u/AristoDeity

I’m trying to find dash cam footage of the accident taking place, or ring camera footage, or even just witnesses. Please anything helps <3 happened Friday July 17th around 2:30-4, most likely around 2:40 ish. The other person is dodging insurance and they’re telling me I need video proof or witness proof now. It was right in between prairie high school and the brush prairie cemetery, if anyone knows anyone with a dashcam who commutes through the area during those times please send them this post.

I messed up bad these past few years and didn’t even think about my freckles when choosing skin care. They’ve faded quite a bit, whereas they used to be so dark and so noticeable. I love my freckles and feel like they give me a bit of a “wildling” look. I have pretty rare genetics in general, and want to keep that look! What products do you guys use without hurting your freckles/keeping them dark?
As of now I’ve been using laneige water bank moisturizer, and it’s a safe option, but need new serums and sunscreen in specific. :(
Please help! I want my freckles back but don’t want to damage my skin with the sun to get them back!!!

I’m looking for any dashcam footage anyone may have gotten leading up to this, I had a young man in a black Nissan abruptly merge in front of me without using his turning signal, while everyone was actively slowing down and getting ready to harshly brake. He took away the following distance I originally had and I collided into the back of him since I no longer had time to brake, and he didn’t give me time to create space by not initiating a signal. I can’t be held at fault for this especially when I didn’t cause the accident, and want to fully solidify my case.
(The photos already show it wasn’t a head on rear end, but a side swipe on my passenger side as I was in the left lane and he was partially still in the right lane)

I do agency care but have one client that I see fulltime. They have a whole group of us that come in at different times, but I basically do most of everything. I’ve become super burnt out and recently realized that the work I’m doing is physically damaging my body since I’m not big enough to work with the person I’ve been assigned. I was only assigned people who outweigh me by 3-4 times.
I feel terrible. Like I know the only way to fix this is to leave, and I have a meeting with a company I’ve been dreaming of working for, for like 2-4 years now. I feel terrible about it and don’t know how to go about it if I get the job offer.
The first thing I think is that I really want to accept it and be done with caregiving, it’s not as organized as I originally thought it would be, and it’s very difficult. The next thing I think is where that leaves the person I’m caring for, because it isn’t easy to find coverage and they’ve spent so long hopping between caregivers to find consistent people.
Idk I don’t want to leave them but I do.
The issue is that I’m the only person they trust to get things done right and quick, it’s an issue if I stay and an issue if I leave. If i stay, I’m the only one doing everything, but if I leave, who else will be doing that?
How did others manage this feeling, what did they do?

Something that started my issues was wanting to be healthier, my mom always told me about the foods I’m eating and warned me of weight etc.
For most of my life I’ve had a weird relationship with food, either not wanting to eat it because it’s unhealthy, or because I remember gagging on that food as a kid and being forced to finish it despite it not sitting right with me etc.
Recently I started researching hard about my body, and how food is fueling it/what foods are doing what for me and I’ve never been more adventurous food wise, or more willing to eat an abundant amount.
4 years ago I’d make like an egg or two in the morning - maybe - and now I’m making full scale breakfasts again and able to eat the entire thing. All because I started researching and instead of seeing a piece of bacon as an unhealthy food, I just see it as a healthy addition to a diet in moderation, along with most other foods I used to avoid.
There was a point where I was really only eating bread, grains, fruits and veggies, and if I ate meat it was a very small amount as to not offend whoever cooked it, but now instead of seeing the fatty parts of the meat and the cartridge when someone offers, I see it for its protein and energy.
Idk, and I don’t really consider myself as someone who has an intense ED - more like Arfid with a mix of no appetite, but this has helped me so much and I’ve been consistently hitting over 50-60 grams of protein daily now. It took like a month or two of reminding myself that I need this for my body, and now these things actually sit right with me. I hope this helps someone else.
Just research it all. If I’m about to eat a chicken breast and I’m feeling iffy about it, I’ll look up “nutritional content and health benefits of chicken breast,” and it automatically sounds better to me. same thing with most any other foods.

