My 5-year-old loves performing (doing plays at home, making up and singing her own songs,etc.) and I would love to get her involved in some sort of theater productions or classes to explore that interest. Any recommendations?
I looked at the LyriCo Conservatory which looks promising, but would love to see if anyone has personal experience with that school or other theaters in town! Thanks!
I’m not a traditional academic but have worked in higher ed for most of my career. I studied environment journalism and got a masters in science/health communication. While in undergrad and grad school I worked for various newspapers and from there worked 10 years as communications manager roles for a couple different centers at a large state university. Then a faculty program coordinator position opened up. I am now on a faculty line at this same university (as opposed to staff) and teach, have designed an academic minor, and run a new co-curricular program on our campus (part of a larger national initiative). I work with tons of partners both on and of campus, manage a large grant, and administer many request for proposals each year along with designing experiential learning opportunities for students. I’m an instructional assistant professor with a large service and no research role, and go up for promotion to associate next year.
My partner and I want to move to a larger city, and with my student loans finally forgiven I have more options in terms of where I can work (was on PSLF). I’ve applied to roles that aligned well (program coordinator, partnerships director, communications, experiential learning, etc) but I’m not having luck getting interviews. I’ve gotten other offers in the past but turned them down because of PSLF and now worried I stayed too long. My main goal is to get something with a decent salary in a big city (Philly, NY, DC) that is mission driven. I’m sort of a jack of all trades, highly organized, inquisitive and a good communicator. I’m someone who can think big picture strategy and be in the weeds.
In my free time I also cofounded and run a nonprofit news organization.
I’m just a bit lost as to what would be a good next step to meet this goal. I do love teaching and my current job, but there is not a lot of room for salary growth and the grind of the semester can be very, very intense as we all know. I’m mid career (mid-late 30s) if that helps. I have a lot of confidence in the roles I apply to, I’m just scared they are passing on my application after seeing I’ve worked at the same university for going on 13 years.
Advice?
I want to start by saying we go to this event every year and love it. But this creepy AI image on the flyer? Why?? Did they really not have any images from past events? Anyway, kind of fun to zoom in and note all the weirdness. Enjoy!
Took my 2016 Subaru outback in to be serviced at the dealership today because my brakes were grinding and I needed new brake pads and also was due for an oil change.
Before they begin the work, the Subaru dealership calls me and tells me I have an oil leak (they told me this last year too) and on a scale of a 1-10 it was a 3. The lady said “it’s not critical right now, but eventually it may mean replacing a head gasket, which is $5-$6k. With that being said, do you still want to proceed with the other fixes?” I was confused and asked “is there any disadvantage to doing the other fixes?” And she answered, “well some people might opt to trade in if they know they have that big expense.” That didn’t sit right with me at all and felt like a scare tactic. My car is a Subaru with 89k miles that has been well taken care of. I don’t think it should have those kinds of critical problems yet and I’ve never had a low oil light come on.
I’m not too worried about it and will monitor my oil, but would love to hear your takes on it. I’m the type of person who likes to keep cars until they die and do not like having a car payment. I hate when people try to upsell me or get me into a new car.
Thoughts?
We are in need of someone who can fix our gas push mower (ideally someone who can come to us) and someone to fix our fridge—fridge is not cooling, but freezer is! Any recommendations for either welcomed!!
Hey everyone, I’m so glad I found this sub. I recently read the Depression Fallout book and have never related more to a book in my life. Learning that my partners untreated depression is the cause of so much of our turmoil was a breakthrough.
A little backstory, my husband and I dated for 3 years before we’re were married and had a happy first two years of marriage. Bought a house, fixed it up, all was great. I got pregnant and then the pandemic hit (depression trigger for many), then both of my parents died within 3 months of one another (another double whammy) then I had our child—a happy moment but also comes with a lot of postpartum emotions for me and him, then my husbands father was diagnosed with dementia and he passed in March. Since the pandemic and all of those events, our marriage hasn’t been the same. He’s been miserable, grumpy, emotionally distant, not motivated to improve our home, doesn’t want to go on dates, etc etc. He acknowledges he’s depressed but blames it on where we live (a small university town, he enjoys big cities, on not having friends which he blames on not being from the US and not connecting with people, and on not being further in his career). We have discussed moving to a bigger city and are both currently looking for jobs, but I know that this isn’t the root cause of his depression.
It comes to a head often when I try to show affection and he says he has no energy for it (even something as simple as a hug) he says he saves it for our daughter. But even she picks up on his moods and gravitates more toward me. On the weekends, he complains about any plans, so I just make plans with my daughter and we do our own thing. I’m to the point where I need something to change. I’m going to start therapy myself and I’m hoping he will follow suit, but if he doesn’t I don’t know how much longer I can take it.
I just wish he would read more about the disease and how his thought patterns and behaviors are textbook. I wish he would get professional help. He’s tried therapy and says it doesn’t work but I don’t think he’s ever stuck with it long enough. He also has a big aversion to medication (even for physical stuff. For example, he has high cholesterol and could take a pill but instead adheres to a very strict diet and gets super stressed if he doesn’t follow it. It’s so debilitating we can’t even go out to restaurants much.
There’s a lot more to say, but I’m just grateful to have a space to put this out there. Any advice on how to approach perhaps persuading him to get help are welcome.