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I’m attending a wedding with my family this weekend and my mum LOves to subtly body shame.

In the past she comments about my weight and me gaining weight. She likes to say she was so much skinnier than me at her age; that I’d never fit in her clothes; that short dresses don’t look good on me; that tight dresses are unflattering. She’s obsessed with knowing my weight and I’ve never told her it, but when I say I won’t tell her, she gets all gleeful and playful like ‘hehehhee pleaseee tell me’. I feel like she’s in this one sided competition with me even though she’s my mum and also 65 years old

Fyi I’m 26(f), a UK size 10 and so is my mum, but I’m taller than her and slightly bigger all around but not even overweight. She’s loved the process of my finding a dress and when I’ve shown her options she’s turned her nose up and said they don’t look good on me. I don’t know why it matters, I’m not the bride, I’m not even a bridesmaid we are just going to a wedding. She likes it when I get upset and I can tell she wants me to confide in her that I’m ashamed of my body. It’s made it so hard to find a dress because every dress I try I think what she’s going to say. I’ve settled on a dress which is a bit more shapeless and it’s fine… but it’s not what I would have picked if her voice wasn’t always in the back of my head. I wish I could not care about it but I do.

I want to do food and health content as I’m very qualified and creative and love to cook. I’m so happy filming cooking bits but when the camera is on my I watch it back and I feel so ugly. I’m also awkward talking to the camera. Does anyone have any advice? I know I’m not ugly but seeing myself makes me feel so awkward and zoom in on every flaw I have.

How do I get confidence???

I went to the GI doctor for constipation, wind, occasional diarrhoea… with worse symptoms after coffee, beans and pulses, and onions. He felt that I had faecal overload and the diarrhoea was just due to the constipation. I had a colonoscopy and it was evident I was so backed up the prep hadn’t fully worked and there was still shit inside me. He then gave me an enema.

My colonoscopy biopsies were fine and he just said I had IBS-C. He gave me fibrogel and prucalopride, but I was getting really bad side effects from prucacspopirde so swapped it for senna. Anyway, a few weeks on I’m back to being constipated. I don’t understand what’s going on, I eat super well (I’m a nutritionist), I exercise, I drink water. I’m otherwise healthy. I’m only 26.

It’s starting to really concern me, I feel like I’ve gained weight, I’m always gassy and just don’t feel healthy. Please can anyone share their stories and experiences I’m getting a bit concerned.

I went to the GI doctor for constipation, wind, occasional diarrhoea… with worse symptoms after coffee, beans and pulses, and onions. He felt that I had faecal overload and the diarrhoea was just due to the constipation. I had a colonoscopy and it was evident I was so backed up the prep hadn’t fully worked and there was still shit inside me. He then gave me an enema.

My colonoscopy biopsies were fine and he just said I had IBS-C. He gave me fibrogel and prucalopride, but I was getting really bad side effects from prucacspopirde so swapped it for senna. Anyway, a few weeks on I’m back to being constipated. I don’t understand what’s going on, I eat super well (I’m a nutritionist), I exercise, I drink water. I’m otherwise healthy. I’m only 26.

It’s starting to really concern me, I feel like I’ve gained weight, I’m always gassy and just don’t feel healthy. Please can anyone share their stories and experiences I’m getting a bit concerned.

I want to house sit but I’m just wondering as the joining fee is quite high, is it actually worth it? Do you manage to get gigs house sitting in the UK? Is it a hard application process

I’ve had a nagging feeling for most my life that something is a bit different about me compared to others but it’s never been a huge issue in terms of life (I’ve always been academically very good, had friends, relationships, can function most of adulthood). Over a year ago I got into a relationship with someone with Autism and ADHD and they strongly think I have ADHD and autistic traits. It’s really been on my mind as my brother is having ADHD assessment currently and my dad has ADHD. I have anxiety and OCD and have some ADHD traits such as RSD, inability to concentrate when people are speaking to me, impulsivity in some areas, struggle organising tasks- but I’ve never felt like i am similar to someone with stereo typical ADHD.

For example, I’m often praised in my ability to articulate thoughts well, people who don’t know me well think I’m organised and conscientious (those who do know me would say otherwise), I can book appointments, maintain friendships, carry out everyday life stuff

At school I was basically mute until about 15, was very shy, wanted to be invisible. Then after that I was very outgoing and spoke TOO much until I heard someone make remarks about how I butt in too much and make everything about me, which broke my heart. The past few years I have tried to strike a balance between speaking and not speaking too much.

Basically I’m wondering what led others to get an assessment, and how much it was impacting your life. I’m worried I’m jumping on a social media trend and I’m wasting peoples time and I actually just have a normal experience of life?? Idk hahaha