u/ApartmentOld234

I put the wrong DOB in the app to check in. Am I screwed? Ryan air is not responding. Boarding in 6hrs

Flying into Bari, IT tomorrow and really want to stay near beaches preferably sandy (or swimmable). Where would you recommend to stay? Would you go beyond Bari to Monopoli? I'm getting there at around 12am. Staying 23.5-27.5.

Flying into Bari, IT tomorrow and really want to stay near beaches preferably sandy (or swimmable). Where would you recommend to stay? Would you go beyond Bari to Monopoli? I'm getting there at around 12am. Staying 23.5-27.5.

Při nástupu do autobusu jsem pozdravila a slušně informovala řidiče, že si přeju koupit jízdenku kartou do určité stanice (neukamenujte mě za to, že nemám lítačku loll prostě touhle trasou tak často nejezdím)

Řidič na můj dotaz nereagoval a chvíli mlčel, proto jsem v domnění, že je platební terminál aktivní, přiložila kartu k zařízení.

Začal velmi hlasitě a hrubě křičet. Křičel, že „tahle generace je hrozná a moc rychlá, ať si je strčíme někam, kdo má rozumět kartám“ a kritizoval tak docela všechno.

Byl extrémně naštvaný, tak se prudce rozjel v okamžiku, kdy jsem ještě čekala na to, až mi terminál vytiskne lístek. V důsledku toho jsem ztratila rovnováhu a musela se chytit terminálu a nějakého zábradlí, co tam bylo.

Když jsem postoupila dále do autobusu tak ještě pořád pokračoval ve křičení, tak jsem si nandala sluchátka a sedla si dozadu lol.

Co jsem udělala špatně? Je tohle jednání normální?🙈 Nechali byste to tak být?

Long story short: my therapist has no boundaries. And it's causing insane attachment issues.

I’ve been seeing a “therapist” for about 3 months. Its no longer healthy for me but I'm very attached. I was mentally fine before therapy and now a couple months in I'm a useless mentally broken zombie.

Here is what therapy looks like:

1. There was never any intake paperwork, consent forms, or formal agreement. There is nothing on paper. Not one signature.

2. No clear payment system was ever discussed (I still don’t know how it’s officially handled) and I hope I don't owe him hundreds or thousands of Euros by now. But I assume insurance he mumbled something about it the first session but tbh I have no clue.

3. No cancellation policy: he tells me I can text him same day if I don’t want to come

4. Sessions are supposed to be 35-40mins (he said this during the first session) but often go 80-100mins - which I don't mind, but I feel bad for him.

5. He doesn’t give advice or structure the sessions. It goes like: I have a problem - I talk about it to him - he doesn't give advice so on the spot I give it to myself - and he nods that the advice I gave myself is good.

6. There is no method or treatment plan

7. I actually feel SO much worse over time, not better. After sessions I feel fine, but over time I don't. Due to being attached and I don't even know why.

8. He's not a therapist, just calls himself that. I think he's a businessman/salesperson in his other job. But in Germany (Dresden - where this is taking place), anyone can basically call themselves a therapist. So it's advertised as therapy, but it's actually not.

Also: the biggest problem: Recently he's started scheduling sessions further apart -> 4-6 weeks. This has been triggering a pretty intense emotional reaction in me (panic/crying/feeling abandoned), and I realized how dependent I’ve become on the sessions emotionally, even though all they do is make me worse.

Has anyone seen anything like this before? Is this normal in any therapeutic approach, or is this actually a red flag situation?

It's taking place in Dresden. I don't actually live in Germany, I commute from a close by neighboring country, so maybe I'm just not used to the German culture (but friends I've talked to from Germany say this is not normal here).

Long story short: my therapist has no boundaries. And it's causing insane attachment issues.

I’ve been seeing a “therapist” for about 3 months. Its no longer healthy for me but I'm very attached. I was mentally fine before therapy and now a couple months in I'm a useless mentally broken zombie.

Here is what therapy looks like:

1. There was never any intake paperwork, consent forms, or formal agreement. There is nothing on paper. Not one signature.

2. No clear payment system was ever discussed (I still don’t know how it’s officially handled) and I hope I don't owe him hundreds or thousands of Euros by now. But I assume insurance he mumbled something about it the first session but tbh I have no clue.

3. No cancellation policy: he tells me I can text him same day if I don’t want to come

4. Sessions are supposed to be 35-40mins (he said this during the first session) but often go 80-100mins - which I don't mind, but I feel bad for him.

5. He doesn’t give advice or structure the sessions. It goes like: I have a problem - I talk about it to him - he doesn't give advice so on the spot I give it to myself - and he nods that the advice I gave myself is good.

6. There is no method or treatment plan

7. I actually feel SO much worse over time, not better. After sessions I feel fine, but over time I don't. Due to being attached and I don't even know why.

8. He's not a therapist, just calls himself that. I think he's a businessman/salesperson in his other job. But in Germany (Dresden - where this is taking place), anyone can basically call themselves a therapist. So it's advertised as therapy, but it's actually not.

Also: the biggest problem: Recently he's started scheduling sessions further apart -> 4-6 weeks. This has been triggering a pretty intense emotional reaction in me (panic/crying/feeling abandoned), and I realized how dependent I’ve become on the sessions emotionally, even though all they do is make me worse.

Has anyone seen anything like this before? Is this normal in any therapeutic approach, or is this actually a red flag situation?

It's taking place in Dresden. I don't actually live in Germany, I commute from a close by neighboring country, so maybe I'm just not used to the German culture (but friends I've talked to from Germany say this is not normal here).

Long story short: my therapist has no boundaries. And it's causing insane attachment issues.

I’ve been seeing a “therapist” for about 3 months. Its no longer healthy for me but I'm very attached. I was mentally fine before therapy and now a couple months in I'm a useless mentally broken zombie.

Here is what therapy looks like:

1. There was never any intake paperwork, consent forms, or formal agreement. There is nothing on paper. Not one signature.

2. No clear payment system was ever discussed (I still don’t know how it’s officially handled) and I hope I don't owe him hundreds or thousands of Euros by now. But I assume insurance he mumbled something about it the first session but tbh I have no clue.

3. No cancellation policy: he tells me I can text him same day if I don’t want to come

4. Sessions are supposed to be 35-40mins (he said this during the first session) but often go 80-100mins - which I don't mind, but I feel bad for him.

5. He doesn’t give advice or structure the sessions. It goes like: I have a problem - I talk about it to him - he doesn't give advice so on the spot I give it to myself - and he nods that the advice I gave myself is good.

6. There is no method or treatment plan

7. I actually feel SO much worse over time, not better. After sessions I feel fine, but over time I don't. Due to being attached and I don't even know why.

8. He's not a therapist, just calls himself that. I think he's a businessman/salesperson in his other job. But in Germany (Dresden - where this is taking place), anyone can basically call themselves a therapist. So it's advertised as therapy, but it's actually not.

Also: the biggest problem: Recently he's started scheduling sessions further apart -> 4-6 weeks. This has been triggering a pretty intense emotional reaction in me (panic/crying/feeling abandoned), and I realized how dependent I’ve become on the sessions emotionally, even though all they do is make me worse.

Has anyone seen anything like this before? Is this normal in any therapeutic approach, or is this actually a red flag situation?

It's taking place in Dresden. I don't actually live in Germany, I commute from a close by neighboring country, so maybe I'm just not used to the German culture (but friends I've talked to from Germany say this is not normal here).