u/Badatusernames014

We had our young adult retreat a couple weekends ago, and to be honest it wasn't a super great time; I felt more exhausted than rested on Sunday. My friend I carpooled with also agreed, and even mentioned that during the planning meeting she brought up how full the schedule was and our leader (who is youth minister at our parish) was like "Well, people aren't going to know what to do." I mentioned to her that I've given the feedback every time to have more free time and it's never happened. For example, people were encouraged to bring their own games and whatnot... and then there was never any time to actually play those games because instead of having sort of an open relax/hang out at night it was let's do group games and activities.

Maybe I'm just overthinking because I'm the kind of person who prefers a do nothing vacation/retreat, but this weekend confirmed what I've felt years that our leader kind of treats us like teenagers in a sense. For example, we had a happy hour a while back and everyone was having a great time sitting around and chatting, she got there late and then after she arrived had everyone play this card game. I don't mind group games, they can be fun, but it's like "We're adults, we don't need to be doing something, just let us hang out."

I love the people and my friends at my parish, but I'm so done with her as leading it. I don't know if others feel the same. I don't want to start drama or anything, but maybe others are in the same position of not wanting to say anything and thus nothing will change?

It is currently 84 degrees in my apartment. All my windows face west and none are the right size for a window unit and it's just fans blowing around hot air. My dog and I have been spending our late afternoon and early evenings at whatever dog friendly place is cooler. We have AC, but our apartment building controls whether it's on or not since the control for heat/AC seems centrally controlled. They sent out another email saying they unfortunately can't turn on the AC system because it's a swamp cooler until there's no risk of nights being below 40°F and are consistently above 50°F as it could damage the system.

1. Is this even true about swamp coolers or AC systems based on them?

2. If so, why couldn't they turn it on for this week and then like turn it back for early next week where it'll be rainy and cool?

I don't know where else to ask this because I don't have any single friends and reposted cause I hated the title that much.

I really hit off with this girl on Her this past week and unfortunately scheduling isn't letting us actually go out until next weekend. I've always assumed you're not supposed to text between setting the date and the date itself, but it feels awkward to do at this point since the gap is long; plus she's cool and I enjoy talking to her. Also, I believe on Her that conversations vanish after three days so yeah.

Not talking about apps like Her, Hinge, etc. but the membership/paid websites like eHarmony, Match, there's also apparently a lesbian-specific one called Pink Cupid? Given what I'm looking for, they're probably not on the apps unless they're like me and think "you miss 100% of the shots you don't take" so am considering also paying for one of those sites.