like to admit.

But it feels like we've built this giant loud infrastructure for signaling moral positions on things that are largely costless to signal. Twitter, Instagram, LinkedIn, whatever. And in the meantime the actual quiet stuff, being honest when honesty is uncomfortable, being fair to people who make your life harder, keeping your word when it would be easier not to, that barely registers anywhere.

Maybe it was always like this. Maybe every generation thought the previous one had more integrity. But I don't think it's the same as before. The scale at which you can now perform morality without practicing it is genuinely new.

The problem is also that it diminishes the importance of truly moral acts. When everyone claims to be moral without paying the price, when it costs something, people are no longer moral. Because morality has lost its power.

To draw an analogy, it's like womans who make false rape accusations and make the real victims invisible. Many people use morality at every turn, and this makes truly moral people invisible.

idk. curious if other people feel this or if i'm just being cynical about the wrong things.

We always describe the N/S difference as "big picture vs details" or "abstract vs concrete." That's not wrong but it's surface level. After thinking about this for a while, I believe the real difference is somewhere else entirely.

It's the ability to see yourself in space.

Not introspection in the classic sense. Not "I'm reflecting on what I feel." But the capacity to decenter from yourself, to observe yourself as an object within an environment, to perceive your own position within a system in real time. A third-person consciousness applied to yourself.

Most people think from inside their situation. They're in it. They react. They navigate without a map. What N dominants, and Ni users in particular, seem to do naturally is step outside the frame to see the frame. Not just "what's my next move" but "where am I in the broader trajectory, and where is that trajectory going."

It's almost like a cognitive GPS. The ability to locate yourself in an abstract space, whether that's temporal, relational, strategic, or narrative.

And it changes everything at the decision-making level. Someone who can see themselves in space has a map. Everyone else just has their feet.

What I notice in S types I know isn't a lack of depth or intelligence. It's a mode of thinking that's grounded in the immediate present, in what's tangible, in what's actually there. Which is a genuine strength in a lot of contexts. But that ability to spatially decenter from yourself, to see your own relative position within a system, seems significantly less natural.

Obviously this is a tendency, not an absolute rule. And I think Ti plays a role here too, independently of N or S. But the N/S axis still feels like the strongest correlate to me.

Would be curious whether others recognize this in their own experience.

I'm betting on INFJ

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Everyone talks about PMF like it's the only thing that matters. And yeah, it matters. But there's something that comes before it that almost nobody mentions.

You can have a great product in a big market and still fail. Not because the business doesn't work, but because the business isn't compatible with who you are. i've seen this happen more than once and it's honestly one of the more painful things to watch.

Founder-market fit, at its core, is just alignment between how your mind works and the type of business you're trying to build:

• Your natural strengths and where they create leverage
• Your personality and what kind of environment actually energizes you
• The type of problems you genuinely find interesting enough to stay with for years
• The distribution and sales motion the business requires to win

You'll go further and last longer in something that matches how you're wired, tbh that sounds obvious but almost nobody actually acts on it.

Some patterns i keep seeing:

• Introverts who are great at depth doing really well with content, digital products, B2B with long sales cycles
• Systems thinkers gravitating toward deep B2B SaaS where complexity is the moat
• People-oriented founders thriving in community, services, anything relationship-driven

There's no objectively best business model. there's only the one that fits how you actually operate.

The reason this matters practically is that misaligned businesses drain energy in ways that are hard to diagnose. You hit decision fatigue earlier, lose motivation on the hard days, and eventually quit something that might have actually worked if someone else was running it.

Aligned businesses compound your strengths instead of constantly working against them.

Curious what types of businesses feel misaligned with how you're wired. or the opposite, where did you find the fit finally clicked?

Learn to make concessions. Pushed to its extreme, idealism makes you miss a lot, professionally, relationally. Not everything needs to feel perfect. Not people, not life, which is inherently chaotic. Beauty can emerge from anywhere.

Be more socially present. When I discovered MBTI, I could spot other INFPs from the outside. And honestly, the lack of expressiveness can make us look strange to others, maybe self-absorbed, absent, even empty. When in reality it's the complete opposite. Most people simply can't read someone's soul. So be sociable, and above all more physically present. Inhabit your body and go toward people.

Choose something that means something to you, because if you don't, you'll consume yourself slowly. Yes, we're all going to die. Yes, life is absurd. But the time you spend in it, find meaning in what matters to you. Relationships, work. Not doing so is, in some way, a betrayal of yourself.

