u/Anxious_Ad9786

I know this is something pretty cliche that a lot of people end up asking post breakup, but I honestly need to ask this if I want a chance to move on. A while ago, I got dumped by a girlfriend of 4 years. It was incredibly painful as I'm young, she was my first serious relationship, and I had believed she was the one(like I said this is pretty cliche, I'm not breaking any new ground here). We stayed in contact for about a month, realized our feelings weren't going to disappear if we were still in contact, and then went no contact for a period of 3 weeks with hopes of rebuilding a friendship after as we still wanted to be in each others lives. By the time we started talking again, I was genuinely getting ready to move on, work on myself, and open up to the possibility of trying again with someone new(not exactly looking for love, but being open to it again).

However, when we started talking again, I felt myself starting to "relapse". Not because I was still pining over her, but because I got the sense a part of her still wanted to be with me. It isnt exactly obvious, so I'll give a list of signs that she does want to be with me, and a list of things to make me think the opposite

Positive signs:

• One night when we were talking and getting vulnerable, she broke into tears and said she missed me. Later that night she said she loves me(I took it as a platonic type of love so not really a silver bullet), and when I said it back she asked "As a friend right?" in a somewhat hopeful tone and seemed disappointed when I answered yes. Do take my reading of her tone with a HUGE grain of salt though because I could just be hearing what I want to hear
• She has admitted that she's had a hard time adjusting to finding other people attractive
• Whenever we reminisce, she tends to get emotional which sometimes leads me to think she's still emotionally attached
• She once said she hopes things work out between us in the long run, but she specifically said "a long time from now". It seems like an orange flag to me, because it makes me feel like she just wants to explore other options
• We sometimes get pretty flirty when we talk

Negative signs:

• She acts hot and cold. One time she acknowledged it and told me its because acting cold to me makes it easier for her to move on, but I'm not sure if I believe that.
• Someone asked her out not long after the breakup when we were in no contact. She said she considered it, but she ultimately rejected him so again its kind of an orange flag
• While the relationship wasn't perfect, the majority of the problems we had were external and out of our control. I truly believe that if you took off even some of the external pressure that was on the relationship, it could have worked out.
• Obviously the biggest sign is that she hasn't asked to try again

This is really tough, because I'm not even sure if I should move on anymore. Right now my two options are

1. Commit to moving on, but risk permanently losing this relationship when theres still a chance it could work out.
2. Try to rekindle the relationship, but risk ultimately prolonging the heartbreak for no real reason

Any advice is welcome. Please help me out

About a week ago my 40 day old kitten started showing symptoms, so we took her to a vet and she was diagnosed with calicivirus, herpes and mycoplasma. She went on a few medications and was getting worse for a few days, then for 2 days she seemed to be feeling better as I noticed no more open mouth breathing and much more energy and playfulness. I started to get hopeful as I thought she was turning the corner. However the vet came for a follow up and noticed she was developing blisters in her mouth which make it difficult for her to eat, but she was fine that day.

My main concern is that as of yesterday and today she has barely been eating. She takes some small bites here and there but not nearly as much as she used to and not nearly enough. Today she hasn’t eaten at all, and to top it off these past few days she’s been incredibly tired and hasn’t played at all. I’m concerned her condition is deteriorating, should I take her inpatient for now or should I wait a few more days with her at home to see if she improves?

I’m at my breaking point. Im 18, I got this cat because I was already going through a rough time in my life and needed some emotional support.

She is 1-2 months old, and she’s really helped so far, I’ve only had her for about a week but I love her to death. It’s my first time with a pet so I didn’t realize she was showing symptoms or being sick. My friend came over and told me to get her checked up, I went to the vet and it turns out she has herpes, calicivirus, chlymydia and some bacteria. I’m fucking distraught. Is there any hope. I brought back medicine but I don’t know if it’s gonna work. I can’t look at her without crying

Is there anything I can do. I don’t know if she’ll make it. I don’t even know if I should fucking grieve

First let me just say: I am not looking for a rebound. Maybe that's what I'll end up finding, but I really do not want a casual relationship. I know I can't force a serious relationship, but I just want to have some realistic expectations moving forward.

I am 18 and just got out of my first serious relationship with that lasted almost 3 years. It happened 1.5 weeks ago and was amicable, we both said we still love each other but agreed that it wouldn't work out right now for some personal reasons. It's been very painful, I feel very alone and dejected, this was the same person who once made me feel like I was the most important person in the world and now that's gone and it feels like shit. Regardless, it was obvious we still had feelings for each other so I told her we should go no contact otherwise it would prolong the pain.

I still have so much love to give. I know its dumb and immature, but I just want someone I can imagine a future with, someone to make me feel safe and cared about. The default advice is to learn to feel those things single, but I genuinely just do not want to. I hate falling asleep without a smile on my face, I hate starting my day without a loving text to wake up to. My last relationship which was not nearly as serious was 3 months long, but even then I hurt for 6 months and although I was over it the hurt didn't fully stop until I met my now ex(18F).

I feel like I'm someone who just functions better in a relationship, and as I said I still have so much love to give. I don't want to rush anything, but i am really scared. How long will it be till I meet someone who I like as much as I like her? I dont want to be alone for years. How can any future relationship even make me feel safe? You may scoff because we're so young, but we genuinely wanted to be lifelong partners and up until recently believed it would happen. If a relationship which we once thought was so secure it would last a whole lifetime could fall apart, how can i trust any future relationship?

First let me just say: I am not looking for a rebound. Maybe that's what I'll end up finding, but I really do not want a casual relationship. I know I can't force a serious relationship, but I just want to have some realistic expectations moving forward.

I am 18 and just got out of my first serious relationship that lasted almost 3 years. It happened 1.5 weeks ago and was amicable, we both said we still love each other but agreed that it wouldn't work out right now for some personal reasons. It's been very painful, I feel very alone and dejected, this was the same person who once made me feel like I was the most important person in the world and now that's gone and it feels like shit. Regardless, it was obvious we still had feelings for each other so I told her we should go no contact otherwise it would prolong the pain.

I still have so much love to give. I know its dumb and immature, but I just want someone I can imagine a future with, someone to make me feel safe and cared about. The default advice is to learn to feel those things single, but I genuinely just do not want to. I hate falling asleep without a smile on my face, I hate starting my day without a loving text to wake up to. My last relationship which was not nearly as serious was 3 months long, but even then I hurt for 6 months and although I was over it the hurt didn't fully stop until I met my now ex.

I feel like I'm someone who just functions better in a relationship, and as I said I still have so much love to give. I don't want to rush anything, but i am really scared. How long will it be till I meet someone who I like as much as I like her? I dont want to be alone for years. How can any future relationship even make me feel safe? You may scoff because we're so young, but we genuinely wanted to be lifelong partners and up until recently believed it would happen. If a relationship which we once thought was so secure it would last a whole lifetime could fall apart, how can i trust any future relationship?