u/Backfromthedead_9

How looking at the beautiful canopy of trees getting showered with beautiful rains, while sipping a cup of tea at my window got me thinking…may be the only way to find your person, in this world consisting of billions, is to keep trying..
So here I am, trying.

I’m 34F. I live in a tier two city, recently moved here from a tier one city owing to my work, and boy, am I loving the slow life here!

Recent years and experiences have taught me a good deal of self-awareness, empathy, and (even though it may sound counter-intuitive to the kind of post I am making), a non-believer in romance and butterflies. What do believe in, still, is a strong friendship, an even stronger sense of physical chemistry, and (if that’s possible) an even more stronger sense of selflessness in a relationship.

About me

I am 5’7”. I lead a physically active lifestyle. I like to hit the gym regularly and eat consciously (although you might find me devouring a bowl of chocolate ice cream once in a while, lol).

I was married previously. My paperwork finished in early 2024.

I like to read. My type of reads are mainly fiction and a little bit of poetry.

I love to cook, although I am mindful of the fact that it’s not practical to cook three meals a day every day with the kind of demanding job that I have.

I am a creative at heart and try my hand sometimes at painting, writing, etc.

I am (apparently just like everyone else on the Internet is) an avid traveller. And a trekker. I took a few months breaks from work last year and travelled around the world solo, and ended it with a Himalayan trek. The way this break shaped me is unlike anything else. It taught me a great deal about importance of independence, courage and liking one’s own company.

Recent years of introspection has led me to a decision that I want a child free life. The reasons for this is a bit too personal, and disclosing that may need some vulnerability. Therefore I don’t want to state it here.

I am doing very well in my career. And although I am not a lavish spender, I do like it if I don’t have to think twice before spending on experiences and travel.

I am in a transferable job, that would keep taking to a different city of the country every 5-6 years. I understand that can be tough to manage for many. But alas, it is what it is as far as my job goes.

Things I’d like to have in my partner

I would be lying if I said physical attraction doesn’t matter to me. It does. A great deal. Therefore, I would really appreciate it if we can share pictures with each other in the initial conversations.

I really value fitness. I automatically respect someone more if I see that they make efforts to take care of their own body.

I’d love it if my partner is taller than me. Me being a 5’7” automatically increases the height bar for my prospective match.

A thing that is of the utmost importance to me is that you **know** that you are in here with a serious intension, and are ready to make efforts for it. If you’re someone who loses interest after a few conversations, even if things appear to fall beautifully in place, I request you to kindly not DM me and not waste my time.

I want an independent household for myself and my partner in the future. I do understand that aging parents (of both the partners) require care and attention. But I believe that there can be many other sincere and genuine ways to take care of them than living together in a single house.

I would want my prospective partner to share my child free mindset. It’s almost impossible that I may change my views, so kindly don’t get into this while having a background thought that you’ll change my thinking in future. It’s just about compatibility.

Lastly, I would love it if my partner is settled in his career. Money doesn’t matter a great deal to me, I am earning a very good salary. But, someone who’s still in two minds about changing his career in his late thirties or even later, wouldn’t bode well with me. I am craving a peaceful future, lazy Sunday afternoons with some mindless binging on Netflix. The sheer amount of effort to build a career from scratch is not something that I want to be a part of at this juncture of my life.

Sorry for the really long post, but if you think these points resonate with, kindly DM me with a brief introduction of yourself.
(I won’t be responding to mere ‘hiis/hellos’, just to filter out non-serious people).

How looking at the beautiful canopy of trees getting showered with beautiful rains, while sipping a cup of tea at my office window got me thinking…may be the only way to find your person, in this world consisting of billions, is to keep trying..
So here I am, trying.

I’m 34F. I live in a tier two city, recently moved here from a tier one city owing to my work, and boy, am I loving the slow life here!

Recent years and experiences have taught me a good deal of self-awareness, empathy, and (even though it may sound counter-intuitive to the kind of post I am making), a non-believer in romance and butterflies. What do believe in, still, is a strong friendship, an even stronger sense of physical chemistry, and (if that’s possible) an even more stronger sense of selflessness in a relationship.

About me

I am 5’7”. I lead a physically active lifestyle. I like to hit the gym regularly and eat consciously (although you might find me devouring a bowl of chocolate ice cream once in a while, lol).

I was married previously. My paperwork finished in early 2024.

I like to read. My type of reads are mainly fiction and a little bit of poetry.

I love to cook, although I am mindful of the fact that it’s not practical to cook three meals a day every day with the kind of demanding job that I have.

I am a creative at heart and try my hand sometimes at painting, writing, etc.