I feel so petty for even asking this but ever since I joined the work force (it’s only been like 10 years) I’ve noticed I’ve constantly been given more than the job description entails, and more than my coworkers, despite having the same title, same duties, and same pay. When I’ve asked for raises at previous jobs considering they give me more work, they decline this. So I try to stop doing so much work, and more evenly match everyone else’s pace. Folks tend to slow down even more then, and we end up needing to stay for mandatory overtime when I do this.
I’ve swapped jobs trying to not be such a strong worker, after noticing there’s no actual benefit of it, and if anything it’s not good to do because you’ll get used and abused and burnt out, but I keep running into the same thing. Most recently I became a caregiver and I’m like the only one doing anything outside of the bare minimum, and constantly being asked to do more/basically held responsible when things don’t happen despite being on an entire team of people. Am I paid more? No.
I’m trying to find out how people do it, like how do you get a job and guarantee you won’t end up being the person who makes the same as everyone else but carries the workload on your shoulders (even in management’s eyes)?
Now that I realized there isn’t any benefit to working hard, I kind of just want to be one of those people who comes in, diddles their thumbs, gets paid, and leaves. But how do I do it without being pushed into another role, how do you consistently underperform in order to not be given additional work with zero benefit?

I work with a client who has multiple caregivers full-time and they recently lost the only other caregiver that gave a damn and did a good job. Now I’m absorbing all of this caregivers duties, on top of my own, while absorbing the other main caregivers duties already. (We all should have the same duties, but not everyone does them??)
I wake up every morning wanting to call out, wanting to go back to sleep, and wanting to forget that I even have a job. Anytime I think about my job I feel sick. I’ve been consistently constipated from stress and have had a constant migraine for the past 2 weeks since this other caregiver has left.

I don’t know if it’s just the client/current work load, or if I should leave caregiving as a whole. Has anyone else been in a similar situation and how did you fix it?

-I love the client to death, I just don’t love how much constant pain I’m in and the constant fatigue/brain fog that’s coming with being their main person, when they should have multiple people absorbing equal parts to make the workload doable, when we’re constantly moving 3x our weight.-

Basically I’m coming to realize conversation is becoming very difficult with my client that I’ve seen fulltime for 6-8 months now. I want to be there to listen and chat, but I just have no energy for it anymore and am beginning to feel those electric shocks through my body telling me I can’t do this anymore (like fight or flight shocks, but I have to stay professional and ignore them which is not comfy at all)

I love them, and do love this job because I can help people in a way that really matters - I’m thinking I need to add other clients and cut my time down with them so they aren’t my ONLY person anymore. The issue with this is:
1.) they save most/all tasks for me. They recently lost the only other good caregiver they had and now have 1 very iffy caregiver taking on the other days full-time. If I leave, they will likely not be receiving consistent care in areas they need .
2.) I can’t fathom doing anything more “gross” or unsanitary than I’m doing now, and am having crippling anxiety surrounding being matched with other clients after seeing the cases these agencies accept.

Is this even a good position for me anymore? I’m great at what I do, like the tasks and the hygiene care, but I’m beginning to not enjoy the social aspect especially as I see people beginning to lose cognitive ability. It’s not just not enjoying it but it’s becoming a bit agonizing and I’m unsure if I’m fit for this type of work. I don’t snap or anything or decline care like I read about some doing, but I just don’t really want to be there the entire time and am staring the clock down even harder than I did in previous jobs.

I’m unsure where else to go from here however, and everyone is telling me “this is the best job you’ve had,” which is totally true, but I want to be able to give my 100 in jobs and lately it feels like giving my 100 physically and mentally hurts me. Idk what to do.

In other in home caregiver experiences, what are some of the most challenging/least sanitary cases you’ve been assigned?

In every team setting dude. Like 3 people will be the folks management talks to abt what has to happen, and 4 ppl will be not doing anything, while management asks 1 person to actually do it and make sure it happens.
In other situations, imagine a whole team of people, everyone should be “a person” on that team, no one should be “the person” right? or if someone is “the person” it’s because everyone is “the person” for something different, but no, here I am being “the person” for all the actual work, while others are just people who come in and do the bare minimum/sit on their phones. The whole time everyone’s asking me why X, Y, or Z aren’t done, saying I’m slacking, when there is an ENTIRE team of people meant to be doing the same thing. My back hurts, my brain hurts, I just wish I was better at doing the bare minimum and being rewarded for barely doing shit, instead of being given more work since I do so much. Anyways. Showed up today to see that nothing that needed to be done had been done, multiple things had been left, and it’s my responsibility to fix everything that happened despite it being very physical work that can quite literally break someone’s body if it’s all placed on them.