years of bullying has ruined self-esteem

years of bullying has ruined self-esteem

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I was constantly called names growing up for the way I looked. There were these guys who went to high school with me who constantly said that I’m ugly and made me post about myself on social media. When I started dating as an adult, the guy I dated would always rub other women in my face and tell me I would never commit to me and ignore me all the time.

I just feel super depressed about the way that I look. I’ve gotten plastic surgery to try to feel better, but I feel like I’ll always be ugly. Sometimes people find me attractive, but I think that they’re just pitying me or just trying to say something to make me feel better.

How do you improve yourself, even to know if people are actually giving you genuine compliments or just lying to you?

u/Aromatic-Fortune8019 — 2 days ago

has anyone worked during state survey? What is it like?

State is coming to the nursing home. I soon and I’m really nervous. I used to work at an assisted living facility for a long time, but I worked from 3 PM to 11 PM, which was a specific complaint, and I never stayed that long because my facility has a history of many falls. The administrator said they might stay during my shift. I still work 3 PM to 11. I understand you should do everything by the book and know about policies, but I know what it’s like when they actually follow you and how strict they are.

i’m some of the CNAs have told me nurses have gotten fired during past surveys because they started passing meds too early or because of things the state wrote them up about

what are some tips and tricks for surviving state survey?

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u/Aromatic-Fortune8019 — 5 days ago

What are reasons you’ve seen someone be bullied at work?

Was it the way they looked or their personality, or were the people jealous of people who get bullied at work or become targets of bullying

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u/Aromatic-Fortune8019 — 5 days ago

what makes people be singled out at work?

i’ve started a new job and I feel like I don’t have any support from management and they’re very cold for me. I’ve been written up for petty reasons and I feel very unmotivated to go into i’m a new grad nurse and I feel that II’ve had no guidance from management, and I feel singled out compared to other people who make mistakes but get written up. I’m nice, but I’m more of a reserved person, and I don’t know if that rubs people the wrong way.

work as a for five and I never gotten written up so much at any job. I just don’t understand what their problem is with and they’re constantly short staffed to.. what are the reasons you’ve seen people get singled out at work or treated unfairly compared to other coworkers.

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u/Aromatic-Fortune8019 — 5 days ago

what makes people be singled out at work?

i’ve started a new job and I feel like I don’t have any support from management and they’re very cold for me. I’ve been written up for petty reasons and I feel very unmotivated to go into i’m a new grad nurse and I feel that II’ve had no guidance from management, and I feel singled out compared to other people who make mistakes but get written up. I’m nice, but I’m more of a reserved person, and I don’t know if that rubs people the wrong way.

work as a for five and I never gotten written up so much at any job. I just don’t understand what their problem is with and they’re constantly short staffed to.. what are the reasons you’ve seen people get singled out at work or treated unfairly compared to other coworkers.

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u/Aromatic-Fortune8019 — 5 days ago

AITAH: for wanting to quit with no notice

So I’m working as a nurse in a nursing home. It’s my first drop out of school, and I’ve only worked there for two months, and I only had four days of orientation. I feel that what I do is never enough for one of my assignments. I’ll have 40 patients, 10 of whom need insulin. I work the 3-to-11 shift, so I have to do two blood sugar checks. Almost all patients are on blood pressure medication, so I have to check all of them.

There’s also a huge amount of charting because sometimes patients are on 72-hour monitoring for skin, tears, or changes in behavior, or we have to do a bunch of stuff for Medicare. The survey is coming soon, and the audited people are constantly on our ass for things that didn’t get charted, but then management gets mad at us if we stay overtime to chart. It’s not fair because during the 3 to 11 shift, there are often not enough nurses, so we constantly have to do 40 patients; sometimes we have four nurses, so it’s only 30, but still. management has also given me ups because two patients were fighting and I but then they stopped fighting, but I guess I didn’t separate the it’s my fault.

I’m starting to feel burnt out because I feel I'm trying really hard. I don’t take my lunch breaks often, but it’s still never enough, and I miss something in the charting, and they get angry with me. I tried to provide good care to all my patients, but it feels impossible, and I feel really depressed. I have seven years of experience working as a CNA, so I understand the workflow of these types of places, but still.

I don’t know what I can do to manage burnout because I just feel depressed and sad going into work. Honestly, I like working the weekends because management isn’t there. Also, some of the patients have behavioral issues, so they’ll constantly be nagging me to give their medication right away while I’m doing blood sugar checks. And they always have an attitude towards me like I’m a bad nurse or something, even though I've been honest that I’m a new grad and I’m trying really hard to learn.

Has anyone else experienced burnout at work? How have you handled burnout? am I the asshole because I'm planning to quit my job without?

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u/Aromatic-Fortune8019 — 6 days ago

How to deal with burnout from a job?

