u/Ambitious_Ship8854

I lost an important ring and I asked my cousin who was over to help my mom with wallpaper application to help me look for it for a bit since it was an expensive ring and my mom barges in and yells me that my cousin was there to help her not me, mind you I was in tears looking for the ring, eventually I found it on my own but I started disassociating imaging my own home and just the peace that came with it

Also she would constantly complain about people not helping her out but when we do she complains about how we’re not doing it properly. I can’t even cook a meal without her being there watching because she doesnt like the kitchen to be a mess, I love cooking but I just decided to forego it because instead of it being relaxing, it became a stressful thing

She also often times reminds me this is HER house and that shes the authority.

I can’t wait to get a higher paying job and get me and my son out of this house so we can have peace.

My sons first communion is coming up and since his school doesn’t organize these type of things, I had to go directly to the church,

One clause is that I’m allowing them to use my childs likeness, take videos of him etc and once i consent they can use his image for whatever purpose the Church deems it serves.

Of course I didn’t agree, my parents, especially my mom then got mad at me because its the church and I shouldn’t “question” it and that its okay for her and she wants me to consent to it too.

I walked out on her because I don’t want to be pressured over something I don’t feel comfortable with, and then suddenly she and my dad started calling me ungrateful, rude and disrespectful towards the church. They made sure I heard their conversation.

My mom was complaining that I cause problems all the time even when it’s something as small as this

I tried to explain that I don’t feel comfortable because 1, they didnt state where and how this images will be used 2, the clause said that once I agree they can interview him and use this for marketing online even without my consent since I already agreed to it.

Am I being wrong?

A company I’m interviewing for is asking me to send them my training deck that I will use for my hiring manager interview.

Its the first time a company has asked me for this and medyo alanganin ako ipadala sa kanila kasi I made this deck myself, they just gave me a topic. Usually I just share screen sa ibang companies pag dating sa ganito.

Should I send it or red flag ba?

Annual pay for the position is 300K.

I told them my son and I need structure and don’t need them with us all the time, I want to spend time with him just me and him cause at the end of the day its really just me and him.

My mom yelled at me telling me its like I’m implying they will die soon and then went on a dramatic tirade that I’m a bad mother for keeping him away from his grandparents (they normally triangulate me and my son from each other)

In all honesty I do not feel like a parent when I’m around them so spending just me and my son together gives me that sense of I’m “Mom” and I love it. When we’re with them I constantly am I demeaned, my rules are overruled and my son is just a brat around them.

Now she texts me “Tell xxx we love him” and I’m sure this is another guilt trip tactic.

I’m supposed to get paid $2,000 for processing business documents for my dad and his friend.

It was only supposed to be 3 business filings and I completed them yesterday. Was promised that I will get paid today.

My dad then tells me they’re witholding payment because I haven’t completed one more thing that they needed last minute, I was not informed of this until last minute when he knew I needed the money.

I’m never doing anything for him again. Why do they like seeing their kids suffer.

I’m so disappointed because that $2,000 was supposed to go towards my sons after school fund/summer school fund and now I don’t have that money because the last thing they need completed takes a few weeks.

I’m heartbroken because I believed I was going to get paid and now he added one thing again without telling me last minute and I have to accomplish so much documents for this permit.

I’m supposed to get paid $2,000 for processing business documents for my dad and his friend.

It was only supposed to be 3 business filings and I completed them yesterday. Was promised that I will get paid today.

My dad then tells me they’re witholding payment because I haven’t completed one more thing that they needed last minute, I was not informed of this until last minute when he knew I needed the money.

I’m never doing anything for him again. Why do narc parents like seeing their kids suffer.

I’m so disappointed because that $2,000 was supposed to go towards my sons after school fund/summer school fund and now I don’t have that money because the last thing they need completed takes a few weeks.

I’m heartbroken because I believed I was going to get paid and now he added one thing again without telling me last minute and I have to accomplish so much documents for this permit.