I am (apparently just like everyone else on the Internet is) an avid traveller. And a trekker. I took a few months breaks from work last year and travelled around the world solo, and ended it with a Himalayan trek. The way this break shaped me is unlike anything else. It taught me a great deal about importance of independence, courage and liking one’s own company.

Recent years of introspection has led me to a decision that I want a child free life. The reasons for this is a bit too personal, and disclosing that may need some vulnerability. Therefore I don’t want to state it here.

I am doing very well in my career. And although I am not a lavish spender, I do like it if I don’t have to think twice before spending on experiences and travel.

I am in a transferable job, that would keep taking to a different city of the country every 5-6 years. I understand that can be tough to manage for many. But alas, it is what it is as far as my job goes.

Things I’d like to have in my partner

I would be lying if I said physical attraction doesn’t matter to me. It does. A great deal. Therefore, I would really appreciate it if we can share pictures with each other in the initial conversations.

I really value fitness. I automatically respect someone more if I see that they make efforts to take care of their own body.

I’d love it if my partner is taller than me. Me being a 5’7” automatically increases the height bar for my prospective match.

A thing that is of the utmost importance to me is that you know that you are in here with a serious intension, and are ready to make efforts for it. If you’re someone who loses interest after a few conversations, even if things appear to fall beautifully in place, I request you to kindly not DM me and not waste my time.

I want an independent household for myself and my partner in the future. I do understand that aging parents (of both the partners) require care and attention. But I believe that there can be many other sincere and genuine ways to take care of them than living together in a single house.

I would want my prospective partner to share my child free mindset. It’s almost impossible that I may change my views, so kindly don’t get into this while having a background thought that you’ll change my thinking in future. It’s just about compatibility.

Lastly, I would love it if my partner is settled in his career. Money doesn’t matter a great deal to me, I am earning a very good salary. But, someone who’s still in two minds about changing his career in his late thirties or even later, wouldn’t bode well with me. I am craving a peaceful future, lazy Sunday afternoons with some mindless binging on Netflix. The sheer amount of effort to build a career from scratch is not something that I want to be a part of at this juncture of my life.

Sorry for the really long post, but if you think these points resonate with, kindly DM me with a brief introduction of yourself.
(I won’t be responding to mere ‘hiis/hellos’, just to filter out non-serious people).

So, I’ve seen this really handsome guy at a social gathering. He’s probably one of the most handsome guys I’ve ever seen. We talk socially a little. I am pretty attracted to him and have tried to flirt a little. But I feel that he is out of my league.

A little bit about me - I am an attractive and tall girl, but I feel I am certainly not in his league. He is just too handsome. Also, I think I am a few years older than him. I’m in my early thirties, while he may be 28-29 roughly.

My question to guys out here - should I ask him out when he’s out of my league? What would be the odds of me getting my heart (and my self esteem) broken?

(Sigh)

It’s been a little over than two months that I moved to Bhopal from a metro city. My work brought me here. I was skeptical and curious at the same time at the thought of leaving a big city and shift to a smaller city like Bhopal.

Over these past weeks, I have come across several posts as well comments on this Sub from people living in Bhopal spewing hate over the city. People call it dead, boring, quiet, and whatnot. Apparently people hate the city for not having a crazy chaotic run of the mill life that cities like Mumbai, Bangalore and Delhi offer. And that is what prompted me to write this post.
In the appreciation of what Bhopal is.

As someone who spent more than a decade in the deafening noise of a metro city, and who constantly kept getting lost in the swarms of crores of people piling one over the other (quite literally), I see a quieter city like Bhopal as a boon. The lesser crowd feels peaceful. A mere little fact that I am able to open my window at night without having to worry about traffic noise coming into my apartment feels like a big joy.

The tree cover that the city has looks comforting and welcoming. More so as monsoons have kicked in, and the city feels as beautiful as a little hill station.

The lesser distance one need to cover for going from one end of the city to another is simply blowing my mind, after having spent 3-4 hours daily on the road amidst traffic while living in the metro. To this day I swell with joy when I notice that it just took me 11 and a half minutes to reach office from my home.

The locals are generally very simple, and polite. I haven’t come across deceptive and foul people so far. It’s quite different feeling than having to keep your guards up all the time while interacting with other, as was the case when I was living in the metro.

I agree that there are lesser socialising and cultural opportunities as compared to Mumbai and Delhi. I agree that Bhopal doesn’t get a lot of quality concerts, standups, etc. But, I just refuse to consider it as a terrible option to live just because of these factors. Only one who has survived a metro city for decade can truly appreciate what a smaller, quieter city is.

Here’s to my love for Bhopal - for being able to open my windows, for being able to see greenery anywhere I look, for being gentler and sweeter to me, and also, for the Rava Pani puri!!

♥️