u/Bannednibba

I'm 28M and my ex is 27F. We broke up in March after a difficult relationship.

In June, after about 3 months of no contact, I reached out because I was lonely. We eventually met. During the meeting, we discussed why things ended. She also slapped me during an argument. I didn't hit her back.

Afterwards, we agreed the relationship was over. Two days later, she called, accused me of telling a mutual friend about our breakup, abused me, wished horrible things on me, and blocked me everywhere.

I made no further attempts to contact her.

Yesterday, after almost 2 months, she unblocked me and asked me for ₹5,000 because she says her father is very sick and she has no money left. She called me several times. I eventually answered once.

I don't know whether this is a genuine emergency or not. I can afford ₹5,000, but I don't want to reopen the relationship or get pulled back into the cycle.

I'm thinking of replying:

"Sorry but I can't help financially."

Would you send the money if you were in my position, or maintain the boundary and stay out of it?

Please be honest and criticize my side too. I'm not looking for validation.

I'm 28M and my ex is 27F. We broke up in March after a difficult relationship.

In June, after about 3 months of no contact, I reached out because I was lonely. We eventually met. During the meeting, we discussed why things ended. She also slapped me during an argument. I didn't hit her back.

Afterwards, we agreed the relationship was over. Two days later, she called, accused me of telling a mutual friend about our breakup, abused me, wished horrible things on me, and blocked me everywhere.

I made no further attempts to contact her.

Yesterday, after almost 2 months, she unblocked me and asked me for ₹5,000 because she says her father is very sick and she has no money left. She called me several times. I eventually answered once.

I don't know whether this is a genuine emergency or not. I can afford ₹5,000, but I don't want to reopen the relationship or get pulled back into the cycle.

I'm thinking of replying:

"Sorry but I can't help financially."

Would you send the money if you were in my position, or maintain the boundary and stay out of it?

Please be honest and criticize my side too. I'm not looking for validation.

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I'm in my late 20s and a bit overweight mainly in my stomach area so it is a problem for me when picking an outfit as half of the time I'm thinking my stomach shape should be showing.

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Any suggestions such as resources, influencers, pages or anything else that could help me.