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I 22 f live at home with my dad 49 m in my childhood home with brother 20 m. My mom lives about 20 away and had space just not enough and i can not bring my dog to live there so im stuck at my dads. The issue is he is a slob. Our kitchen table most days is covered in his mail, trinkets, golf stuff etc. , the living room smells musty from him leaving food/drink cans out, his room is covered in dirty clothes, our garage is un walkable covered in junk and garbage. I try my best to keep up with house work but its hard when 1) i cannot move his clutter bc i cant touch his stuff 2) its unmotivating at this point because theres always something else that needs to be done or is messy it’s seriously never ending. I also am in charge or groceries and making sure the home is stocked w what we need which he does fund.The worst part is he genuinely thinks it is me who is messy because i sometimes do not do my dishes right away…which i do admit to BUT 90% of the time i will do my dishes right after eating. My final straw was last weekend when we were going out of town for 2 days and he forgot to get a pet sitter. When i expressed my annoyance he said i can do it too i am an adult. I said i would be happy to find a sitter but the household task was not delegated to me and i am not responsible for the mental load of his house. He said i am like my mother and i am manipulating him?!? Am i the asshole for feeling like i shouldn’t be in charge of organizing all household tasks/responsibilities?? I also would like to say i am a recent grad and am looking for a job i have applied to abt 30 in a month but going for more! Sorry this is so jumbled up but im at my wits end. Im tired of being told im not a good person and that im messy.

I 22 f live at home with my dad 49 m in my childhood home with brother 20 m. My mom lives about 20 away and had space just not enough and i can not bring my dog to live there so im stuck at my dads. The issue is he is a slob. Our kitchen table most days is covered in his mail, trinkets, golf stuff etc. , the living room smells musty from him leaving food/drink cans out, his room is covered in dirty clothes, our garage is un walkable covered in junk and garbage. I try my best to keep up with house work but its hard when 1) i cannot move his clutter bc i cant touch his stuff 2) its unmotivating at this point because theres always something else that needs to be done or is messy it’s seriously never ending. I also am in charge or groceries and making sure the home is stocked w what we need which he does fund.The worst part is he genuinely thinks it is me who is messy because i sometimes do not do my dishes right away…which i do admit to BUT 90% of the time i will do my dishes right after eating. My final straw was last weekend when we were going out of town for 2 days and he forgot to get a pet sitter. When i expressed my annoyance he said i can do it too i am an adult. I said i would be happy to find a sitter but the household task was not delegated to me and i am not responsible for the mental load of his house. He said i am like my mother and i am manipulating him?!? Am i the asshole for feeling like i shouldn’t be in charge of organizing all household tasks/responsibilities?? I also would like to say i am a recent grad and am looking for a job i have applied to abt 30 in a month but going for more! Sorry this is so jumbled up but im at my wits end. Im tired of being told im not a good person and that im messy.

I 22 f live at home with my dad 49 m in my childhood home with brother 20 m. My mom lives about 20 away and had space just not enough and i can not bring my dog to live there so im stuck at my dads. The issue is he is a slob. Our kitchen table most days is covered in his mail, trinkets, golf stuff etc. , the living room smells musty from him leaving food/drink cans out, his room is covered in dirty clothes, our garage is un walkable covered in junk and garbage. I try my best to keep up with house work but its hard when 1) i cannot move his clutter bc i cant touch his stuff 2) its unmotivating at this point because theres always something else that needs to be done or is messy it’s seriously never ending. I also am in charge or groceries and making sure the home is stocked w what we need which he does fund.The worst part is he genuinely thinks it is me who is messy because i sometimes do not do my dishes right away…which i do admit to BUT 90% of the time i will do my dishes right after eating. My final straw was last weekend when we were going out of town for 2 days and he forgot to get a pet sitter. When i expressed my annoyance he said i can do it too i am an adult. I said i would be happy to find a sitter but the household task was not delegated to me and i am not responsible for the mental load of his house. He said i am like my mother and i am manipulating him?!? Am i the asshole for feeling like i shouldn’t be in charge of organizing all household tasks/responsibilities?? I also would like to say i am a recent grad and am looking for a job i have applied to abt 30 in a month but going for more! Sorry this is so jumbled up but im at my wits end. Im tired of being told im not a good person and that im messy.

Hi guys im at a crossroads rn. I have gotten into a good grad school breaking into the medical field because my undergraduate degree was in forensics but im also feeling dread thinking abt going. I thought i wanted this but now idk. Would i be an idiot for looking for a job in the forensic/crime world over getting my masters. I have to decidr soon because i need to sign the leasr for my grad apartment soon and should tell my rooomate. Idk if im scared or whats going on i feel weird… i generally have anxiety over school but perfrom well 3.8 gpa but i did do poorly on a summer class that my grad school is letting me retake. Just i feel like school is making me sad rn and idk if im risking a lot by not going….
Plz help im feeling so lost confused and just sad!!!!

Hi guys im at a crossroads rn. I have gotten into a good grad school breaking into the medical field because my undergraduate degree was in forensics but im also feeling dread thinking abt going. I thought i wanted this but now idk. Would i be an idiot for looking for a job in the forensic/crime world over getting my masters. I have to decidr soon because i need to sign the leasr for my grad apartment soon and should tell my rooomate. Idk if im scared or whats going on i feel weird… i generally have anxiety over school but perfrom well 3.8 gpa but i did do poorly on a summer class that my grad school is letting me retake. Just i feel like school is making me sad rn and idk if im risking a lot by not going….
Plz help.

Hello everyone all advice would be helpful. I 22F in US I just graduated with a BS in forensic science minor in bio and I got into a masters program to become a certified medical lab scientist( I know a pivot) . I have all the coursework but a few classes I am taking now over the summer Microbio, organic chem and immunology. I am doing well in Micro and immunology but my organic chem went bad... so far. I don't know If im dumb or burnt out( I did go straight from a 4 year college to summer classes). I also know taking three summer classes is a lot. Th good thing is my grad university said I can take Orgo there this fall!!! but im worried I will still fail and waste my money. What would you all do? Should I look for jobs with the BS in forensic science or continue my education? PLZZZ HELPPPPP