Your perception of reality isn't necessarily reality. The tendency to give weight to things that don't always deserve it is structural. It's Ne amplifying Fi. Sometimes it's justified. Sometimes it's details that aren't worth it.

Express what you feel with people you trust. Connected to the point above. Expressing what you feel allows you to discharge Fi. And to stay in a healthy relationship with what's real.

You'll never fully express the granularity of what you feel, and that's fine. It matters to know yourself, to know what's important, where your values are. But the totality will never be expressed. Words fall short of that work. Art comes closest. Consume it without limit.

Make concessions with reality. The real world will always be out of sync with your inner one. Your desires, the ideal image of yourself, your relationships, your work, everything will be a source of frustration if you don't learn to yield. So accept imperfect things.

Other people don't care about you. I'll say it again: other people don't care about you. And above all, they're not like you. They don't have this capacity for empathy, this hypersensitivity. You're a data point to them, they don't see you in your entirety and they're not trying to. They're focused on themselves and on what others think of them. So be free.

Learn to develop Te. Doing what needs to be done whether you feel like it or not. Structure precedes meaning. Everything of value exists because structure came first. People who did things they didn't want to do, including in art. Finish what you start. Always keep your promises. Attach whatever meaning you want to it, but do it.

Don't be too hard on yourself. It reminds me of something actor Wentworth Miller (Michael Scotfield in Prison Break) once said: "If I spoke to others the way I speak to myself, I'd probably have no friends left." Be lenient and kind with yourself. The INFP profile is the least adapted to a society that runs on Te and Se. That doesn't mean seeing yourself as broken. It means treating yourself with the same empathy you carry for everyone else. Even if it's the hardest profile, it's also the most deeply rewarding. We're the only ones who can reach a level of inner pleasure comparable to a drug just by experiencing art, by thinking about a relationship we have with someone, or simply by revisiting a memory. We see the world in color, not in gray. The challenge of reality is well worth that. And one last thing, you're more than an INFP. Never let that put you in a cage or use it as an excuse not to do what you want

We didn't just adopt technology, we outsourced parts of being human.

And I don't think people realize how far that's gone.

Technology isn't neutral anymore. It's not just changing what we do, it's changing how we think, feel, desire and relate to the world. We've optimized so much of our lives that we've started optimizing ourselves. Nobody asked for that part.

A few examples that genuinely bother me:

Love & relationships: No more magic, no more "a friend introduced me to a friend". Algorithms judge us on surface signals and create infinite choice illusion. You no longer build tolerance for imperfection, you just keep swiping for better. Externalized desire, weaker bonds, more loneliness. We are less human.

Democracy & opinion: Social platforms didn't create "free speech", they created privatized attention markets. Outrage and emotion get amplified, nuance gets buried. Elections are no longer about ideas, but about vibes. We don't debate anymore. We react. Algorithms don't vote, but they shape the emotional conditions where votes are made. That should scare people more than it does. We are less human.

Identity & taste: Instagram, TikTok, etc. don't show you content, they shape you. Every micro-interaction trains an algo to build an aesthetic + ideological bubble around you. You think you have a personal taste. You have a feed and the algorithm chose how you chose . More content than ever, less originality than ever. Everybody is the same. We are less human.

Silence & introspection: This steals your soul. We've made silence unbearable. Every moment of boredom gets filled. But boredom, daydreaming, mental wandering, that's literally where deep thinking, creativity and emotional processing happen. We've turned off our default mode network, the engine of our mind. Shallower thinking, higher anxiety, less clarity. And we call it being productive. Always chasing the next shining object. We are less human

AI & thinking: last but not least AI. We a f*cking less human

Technology steals people's souls, and people let their souls be stolen.

Today I want to talk about the most effective problem-solving method I've ever found.

When we face a problem, we tend to list solutions and pick one.

That's not the best way to proceed.

The real approach is to reason with the principle of causality and identify the single thing that will trigger everything else. Because there's almost always one.

To solve a problem, start with the seed. Then the trunk grows, then the branches and the fruit appears almost by itself.

The domino analogy works just as well: there's always one domino that knocks down all the others. But if you push the second one, nothing moves.

A few examples, because examples always beat long explanations:

Jeff Bezos's core question when founding Amazon was: how do we become the number one e-commerce platform? What was the seed, the first domino? Making Amazon the global reference for customer service. Every strategic decision flows from that single premise. Everything else is downstream.

Elon Musk did the same with SpaceX. The seed he identified was the inefficiency of aerospace manufacturing processes. He went back to first principles: what are the non-negotiable scientific constraints? Everything else gets optimized. Every cost that can be reduced, will be. No process stays untouched just because "that's how it's always been done." All of SpaceX flows from that.

