u/Asleep_Cherry_7169

I'm one of those kids who weren't allowed to eat from people's homes even when visiting and I'm sure that I'm not the only one here. Now that I'm in uni I find it weird(just not used to seeing it) for people to eat nshima with their hands.

Just some more context, I come from a family who eats nshima with a Fork and Knife 🍽.

Could you guys shed some more light on this.

I was born in Zambia and left the country a few years after and spent some years in Asia then came back to Zambia. Ever since we came back I've failed to understand the love for nshima, other people will say "it's just the way you cook at your home" but thats not true, I've tried nshima from a lot of places, functions, family events, weddings and different provinces but still don't see why people love it. A lot of people have openly said its not nice but due to heritage and culture they'll just eat it.

There have also been a lot of studies and research done that shows that Nshima can cause/worsen diabetes and blood sugar problems.

Despite all this people still love the food, and with modern social media nshima and the love for nshima is being over hyped.

It's sad that we live in a country where people compliance about diabetes and blood pressure issues but still don't want to stop/reduce their nshima consumption despite the evidence.

I'll edit this post later on by adding links to research reports about the effects of Nshima

A friend of mine recently started making between k500,000 to k600,000 per month...I won't specify his job but its full-time. Everytime we gang out or play badminton 🏸 he always complains about it not being enough to live on in Zambia. Is it true or not. Let me know your opinions

Just some more context, his family is always demanding for money. He's no longer a family pillar he's now a family bank.

How would you advise him to leave the situation he is in without making enemies

For those of you coming here to say it is or rage bait, don't waste your time in the comments

He works in Media, and does something along the lines of what a certain someone does. He doesn't endorse gambling.

I'm 20M and I'm in my second year of university, studying software engineering. I've barely if ever dated in my life and I'm turning 20 next week, all my friends and older siblings are dating and I'm the only one who is still single and it's getting awkward whenever I hang around friends and family and they're talking about the joy or struggles 9f dating/marriage and I can't contribute anything. Plus my mum, uncles and aunts are now talking about how I should start taking life seriously(especially my dating life ) and find a long term partner.

As for my preference, I'm black but I have never really been attracted to black people. I always get attracted to white and mixed race people. The only issue is I live in Central Africa so 🤷 I barely see white/mixed people not because i live in a rural area(I don't live in a rural area) but because the white to black ratio is probably 1:999

Basically I don't see myself marrying a black person and I'm looking for advice on where(places or platforms) I can meet white/mixed people...maybe just have a talking stage or serious dating. Even long distance is ok considering I'm in Africa.

Lets do a sub for sub....BTW my wifi is acting up right now so I I'll probably sub tomorrow, please trust me I will sub