I haven't stopped thinking about this since seeing "Stories we tell our young" and got the whole Wesen Punnet square talk. It made sense, except that a kershite who knows guarantees a Wesen child but a kershite who doesn't know it's 50/50.
I grew up Churches of Christ and after graduating college found myself considering either The Epsicopal Church/Anglicanism or the Roman Catholic Church, and ultimately decided on the Episcopal Church mostly because I'm a lesbian, women's ordination. While I understand I'm technically protestant, I always felt or identified more with being "Reformed Catholic" as some of us call ourselves.
Anyway, I don't know if it's moving and my parish but I don't feel at home here anymore. My old parish was very "high church" and essentially an "inclusive Anglo-Catholic" parish in its beliefs and practices, whereas my parish here in my new city just feels... protestant, and it doesn't feel like I'm in my spiritual church when I'm in Eucharist anymore.
I don't know, maybe it's just my current parish, maybe it's my TikTok algorithm getting confused and showing me decent to LGBTQ Roman Catholic like emptychairshome or that bearded bald guy I can't remember the name of. I know about New Ways and have looked up a few parishes in my city, debating checking at least one out.
I've been playing since January/February and have gotten to the point where if I go out to a stick and puck, I can lift the puck easily, but in games I can't ever do it. Anyone have any advice, tips, videos?
Someone said something to me on this Reddit a few months ago about having a completely different cultural lens than other queer women, and I've been thinking about this recently, especially the last week or in regards to struggle to connect with other sapphic, and especially lesbian, women despite being out for so long. Yeah, I have teammates, acquaintances, hobby friends, but like it's never really gone beyond just hobby friends or something surface level. I'm wondering if I'm not only cishet in my presentation but like culturally/worldview/however I should say it. Here are some examples that made me think about this more recently...
A few weeks ago someone was talking in my church's LGBTQ ministry group chat about being excited for the new Andrea Gibson documentary premiere at Red Rocks. I was like "who?" so she told me who they were. Then, people started talking about them and plans were made for a movie night to watch some other movie about her; the entire conversation I was thinking "this is absolutely not something I'm interested in" as the film and Andrea was described to me. I didn't say anything, just basically left the conversation. Turns out, someone else I knew went from their post on Instagram and then was chatting with my neighbor at the bar for USMNT game and learned she was in town for the Andrea Gibson premiere.
That was the second time it's happened recently. I saw Girls like Girls and while I liked the nostalgia and appreciated how it captured being a queer teenager in the mid-2000s, overall I was bored and didn't enjoy it. Yet, all the comments online from other lesbians were raving about it. I can see how people liked the movie, it simply wasn't my cup of tea. Girls Like Girls isn't unique, I might be the only lesbian who has never seen and has no desire to see Portrait of a Lady on Fire because of how it's been described to me. Even just this past week my favorite bar was posting about a shuttle bus to the Brandi Carlisle concert and it took me a second to remember who that was. Then there's drag which I not only don't enjoy, but even find a little offensive.
It isn't just entertainment. While I'm very progressive but I don't enjoy talking about politics, social theory, etc, and am not politically active outside of voting because my mental basically won't let me, I mean that in a way I can't talk about on a public forum. On a similar note, while I am very economically and socially progressive, I am kind of traditional in the sense that the two most important things to me are my family and my faith. I never talk about those things around LGBTQ people because I know how it sounds and looks but maybe people get a vibe/infer.
Speaking of family, my chosen family queer people often talk about. Well, I don't really have one. While my bio family definitely isn't the type to go to a Pride parade, and to be honest I'm not either, I am fortunate/privilege they don't treat me any different because I'm gay, and they are still who I consider my family. I don't see my sexuality as making me any different than having hazel eyes, it's just something about me. When I first came out I enjoyed Pride and everything, but the longer I've been out the less I want to be celebrated.