Mom is taking his side too, saying its okay if they added it last minute

My niece has a small business and wanted me to invest around $10,000 in it. But when I said yes but with proper documentation she suddenly had so many reasons like

“my documents are not complete yet” so I said oh okay, do you want help with that, she says “no”

Then I noticed she kept asking me about how to run a business and how she can do and this. At first it was okay but then she was asking me to find her cheaper suppliers etc so I said she can just google or use facebook to check.

Then she asked me invest again a few weeks later so I assumed she already had fixed the government documents so I said lets put it in writing suddenly she says “but my business is still small and my market is still small” so I said “okay then” but then I didnt give her the money.

3 weeks later she asked again so I said, the only way I will invest is if we put it in writing I will not hand money withojr a proper legal process, she then said the same reason that the business is still small and her market is still small”

The next day she offered to be partners but then when she was explaining I realized it wasnt a partnership because she wanted me to pay her upfront to take half her stock and selling it myself, she was glorifying being a reseller and didnt think I would catch up on it.

Then she asked about my flower cart that I have for events. 2 weeks later she made a cart for her small business with the same cart producer and its EXACTLY the same design as my cart.

Then she is now pushing me to invest into helping her put up her dream cafe, but she specifically says having the cafe company under her name is her goal, so I declined because she was asking me to cover the expenses for it but she will work “for free” to handle the cafe for “me” when my name wont be anywhere in it if I spend to put it up for her lol.

Do your AP’s love to pull the “I OWN THIS HOUSE” card too? Mine always reminds me of this when she doesn’t get her way, she also loves to say “You have no authority in this house, I am the authority” and “why would I apologize to you, you are just my child”

Did your AP’s ever do this too?

I just realized it today, my cousins who had family that weren’t as financially stable as we are were all able to live and work abroad or put up successful businesses, meanwhile everything seemed so hard for me even though my parents are well off, I never got the same opportunities to be independent as my cousins did, I realized my parents wanted me stuck and dependent on them, I also recently found out that an aunt had offered a room at her house for me if I wanted to study where she lives and my mom had declined and told her I was hard to live with because of my anxiety (I didnt have my son yet that time), my dad stopped his own friend from hiring me and suggested someone else.

They took opportunities away and gave then to someone else while they made me feel like they were supportive and I just didn’t have the same luck everyone else had.

I’m heartbroke and I feel like I will never trust them again, all I want now is to get any of the jobs I applied for and get me and my son out of their house.

Has anyone felt the same way? Did they do the same to you?

My mom has been very intrusive about my parenting to the point that my son has started disrespecting me and calling out for her so I would get in trouble (and he would get his way)

She also makes life so hard, i get a job offer she creates so many issues around it that it affects my mental health and she only stops when I dont accept the job. I also noticed that when she knows of any opportunity I have it never comes into fruition, like she makes sure it doesn’t happen.

She tells me to never get into a relationship again, when i lose weight she cooks and orders all my favorite food because she seems to want to keep me fat and unfit.

When i get my nails done or I put effort into how I look she would accuse me of sleeping with someone

She had also recently screamed at me because I couldn’t control my sons tantrum and caught her eavesdropping and she reminded me that this is her house and she has the right to do whatever she wants even if it means me not having privacy.

Once she accused me of abusing my son after we came home from a soccer game and he had a bruise, fortunately I brought him to the school clinic before we went home and they gave me a note that showed when and how he got the injury.

I want to get away from her shackles because I realizes she is keeping me dependent on her so she can control me and play mommy to my son.

What can I do? Aside from moving out because I can’t afford it yet.

My mom has been very intrusive about my parenting to the point that my son has started disrespecting me and calling out for her so I would get in trouble (and he would get his way)

She also makes life so hard, i get a job offer she creates so many issues around it that it affects my mental health and she only stops when I dont accept the job. I also noticed that when she knows of any opportunity I have it never comes into fruition, like she makes sure it doesn’t happen.

She tells me to never get into a relationship again, when i lose weight she cooks and orders all my favorite food because she seems to want to keep me fat and unfit.

