u/Badatusernames014

I attend a large, affirming parish in the middle of a progressive city. We have a good number of gay men, trans people, a small handful of older lesbian couples, but it's only me and one other cis queer woman under the age of 50.

I know we're in the church, I have out-of-state friends who are and stuff, but it's sometimes kind of lonely/isolating at church. Genuinely wondering if I'm the only cis queer woman Episcopalian under 30 in my entire city or even state lol. Even at my old parish, gay men and transgender people greatly outnumbered cis queer women.

So I looked up the NWSL's heat rules/policy and now I'm wondering how Houston or Orlando basically ever play at home in July, August, and even September. As someone who grew up in Houston, the wet bulb temp definitely has to be above 92°F from like 9am to 9pm every day from June-August, unless it's raining, but then I was the France Paraguay game yesterday, which had a kickoff of 98° with the 38% humidity and it wasn't postponed per FIFA's policies (which apparently are 32°C/89.6°F.)

Is Wet Bulb more than just heat index/feels like temperature? I'm now very confused.

I saw Girls Like Girls last night and it wasn't my cup of tea. The nostalgia was nice, but that was about the only thing I liked and was bored most of the movie. It reminded me of why I don't like a lot of wlw media, especially romance; I greatly prefer rom coms like Imagine Me and You to the dramatic and passionate romance stories like Portrait of a Lady on Fire.

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Yeah, there's the classic But I'm a Cheerleader and the more recent Happiest Season and the Thanksgiving one (I forgot what it's called.)

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Two years ago I was at Pride with friends and realized I wasn't having fun and only really there cause I felt I had to be because it was Pride, otherwise I wouldn't be standing there watching a Parade in 90° heat. I have marched a couple times and it was like "What do I do with my hands?" So last year my friend and I decided to skip it to go to the Ren Faire cause we felt like it would be slightly less crowded that weekend, and it was. This year I'm just going to a couple friends' parties and some other events I'd have more fun at.

I know the history and importance of it and everything, and that's why I always felt obligated to go and it's more about that what I vibe with or whatever.

This question is probably for more those who are Anglo-Catholic leaning, but anyone can answer...

What do you put as religion on your profile? I feel like "Christian" implies more non-denominational and even Evangelical than where we're at as "Catholic-Lite" or whatever.

We had our young adult retreat a couple weekends ago, and to be honest it wasn't a super great time; I felt more exhausted than rested on Sunday. My friend I carpooled with also agreed, and even mentioned that during the planning meeting she brought up how full the schedule was and our leader (who is youth minister at our parish) was like "Well, people aren't going to know what to do." I mentioned to her that I've given the feedback every time to have more free time and it's never happened. For example, people were encouraged to bring their own games and whatnot... and then there was never any time to actually play those games because instead of having sort of an open relax/hang out at night it was let's do group games and activities.

Maybe I'm just overthinking because I'm the kind of person who prefers a do nothing vacation/retreat, but this weekend confirmed what I've felt years that our leader kind of treats us like teenagers in a sense. For example, we had a happy hour a while back and everyone was having a great time sitting around and chatting, she got there late and then after she arrived had everyone play this card game. I don't mind group games, they can be fun, but it's like "We're adults, we don't need to be doing something, just let us hang out."

I love the people and my friends at my parish, but I'm so done with her as leading it. I don't know if others feel the same. I don't want to start drama or anything, but maybe others are in the same position of not wanting to say anything and thus nothing will change?

It is currently 84 degrees in my apartment. All my windows face west and none are the right size for a window unit and it's just fans blowing around hot air. My dog and I have been spending our late afternoon and early evenings at whatever dog friendly place is cooler. We have AC, but our apartment building controls whether it's on or not since the control for heat/AC seems centrally controlled. They sent out another email saying they unfortunately can't turn on the AC system because it's a swamp cooler until there's no risk of nights being below 40°F and are consistently above 50°F as it could damage the system.

1. Is this even true about swamp coolers or AC systems based on them?

2. If so, why couldn't they turn it on for this week and then like turn it back for early next week where it'll be rainy and cool?

I don't know where else to ask this because I don't have any single friends and reposted cause I hated the title that much.

I really hit off with this girl on Her this past week and unfortunately scheduling isn't letting us actually go out until next weekend. I've always assumed you're not supposed to text between setting the date and the date itself, but it feels awkward to do at this point since the gap is long; plus she's cool and I enjoy talking to her. Also, I believe on Her that conversations vanish after three days so yeah.

Not talking about apps like Her, Hinge, etc. but the membership/paid websites like eHarmony, Match, there's also apparently a lesbian-specific one called Pink Cupid? Given what I'm looking for, they're probably not on the apps unless they're like me and think "you miss 100% of the shots you don't take" so am considering also paying for one of those sites.