If we truly believe in equality, then relationships should not be built on one-sided expectations.
Why should only men be expected to approach first?
Why should only men be expected to plan dates, pull chairs, give flowers, text first, or constantly “prove” their love?
If pulling a chair is considered respect, then respect can go both ways.
If giving flowers is considered a sweet gesture, then either person can do it.
If effort is attractive, then both people should make effort.
Equality should not mean:
- traditional roles when convenient,
- modern equality when beneficial.
A healthy relationship is not “the man serves, the woman receives.”
It is two people appreciating, respecting, and caring for each other equally.
Men also like surprises.
Men also like compliments.
Men also want to feel wanted, valued, and chosen not just expected to perform endlessly.
Real equality is not about removing kindness.
It is about normalizing mutual kindness.