When i get my nails done or I put effort into how I look she would accuse me of sleeping with someone

She had also recently screamed at me because I couldn’t control my sons tantrum and caught her eavesdropping and she reminded me that this is her house and she has the right to do whatever she wants even if it means me not having privacy.

Once she accused me of abusing my son after we came home from a soccer game and he had a bruise, fortunately I brought him to the school clinic before we went home and they gave me a note that showed when and how he got the injury.

I want to get away from her shackles because I realizes she is keeping me dependent on her so she can control me and play mommy to my son.

What can I do?

Recently discovered that my cousins dont like me because my mom always tells them how rude and mean I am and how awful I am to her, when she’s been the one who is very awful to me.

She always plays victim and tries to isolate me from everyone, she hates it when I’m close to someone and would ask me everyday if I talk to so and so, I always just say no because I know she’s just fishing to see who she will target to hate me again.

Its so exhausting and the fact that everyone thinks I’m such an awful person BECAUSE OF MY OWN MOTHER is just so gut wrenching.

Anyone elses parents don’t apologize and expect you to apologize after they call you names and remind you that you have no right in the house because its THEIR HOUSE NOT YOURS?

Its mother’s day and I’m a single mom— yesterday my mom told me I’m the problem because I couldn’t control my son and I always end up crying (out of frustration) thing is she always inserts herself when I try to control my son and his tantrums and I can never control him when she’s around because she always yells at me. I panic at the mere thought of my son whining or crying because it would mean I was about to get scolded again and its based on her assumptions only (like if she hears him crying she immediately suspects I’m the one at fault)

She even accused me of hurting him after we came home after a soccer game and he had a bruise, its a good thing I had brought him to the clinic before we went home and I had actual proof if was from the soccer game. (Also i would NEVER hurt my son, I would rather hurt myself)

I also caught her eavesdropping at my door while I was trying to control my sons outbursts thats when she told me I have no right in this house because its her house not mine.

It just hurt because now she expects me to apologize and even said its my fault that she said that.

I refuse to apologize and my son and I are celebrating mothers day with take out pizza and boba.

Question is do your parents have the same attitude? That they dont need to apologize to you no matter what they’ve said or done?

Anyone else have no one to vent to? We live with my parents, my mom always demeans my parenting and makes raising my 9 year old son harder because she always interferes therefore my son knows that even if he doesnt listen to me its okay.

I just recently tried to vent out my frustrations to my mom and realized I’m really alone—she started sighing and then just kept a straight face at me until I stopped then she stood up and said she’s going to her room because her sister needs someone to talk to on the phone since shes going through a divorce.

I realized no one really cares, she doesnt even ask how I’m doing but she expects me to ask our relatives how they’re doing and if they need any help etc.

I sometimes just cry because I have to hold all my problems in, my friends are tired of hearing about it too, so sometimes I have to turn to AI just so I don’t spiral.

It already hurts being a single mom but to see others get support to be able to live their lives not as mom but as themselves, is envious to me. I see others single moms be able to live their lives but I’m stuck being just “mom” because when I go outside the box of “mom” I get heavily judged and accused by my mother who is trying to get me to stay single forever because she says its better I stay single.

Mothers day is coming up and I tend to forget about it because the only person who celebrates me is my son. I greeted fellow moms a happy mothers day and all I got were “thank you” not even a “happy mothers day to you too!” Its like you have no right to celebrate unless you’re a married mother. And its so isolating.

Even co moms in school dont include me. I tried to be part of their circle last mothers day and I gave them gifts, i never got anything back and then I saw that they all celebrated mothers day together and exchanged gifts.

When my son was throwing a tantrum because I asked him to help him clean up, he yelled “grandma!” And I had no idea that my mom was listening outside our door. She started knocking when she heard me say that it doesnt matter because even if he doesnt have a dad mommy loves him so much because my son asked why he doesnt have a father.