Same for Steve Jobs. His seed: merge creativity and beauty with technology. Everything Apple ever did flows from that premise.

Now let's move away from business strategy.

Self-confidence.

Self-confidence requires above all else self-knowledge. That's the seed. Identity. Knowing yourself deeply, what you love, what you don't, where you're resilient and where you're not. Your values, principles, qualities and flaws. Your traumas, your convictions. The darker parts too: what does your ego protect? What's your shadow?

When someone knows themselves deeply, they become very hard to destabilize. What are you going to attack them on? They know themselves far better than you do. That's also why self-deprecating humor is actually a sign of confidence. And it's why, when done right, confidence grows with age.

The second layer, the trunk, the second domino, is the absence of need for external validation. When you have a strong, accepted identity, you genuinely don't care what others think. What could they teach you about yourself? I'm not saying it's easy. I'm not saying you can eliminate it entirely. But a solid, deeply known identity reduces that need dramatically. And as a side effect, you naturally appear more confident to others.

The third layer: when you have a strong identity and don't need validation, you develop a healthy relationship with failure. It becomes data about a method that did or didn't work, not a verdict on your worth or how others see you.

The order is:

Strong identity → no need for validation → tolerance for failure

Try to have one without the previous, and you fail. The seed has to be planted first.

Discipline.

Same process. Discipline means doing what you don't feel like doing. And you do what you don't feel like doing when it's absolutely necessary. So how do you create that necessity? By anchoring discipline to identity.

Example: I am someone who does everything it takes to achieve their goals. Not being disciplined creates massive cognitive dissonance, usually resolved through excuses or procrastination. That's why "no excuses" has to be part of the identity itself. If your identity requires discipline, indiscipline becomes costly by nature.

Level 2 is environment: surrounding yourself with disciplined, motivated people, working somewhere where procrastination isn't possible, having an external accountability partner. Level 3 is to-do lists. But building to-do lists while ignoring levels 1 and 2 is useless.

Identity tied to discipline → environment → execution systems

That's the way.

Psychology.

The first level is "survive and reproduce." All human strategy flows from there and you can't understand any of it without starting from that premise. From that come tribalism, sexual instinct, social status, fear. Those are probably level 2. Everything else follows.

A few more examples:

A newborn's mental health depends above all on the love they receive in their first years. Meet their physical needs but deprive them of love, and they die. That's the seed of what a child needs.

My mother quit smoking the day she understood why she smoked, to irritate her own mother. After that realization, solving the rest was far simpler.

Same for people trying to diet or recover from addiction. The surface behavior is rarely the real problem.

Many family conflicts get resolved by going back to the source. Something happened in childhood, and pressing the right lever at least defuses the tension.

Conclusion.

If you want to solve a problem:

1/ Define it correctly. That's 50% of the solution and it's harder than it sounds. It requires hierarchy and precision. Writing it out helps.

2/ Focus only on the seed, the core, the first domino. Once that's resolved, move to level 2, then level 3.

The best entrepreneurs and thinkers do this naturally. They always look for the seed. They don't always formalize it. But they all do it.

Maybe this seems obvious to you, good. But we live in a surface-level culture, and very few people actually reason this way.

Next time you're stuck on a problem, ask yourself whether you're pushing the right domino.

This is the most effective method I've found for solving a problem.

What about you?

Not just one element, but the foundation on which everything rests. That's also why the ability to laugh at yourself is a strong indicator. When you know who you are, when you know yourself perfectly, you can mock yourself without it touching your identity. By knowing yourself perfectly, you'll rarely be caught off guard by people's negative comments. You'll seek less validation from the outside.

Every difficulty you face in life, you'll know how to respond to it (or at least you'll have a better idea). When you know yourself, life is easier. It's like playing a game with a cheat code. Also you have better relationship, you can choose a great job that fits you, activity that give you energy. And you navigate it with more peace.

And from deep self knowledge comes less validation seeking and comes a healthy relationship with failure, which is also an element of self confidence. But if you try to seek less validation or try to to have a healthy relationship with failure without having a solid identity, you will fail. That will deep self knowledge is a foundation of everything.

The number one regret of people on their deathbed is not having lived a life true to themselves.

Mbti help a lot for that, but you are so much more than your mbti. 2 people with the same mbti can be so much different. A great way to know yourself is also to do hard stuff. You can discover a damn lot about you in hard situation.

Have a great week everyone !