It could just all be in my head but this why I always end up making friends with straight people. I don't mean that in like a numbers sense but like I'll go to like a sapphic meetup and not vibe with anyone, but then do a general one or something and will vibe with the straights. In my church I'll vibe more with the straight people than the gay people. It shouldn't be like that, right? Being gay I feel not fully apart of the cishet world but then essentially being what I feel like is culturally cishet not fully apart of the queer world.
Put as discussion cause wasn't sure what to do.
I watched The Pitt recently and made me think about my mom being my emergency contact, she is a nurse so it makes sense, but she's also down in Texas while I live in Colorado. It made me think if she really was actually the best option. Obviously if I was married or in a serious relationship it would be her, but unfortunately I haven't lucked out in dating.
Someone said something to me on this Reddit a few months ago about having a completely different cultural lens than other queer women, and I've been thinking about this recently, especially the last week or in regards to struggle to connect with other sapphic, and especially lesbian, women despite being out for so long. Yeah, I have teammates, acquaintances, hobby friends, but like it's never really gone beyond just hobby friends or something surface level. I'm wondering if I'm not only cishet in my presentation but like culturally/worldview/however I should say it. Here are some examples that made me think about this more recently...
Last week, someone was talking in my church's LGBTQ ministry group chat about being excited for the new Andrea Gibson documentary premiere at Red Rocks. I was like "who?" so she told me who they were. Then, people started talking about them and plans were made for a movie night to watch some other movie about her; the entire conversation I was thinking "this is absolutely not something I'm interested in" as the film and Andrea was described to me. I didn't say anything, just basically left the conversation. Turns out, someone else I knew went from their post on Instagram and then was chatting my neighbor at the bar for USMNT game last night and learned she was in town for the Andrea Gibson premiere.
This is the second time it's happened recently. I saw Girls like Girls and while I liked the nostalgia and appreciated how it captured being a queer teenager in the mid-2000s, overall I was bored and didn't enjoy it. Yet, all the comments online from other lesbians were raving about it. I can see how people liked the movie, it simply wasn't my cup of tea. Girls Like Girls isn't unique, I might be the only lesbian who has never seen and has no desire to see Portrait of a Lady on Fire because of how it's been described to me.
It isn't just entertainment. While I'm very progressive but I don't enjoy talking about politics, social theory, etc, and am not politically active outside of voting because I don't have the emotional stamina for it. I find discussing these things very emotionally draining and work a very emotionally demanding job that doesn't leave any left for it. On a similar note, while I am very economically and socially progressive, I am kind of traditional in the sense that the two most important things to me are my family and my faith. I never talk about those things around LGBTQ people because I know how it sounds and looks but maybe people get a vibe/infer?
Speaking of family, my chosen family queer people often talk about. Well, I don't really have one. While my bio family definitely isn't the type to go to a Pride parade, and to be honest I'm not either, I am fortunate/privilege they don't treat me any different because I'm gay, and they are still who I consider my family. I don't see my sexuality as making me any different than having hazel eyes, it's just something about me.
It could be none of those things, it could be it in my head, but I'm just wondering why I always week to end up making friends with straight women more? I don't mean that in like a numbers sense but like I'll go to like a sapphic meetup and not vibe with anyone, but then do a general one or something and will vibe with the straights.
I attend a large, affirming parish in the middle of a progressive city. We have a good number of gay men, trans people, a small handful of older lesbian couples, but it's only me and one other cis queer woman under the age of 50.
I know we're in the church, I have out-of-state friends who are and stuff, but it's sometimes kind of lonely/isolating at church. Genuinely wondering if I'm the only cis queer woman Episcopalian under 30 in my entire city or even state lol. Even at my old parish, gay men and transgender people greatly outnumbered cis queer women.
So I looked up the NWSL's heat rules/policy and now I'm wondering how Houston or Orlando basically ever play at home in July, August, and even September. As someone who grew up in Houston, the wet bulb temp definitely has to be above 92°F from like 9am to 9pm every day from June-August, unless it's raining, but then I was the France Paraguay game yesterday, which had a kickoff of 98° with the 38% humidity and it wasn't postponed per FIFA's policies (which apparently are 32°C/89.6°F.)