She then started screaming at me, indirectly accusing me of abusing my son because he’s always throwing tantrums. I started explaining defending myself that whenever I ask him to do anything he knows that someone will take his side. She started denying and then calling me a problem so I said “I KNOW YOU SEE ME AS A PROBLEM BECAUSE YOU SECRETLY LOOK DOWN ON ME FOR BEING A SINGLE MOM”

My son then wrapped his arms around me and told his grandma to leave the room to which she yelled at him and said “YOU DO NOT ASK ME TO LEAVE THIS ROOM, I OWN THIS HOUSE”

Then she repeated it to me that I have no rights in this house and she can listen on my conversations when she wants because this is her house not mine.

When you’re a single mom with no emotional support hearing that from your own supposed source of support was very very painful for me

Anyone else have no one to vent to? We live with my parents, my mom always demeans my parenting and makes raising my 9 year old son harder because she always interferes therefore my son knows that even if he doesnt listen to me its okay.

I just recently tried to vent out my frustrations to my mom and realized I’m really alone—she started sighing and then just kept a straight face at me until I stopped then she stood up and said she’s going to her room because her sister needs someone to talk to on the phone since shes going through a divorce.

I realized no one really cares, she doesnt even ask how I’m doing but she expects me to ask our relatives how they’re doing and if they need any help etc.

I sometimes just cry because I have to hold all my problems in, my friends are tired of hearing about it too, so sometimes I have to turn to AI just so I don’t spiral.

It already hurts being a single mom but to see others get support to be able to live their lives not as mom but as themselves, is envious to me. I see others single moms be able to live their lives but I’m stuck being just “mom” because when I go outside the box of “mom” I get heavily judged and accused by my mother who is trying to get me to stay single forever because she says its better I stay single.

Mothers day is coming up and I tend to forget about it because the only person who celebrates me is my son. I greeted fellow moms a happy mothers day and all I got were “thank you” not even a “happy mothers day to you too!” Its like you have no right to celebrate unless you’re a married mother. And its so isolating.

Even co moms in school dont include me. I tried to be part of their circle last mothers day and I gave them gifts, i never got anything back and then I saw that they all celebrated mothers day together and exchanged gifts.

When my son was throwing a tantrum because I asked him to help him clean up, he yelled “grandma!” And I had no idea that my mom was listening outside our door. She started knocking when she heard me say that it doesnt matter because even if he doesnt have a dad mommy loves him so much because my son asked why he doesnt have a father.

She then started screaming at me, indirectly accusing me of abusing my son because he’s always throwing tantrums. I started explaining defending myself that whenever I ask him to do anything he knows that someone will take his side. She started denying and then calling me a problem so I said “I KNOW YOU SEE ME AS A PROBLEM BECAUSE YOU SECRETLY LOOK DOWN ON ME FOR BEING A SINGLE MOM”

My son then wrapped his arms around me and told his grandma to leave the room to which she yelled at him and said “YOU DO NOT ASK ME TO LEAVE THIS ROOM, I OWN THIS HOUSE”

Then she repeated it to me that I have no rights in this house and she can listen on my conversations when she wants because this is her house not mine.

When you’re a single mom with no emotional support hearing that from your own supposed source of support was very very painful for me

I’ve been trying to lose weight and my mom has noticed and suddenly she claims she lost weight too and shes been cooking and ordering all my favorite food as well. I have since gained the 2Kg i lost back and I hate that I fell into her trap again.

Anyone else have a mom who just makes losing weight such a hard thing to do?

Does your mom ever make accusations towards you even though it doesn’t make any sense?

My son fell during soccer and his knee and elbows have bruises cause it was a pretty bad fall, when we got home (fortunately I took him to the clinic and there was a record) and my mom saw the bruises (he was still in his soccer uniform btw) she started doting on him and then accused me of causing the bruises.

I am in so much emotional pain because of this and I just can’t seem to shake off the fact that MY OWN MOTHER would accuse me of this when I have never laid a finger on my son.

