Hey guys , me , my sister and my friends (a couple and another bachelor) so a total of 5 people want to get a 2 BHK monthly rental option since the prices in the hotel apartments are gonna increase like crazy. We grew up from bedspaces to lofts to partitions to private rooms and now we think we cannot go back to shared accommodation. So if anyone can help with this itll be really helpful
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Two months ago, my relationship ended over text. There wasn't much of a conversation or any real closure. I later called her, and she apologized, but that was it. I told her calmly that ending things that way was hurtful and that I didn't deserve it.
After that blocked her EVERYWHERE. IN NO CANTACT FOR 2 MONTHS.
Since then, I've started therapy through BetterHelp because I don't want this experience to define me. The breakup has left me with really low self-esteem, constant self-doubt, and a lot more anger than I used to have. I catch myself questioning my worth and replaying everything over and over.
For those of you who have gone through something similar and benefited from therapy, how did you navigate it?
- What were the biggest issues you worked on first?
- Did you focus on the breakup itself, your attachment style, your self-esteem, or something else?
- Were there specific questions or exercises that helped?
- How did you deal with the anger without suppressing it?
- At what point did you start feeling like yourself again?
I'm not looking for ways to get my ex back. I want to use therapy as effectively as I can so I come out of this healthier instead of carrying these issues into future relationships.
I'd really appreciate hearing what actually helped you, especially if you've been through a similar kind of breakup.
Guys, I'm drunk off my balls and I really need support right now. I really want to text her and say that it's okay. I know what I was before you and I know what I am after you and I really need to work on myself to be the person who respects me. I know it won't make sense to you guys. I'm f****** drunk. And I am tripping balls, but I want to let her know that not everything was her fault. I did this to myself, please. Just text me ASAP.
I am so alone and I have a lot of friends around me and I feel like I'm drowning, and she was the only one who could save me, but today. I am me and I feel like only I can save me
Hey guys just need clarity and help?
Uh, so I was working in this real estate company last year i know everything was good.Me and my team were performing well, and suddenly he stopped funding.Our leads or made us do cold calling and stuff like that.
Fast forward to January a lot of my teammates had left because of fake promises of visa even after we closed deals
He used to put a lot of mental pressure on me since I was working as a sales manager.Even the ed sheer was a reference of mine.He gave her the visa because he thought he was bound to
After everyone left, it was just me heard and the boss and we started running the company from scratch yet he was giving a lot of mental stress. So when the war situation started, I told him I'm going to take a leave and go back to India and then come back, he did not pay me a couple of months of salaries, and I was fine with it, he said he would give it later. We also close a deal from a reference of the atchal front of mine, who he said he would give a visa to, but never did, and he gave her advance commission, saying that he would cut it out of her commission.
So when the whole war situation started, he decided to let everyone work from home and one day.He suddenly closes the company, saying that they will restart.Once everything is okay he will resume. , he used to take back money from the videographer.Five hundred deducted every month, and he used to manipulate wps by putting 30 aed and he had bragged about it as well, because he would pay half salaries, and he would also ask back money after putting in the entire amount.
He then suddenly tells us that he will not be giving us the commission amount and starts accusing us of closing deals outside with no proof and he will be not giving money, and he cursed us on call and everything.So after that, the edge of end of mine put a more case on him.He has forged her signature into a new contract, which says the w p s will be paid 100 AED..
HE WAS NOT GIVING COMMISSIONS, HE WAS MANIPULATING WPS AND HE FORGED HER SIGNATURE ON A NEW MODIFIED CONTRACT, WHICH SHE HAS NEVER SIGNED.
SO WHEN I QUESTIONED HIM, HE STARTED REMOVING ME FROM ALL GROUPS, BUT FIRST HE CURSED ME ON CALL WHEN HE WAS MOVING ME FROM ALL THE DEVELOPER GROUPS I STARTED PUTTING UP MESSAGE SAYING
"...... .. IS COMMITING FRAUD. HE HAS 3 CASES ON HIM HE DOESNT CARE ABOUT THE GOVT HE IS DOING WPS SCAM"
Just to warn people..
Now him and his office boy are threatening me, saying that they will put a case on me, and they will not make it easy for me to live.. please help
Kind of a weird situation. Saw my ex on LinkedIn. She looked good. Im at work and a bit spiralled.. almost clicked the unblock button on WhatsApp.
But then I stopped. I came Here to this sub but whilst I was searching for it ,
I saw a sub for avoidant attachments..
Clicked on top posts
Its majorly glorifying how cool they are for being by themselves.
Hey I know personalities and preferences are subjective..
But does morality also change when clearly you hurt other people with your behavior. Im not here to blame
I genuinely want to understand.
The things that pricked me
Anxious are MEAN towards them
THEY WOULD LOVE TO BE WITH ANOTHER AVOIDANT
Criminalising asking for basic human decency
Accusation of controlling people through love ?
Guys I live in tecom and we have an all inclusive offer of 3k for a month in a good hotel all inclusive parking cleaning gym pool laundry.
But they said it's only till sept..
Can you guys tell me how much will it increase to because I have to check if my salary would be able to sustain the hotel guys and agents are of no help saying we don't know we don't know..
Please suggest.
She broke up with me twenty five times over the last year.She came out of her eight year relationship with another avoidant, and I came into her life like a breath of fresh air , showed her how life is meant to be lived gave her everything that she needed.And she still found reasons to leave.
I went to therapy for issues because I couldn't get her to understand it. It would make me hit myself when we had a breakdown fight
And that made her scared I did everything to become better.
She came back to me a couple of times in a very short period of time . Sometimes days or weeks..
After about a year, we decided that we will give this a real try.And she promised me everything that she would change.She would work on herself and would never leave me.
We work in dubai, and she went back to india.For work reasons, because of the war situation going on here and job security.
She did not want to talk over the phone every day and I learned to do that. I am an anxious attachment style person.
I learned to love her.But the day before I came back to dubai, I told her I am coming back.And this time, I want to work from the scratch and build something for myself.And I gave her the opportunity to end it, she cried and said she will not finish this, and she will work.And she will come back to dubai, after six months after sorting everything out with her old parents and finishing some loose ends.
It's been a week after I came back and she sends me a text at 2 a m in the night saying she can't be selfish and hold me back and I deserve someone better who can help me achieve my dreams rather than someone who is constantly unsure about me.
I told my parents my friends I made her my world.
Her? She told no one she never made the relationship official.Other than the friends we made in dubai.Nobody in her personal world knew about me.
I called her after the text. And I asked her just one thing. If you were in my place, what would you do? I have no money. I have been looking for a job. I am all alone trying to restart my life.And you're leaving me at rock bottom. And I look at my friends who have been seeing me and her for the last year.Everything reminds me of her where she is in an environment where nothing reminds her of me..
She said she is unsure about everything in her life.She is twenty eight years old, two years older than me.And she says, she still hasn't figured everything out ..well, neither have I.
She says she has no answers or what advice she would give me even as a friend to do something. Or even imagine herself in my shoes and tell me what to do. All I got back was." I'm sorry"
well i'm sorry.It's just not good enough.
Here , guys , i'm ruling some stuff from shillong right now
getting high from the last 3 days.And I understand for most of you , you guys get high almost every day , so this won't make much of a difference , but if you guys haven't yet trip to across the spiderverse please do.It's one of the most trippy movies you can find also, if you want to use your brain a little bit, just try the man from Earth.Excellent movie recommendations.If you are tripping the colour gradient in across the spiderverse and the deep thinking in man from earth gets me really trippin.
If You have a particular youtube video all movies that can help me with my trip right now. it would be very helpful