So I’m working as a nurse in a nursing home. It’s my first drop out of school, and I’ve only worked there for two months, and I only had four days of orientation. I feel that what I do is never enough for one of my assignments. I’ll have 40 patients, 10 of whom need insulin. I work the 3-to-11 shift, so I have to do two blood sugar checks. Almost all patients are on blood pressure medication, so I have to check all of them.

There’s also a huge amount of charting because sometimes patients are on 72-hour monitoring for skin, tears, or changes in behavior, or we have to do a bunch of stuff for Medicare. The survey is coming soon, and the audited people are constantly on our ass for things that didn’t get charted, but then management gets mad at us if we stay overtime to chart. It’s not fair because during the 3 to 11 shift, there are often not enough nurses, so we constantly have to do 40 patients; sometimes we have four nurses, so it’s only 30, but still. management has also given me ups because two patients were fighting and I but then they stopped fighting, but I guess I didn’t separate the it’s my fault.

I’m starting to feel burnt out because I feel I'm trying really hard. I don’t take my lunch breaks often, but it’s still never enough, and I miss something in the charting, and they get angry with me. I tried to provide good care to all my patients, but it feels impossible, and I feel really depressed. I have seven years of experience working as a CNA, so I understand the workflow of these types of places, but still.

I don’t know what I can do to manage burnout because I just feel depressed and sad going into work. Honestly, I like working the weekends because management isn’t there. Also, some of the patients have behavioral issues, so they’ll constantly be nagging me to give their medication right away while I’m doing blood sugar checks. And they always have an attitude towards me like I’m a bad nurse or something, even though I've been honest that I’m a new grad and I’m trying really hard to learn.

Has anyone else experienced burnout at work? How have you handled burnout?

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u/Aromatic-Fortune8019 — 6 days ago

does anyone know why nursing leaders are so catty?

Where I work, the Director of Nursing at a nursing home is very rude to nurses. She tries to come in with a no-BS attitude, and if you respect her, she respects you back, but she makes rude, passive-aggressive comments all the time. We’re constantly short-staffed and have a ratio of one nurse to 40 patients. So a lot of nurses stay overtime, and she said the nurses do nothing all day and that’s why they’re staying late.

She also humiliates people if they don’t do something correctly and uses camera footage that they have throughout the facility and shows them like they’re a bad child. She gives petty ups, and the nursing staff always laughs in their office when we’re constantly trying to act like we’re lucky to have this job and that they’re doing us a favor, even though nurses are constantly quitting.she sends constant long-winded text outside of hours to everyone about policies multiple days a week.

Other places I've worked have treated me like a child; obviously, management hasn’t been trained in retail hospitality, but it was a lot better than this. I really don’t understand where the attitude comes from. Does anyone have experience with this?

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u/Aromatic-Fortune8019 — 20 days ago

How do you handle a new manager, constantly writing people up?

So I work at a nursing home for patients with severe dementia. only worked there for two months, and I am a new nurse. The problem is that we are constantly short-staffed. Usually we have two, and then for 120 patients, but a lot of days we only have three. We have to pass medication to 40 patients instead of 30. Our work constantly gets mad at us for staying overtime because we’re trying to finish all their charting, but with 40 patients, it's impossible to finish that in the amount of time.

They constantly gossip that we’re lazy and don’t do anything, even though we’re on the floor all day, and some of us don’t even take our lunch breaks. We clock in and out, but we keep working. I like my coworkers a lot. They’re all cool, and we work together well, and they’re very nice and helpful. But recently we got a new Director of Nursing, and she’s constantly trying to write people up. She wrote four people up because the patient fell, and they went to get gloves so that they could assess the patient, and she was mad that they didn’t stay with the patient completely before they did their assessment, even though they went to get gloves and a blood pressure cuff.

Recently, the same thing happened where we were only three Lvn's, so I stayed downstairs when they were taking patients up after dinner to make sure no one fell. One of the patients fell, and I told the Cna‘s we need to call the RN, but they didn’t listen to me and put the patient back in their chair. I went to my medication, which was only like 10 feet away, to put away the medication that was on top and get my blood pressure cuff. I got written up because I didn’t stay with the patient before I did my assessment, but I went to get my blood pressure cuff so I could assess them. She showed me the camera footage like I was a child and to show me what I did wrong, and it’s like you don’t need to be doing all of this.

I was really upset and just crying. I’ve never been treated this way at a job. I worked as a CNA for years and never gotten written up because I really do work hard. I show up early. I never call out. I try to work with my coworkers. I’ve never been rude to patients, and even if I’m not friends with someone at work, I try to help them out and be really nice to them. I don’t understand why the manager is acting this way when we’re constantly short-staffed, and she’s only been there three weeks.

It’s also irritating that she made a group where she constantly sends reminders about things we shouldn’t be doing, like we don’t need to be constantly texted about.

Have any of you dealt with this? How do you feel about this type of situation?

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u/Aromatic-Fortune8019 — 22 days ago