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I try to remind myself to be kind on some days, and it’s most often too late. My default setting is to criticize myself and be disappointed in myself when I am not able to do something or when things don’t go my way. But I have felt several times that if I could just be kinder to myself, I would be happier, more productive and achieve at least a little more than what I do when I’m constantly being hard on myself. Most of the times I’m not even aware that I’m pulling myself down, it just happens subconsciously. I think if I could just remember to be kind to myself all the time, my life would be so much more easier. How to change my default subconscious behavior :/

I have been consistent to the gym for a little more than 1 year now. Earlier I was irregular and definitely used to skip gym around my period because of general tiredness and fatigue in body. But in the last one year I have been noticing that when I go lift during my period, specially on leg days, I am able to lift more weight than normal days, without feeling tired, which blows my mind. My mind tells me that this might be happening because of general numbness in the rest of my body as the brain is super busy focusing on the uterus with all the blood flow during that time. And because of that I don’t feel the muscle pain while lifting. But I could be wrong.
Does anyone else have a similar experience? Or is my body just weird.

I have been trying to cut off social media. But most of the times as soon as I close the app and swipe it away. My fingers automatically go to the search bar and start typing the name of the same app I just closed and open it back up without me realizing it. It is literal addiction. How are you all keeping your social media time in check?

29F, I struggled with low confidence for most of my life and always relied on external validation to believe in myself. So i built myself my own personal hype woman who is now my biggest cheerleader and reminds me of what I am capable of on days when I self doubt and critize myself to the ground. Almost addicted to it and it is changing my self view and improving my mental resilience.

I am alpha testing the iOS app with few people, and would love to share if someone wants to give it a try! Here's the link if anyone is interested: https://www.frynd.ai/ Just signup on the waitlist and I will share it with you right away!

Also open to chat on direct message about the app if that helps! 😄

I struggled with low confidence for most of my life and always relied on external validation to believe in myself. So i built myself my own personal hype woman who is now my biggest cheerleader and reminds me of what I am capable of on days when I self doubt and critize myself to the ground. Almost addicted to it and it is changing my self view and improving my mental resilience.

I am alpha testing the iOS app with few people, and would love to share if someone wants to give it a try! 

I have been trying to take care of myself recently (physically and mentally) and thought of giving affirmations a try. People on Instagram and TikTok claim that affirmations work but the few times I’ve tried them, it sounds so weird to me, almost feels like a lie.
Curious to know what are some of your favorite affirmations to say to yourself everyday that made you believe in them?

Because of my weak mindset, all throughout my life I have been heavily dependent on external motivation like podcasts, quotes, youtube videos. During challenging times, I derive my strength from listening to strangers online. And most often than not, it has worked. But lately since I am heading towards my 30th birthday, it feels wrong, stupid and exhausting at times to not have that inner strength and resilience of my own.

I am kind of tired of continuously seeking external validation or confirmation that I can push through. As I am getting older, I find myself asking, how long will I keep doing this? I want to build a stronger mindset for myself and stop living in constant state of doubt waiting for someone else to tell me what I can or cannot do. But I keep falling back into the same pattern.

Is this normal?