She started gaslighting me when I defended myself by saying “if you were not guilty you would not be defending yourself. You are traumatizing your son” I showed her the clinic records and she accused me of faking them.

She also has this habit towards me dad. The mere name of a woman would send her into spirals accusing my dad of cheating.

I’ve been suffering from migraines, TMJ and chest pain from the constant stress because not only do I have to raise my son, I also have to make sure that whatever I do won’t lead to me being berated by parents. Its tiring

I just realized this today after I went out with my parents and my son. My son was having a tantrum and when I looked up at my mom, she completely avoided all my attempts for eye contact and it hurt me. Not only because I was already trying to calm down a tantrum but also because I wanted the eye contact to feel somewhat supported.

At first I thought maybe it was just coincidence but the third time she did it, I smiled and said a joke and she immediately made eye contact and laughed along with me.

It hurt me even more when she did this because it confirmed that she was in fact avoiding eye contact when I was asking for support/help with the tantrum my son was having.

I’m a single mom so it hits harder that I really am alone in this. I don’t ever try to confront her because I get called dramatic and sensitive when I do.

Mind you my mom is the type of person who gets super sad and affected by other peoples problems, she cried when her favorite YouTubers dog passed away, because she saw how said the YouTuber was.

That act alone made me feel like, I really am alone in this and there’s nothing I can do but cry it out, I was in the bathroom and my son knocked and saw me crying, I said I just got something in my eye, its not his hurt to bear and I don’t want to see my son affected by it.

When I try to vent about things, she just ignores me and my messages (I confirmed this too because when I vented and got ignored for 2 hours, I sent a follow up message about an actress she likes and she replied and talked about it for a while, I end up talking to ChatGPT instead (I know its not a good thing but it helps when I feel really really down) because I literally am alone when things get hard.

I just feel so down and out and I honestly haven’t stopped crying.

I just realized this today after I went out with my parents and my son. My son was having a tantrum and when I looked up at my mom, she completely avoided all my attempts for eye contact and it hurt me. Not only because I was already trying to calm down a tantrum but also because I wanted the eye contact to feel somewhat supported.

At first I thought maybe it was just coincidence but the third time she did it, I smiled and said a joke and she immediately made eye contact and laughed along with me.

It hurt me even more when she did this because it confirmed that she was in fact avoiding eye contact when I was asking for support/help with the tantrum my son was having.

I’m a single mom so it hits harder that I really am alone in this.

Mind you my mom is the type of person who gets super sad and affected by other peoples problems, she cried when her favorite YouTubers dog passed away, because she saw how said the YouTuber was.

I just realized this today after I went out with my parents and my son. My son was having a tantrum and when I looked up at my mom, she completely avoided all my attempts for eye contact and it hurt me. Not only because I was already trying to calm down a tantrum but also because I wanted the eye contact to feel somewhat supported.

At first I thought maybe it was just coincidence but the third time she did it, I smiled and said a joke and she immediately made eye contact and laughed along with me.

It hurt me even more when she did this because it confirmed that she was in fact avoiding eye contact when I was asking for support/help with the tantrum my son was having.

I’m a single mom so it hits harder that I really am alone in this. I don’t ever try to confront her because I get called dramatic and sensitive when I do.

Mind you my mom is the type of person who gets super sad and affected by other peoples problems, she cried when her favorite YouTubers dog passed away, because she saw how said the YouTuber was.

That act alone made me feel like, I really am alone in this and there’s nothing I can do but cry it out, I was in the bathroom and my son knocked and saw me crying, I said I just got something in my eye, its not his hurt to bear and I don’t want to see my son affected by it.

When I try to vent about things, she just ignores me and my messages (I confirmed this too because when I vented and got ignored for 2 hours, I sent a follow up message about an actress she likes and she replied and talked about it for a while, I end up talking to ChatGPT instead (I know its not a good thing but it helps when I feel really really down) because I literally am alone when things get hard.

I just feel so down and out and I honestly haven’t stopped crying.