Is Wet Bulb more than just heat index/feels like temperature? I'm now very confused.
I saw Girls Like Girls last night and it wasn't my cup of tea. The nostalgia was nice, but that was about the only thing I liked and was bored most of the movie. It reminded me of why I don't like a lot of wlw media, especially romance; I greatly prefer rom coms like Imagine Me and You to the dramatic and passionate romance stories like Portrait of a Lady on Fire.
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Yeah, there's the classic But I'm a Cheerleader and the more recent Happiest Season and the Thanksgiving one (I forgot what it's called.)
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Two years ago I was at Pride with friends and realized I wasn't having fun and only really there cause I felt I had to be because it was Pride, otherwise I wouldn't be standing there watching a Parade in 90° heat. I have marched a couple times and it was like "What do I do with my hands?" So last year my friend and I decided to skip it to go to the Ren Faire cause we felt like it would be slightly less crowded that weekend, and it was. This year I'm just going to a couple friends' parties and some other events I'd have more fun at.
I know the history and importance of it and everything, and that's why I always felt obligated to go and it's more about that what I vibe with or whatever.
This question is probably for more those who are Anglo-Catholic leaning, but anyone can answer...
What do you put as religion on your profile? I feel like "Christian" implies more non-denominational and even Evangelical than where we're at as "Catholic-Lite" or whatever.
We had our young adult retreat a couple weekends ago, and to be honest it wasn't a super great time; I felt more exhausted than rested on Sunday. My friend I carpooled with also agreed, and even mentioned that during the planning meeting she brought up how full the schedule was and our leader (who is youth minister at our parish) was like "Well, people aren't going to know what to do." I mentioned to her that I've given the feedback every time to have more free time and it's never happened. For example, people were encouraged to bring their own games and whatnot... and then there was never any time to actually play those games because instead of having sort of an open relax/hang out at night it was let's do group games and activities.
Maybe I'm just overthinking because I'm the kind of person who prefers a do nothing vacation/retreat, but this weekend confirmed what I've felt years that our leader kind of treats us like teenagers in a sense. For example, we had a happy hour a while back and everyone was having a great time sitting around and chatting, she got there late and then after she arrived had everyone play this card game. I don't mind group games, they can be fun, but it's like "We're adults, we don't need to be doing something, just let us hang out."
I love the people and my friends at my parish, but I'm so done with her as leading it. I don't know if others feel the same. I don't want to start drama or anything, but maybe others are in the same position of not wanting to say anything and thus nothing will change?
It is currently 84 degrees in my apartment. All my windows face west and none are the right size for a window unit and it's just fans blowing around hot air. My dog and I have been spending our late afternoon and early evenings at whatever dog friendly place is cooler. We have AC, but our apartment building controls whether it's on or not since the control for heat/AC seems centrally controlled. They sent out another email saying they unfortunately can't turn on the AC system because it's a swamp cooler until there's no risk of nights being below 40°F and are consistently above 50°F as it could damage the system.
Is this even true about swamp coolers or AC systems based on them?
If so, why couldn't they turn it on for this week and then like turn it back for early next week where it'll be rainy and cool?
I don't know where else to ask this because I don't have any single friends and reposted cause I hated the title that much.
I really hit off with this girl on Her this past week and unfortunately scheduling isn't letting us actually go out until next weekend. I've always assumed you're not supposed to text between setting the date and the date itself, but it feels awkward to do at this point since the gap is long; plus she's cool and I enjoy talking to her. Also, I believe on Her that conversations vanish after three days so yeah.
Not talking about apps like Her, Hinge, etc. but the membership/paid websites like eHarmony, Match, there's also apparently a lesbian-specific one called Pink Cupid? Given what I'm looking for, they're probably not on the apps unless they're like me and think "you miss 100% of the shots you don't take" so am considering also paying for one of those sites.