u/BeesinChablis

This guy works front desk at a NYSC gym in my neighborhood. He is 20, is a college student. is creative, studies film in college, has tattoos on his arm, and seems a little alternative. He does run clubs so he is able to be around people who are very extroverted.

I saw him once at the gym and just gave him big smile. I hadn't seen him before and IDK my face just reacted before my brain could stop me. I didn't think anything of it, i just thought he was so cute. He smiled back immediately while i was leaving the gym.

Since then he has gone out of his way to always greet me when i walk into the gym, give me a big smile and when I'm leaving he always says goodnight. We see each other only on Friday nights because I don't see him the other days I go in.

We have been doing this for 3 months. I once didn't go into the gym for the 3 Fridays in a row so didn't see him for 3 weeks and when I finally came in on a Friday, his face lit up when he saw me. But he has never tried to extend the interaction... no questions, no comments, nothing. I always smile back and greet him.

I thought maybe he was sending greenlights and wanted me to show more initiative so I finally got the courage and one night asked him "I see you around but I don't know your name". I had just walked in and he immediately smiled warmly and recognized me. But as soon as I asked him his name, smile went away and he said "What?" I asked again "what is your name?" and he answered very flatly without a smile "oh.. Sean". I nodded and waited a sec to see if he would ask me for my name or say anything else but he didn't. I felt so stupid and awkward and nodded and walked away.

IS he attracted but just not interested in talking or moving this to another level? Btw he doesn't smile or light up for other customers when I see him with others. He seems fairly introverted in the gym but professional/attentive. He doesn't say hi to other customers.

I'm not sure why he was smiling, lighting up, and always making sure to greet me in and out of the gym for 3 months?

Can anyone tell me what this guy with our history was thinking/feeling?

ISFP guy works front desk at a NYSC gym in my neighborhood. He is 20, is a college student. is creative, studies film in college, has tattoos on his arm, and seems a little alternative. He does run clubs so he is able to be around people who are very extroverted.

I saw him once at the gym and just gave him big smile. I hadn't seen him before and IDK my face just reacted before my brain could stop me. I'm an INFJ btw. I didn't think anything of it, i just thought he was so cute. He smiled back immediately while i was leaving the gym.

Since then he has gone out of his way to always greet me when i walk into the gym, give me a big smile and when I'm leaving he always says goodnight. We see each other only on Friday nights because I don't see him the other days I go in.

We have been doing this for 3 months. I once didn't go into the gym for the 3 Fridays in a row so didn't see him for 3 weeks and when I finally came in on a Friday, his face lit up when he saw me. But he has never tried to extend the interaction... no questions, no comments, nothing. I always smile back and greet him.

I thought maybe he was sending greenlights and wanted me to show more initiative so I finally got the courage and one night asked him "I see you around but I don't know your name". I had just walked in and he immediately smiled warmly and recognized me. But as soon as I asked him his name, smile went away and he said "What?" I asked again "what is your name?" and he answered veyr flatly without a smile "oh.. Sean". I nodded and waited a sec to see if he would ask me for my name or say anything else but he didn't. I felt so stupid and awkward and nodded and walked away.

IS he attracted but just not interested in talking or moving this to another level? Btw he doesn't smile or light up for other customers when I see him with others. He seems fairly introverted in the gym but professional/attentive. He doesn't say hi to other customers.

I'm not sure why he was smiling, lighting up, and always making sure to greet me in and out of the gym for 3 months?

Can anyone tell me what an ISFP with this kind of background was thinking/feeling?

He just joined the front desk staff at my gym. He is in his 20s.

First time I saw him: Gave him a big smile while I was walking out, and he immediately gave me a warm smile back and said "Have a great night". There was another front desk employee next to him that didn't even look up from their phone.

Second time I saw him: He was the only one at the front desk. I was looking for my badge to swipe so was standing there confused looking for it in my bag. He waited until I swiped and with a big warm smile and bright eyes said "Thanks, have a great workout".

Third time: It was a busy Friday night - lots of customers in the front desk area. He was there with another front desk employee. I couldn't see over the people in front of me - I just wanted to quickly scan my ID and head inside. He moved his head and neck around the guys in front of him signaling that his ID scanner was open. I went up and quickly scanned it and he said "hey" - close eye contact but no smile. The other guy at the front desk (different guy from previous times) didn't even look up.

When I was leaving the gym that night, he was speaking with his manager who was on my side of the counter as I was walking out. There was another employee look at her phone. He paused as I was coming up and said "have a great night" and his manager continued talking to him. The other employee didn't look up lol.

He's obviously very cute but I know this is also his job to say hello lol.

Is he holding back and being professional - it is just weird he consistently acknowledges me when I'm entering and leaving the gym. And obviously, I feel like there is something on his end (just don't know if he thinks I'm cute or just a harmless regular)

He just joined the front desk staff at my gym. He is in his 20s.

First time I saw him: Gave him a big smile while I was walking out, and he immediately gave me a warm smile back and said "Have a great night". There was another front desk employee next to him that didn't even look up from their phone.

Second time I saw him: He was the only one at the front desk. I was looking for my badge to swipe so was standing there confused looking for it in my bag. He waited until I swiped and with a big warm smile and eyes said "Thanks, have a great workout".

Third time: It was a busy Friday night - lots of customers in the front desk area. He was there with another front desk employee. I couldn't see over the people in front of me - I just wanted to quickly scan my ID and head inside. He moved his head and neck around the guys in front of him signaling that his ID scanner was open. I went up and quickly scanned it and he said "hey" - close eye contact but no smile. The other guy at the front desk (different guy from previous times) didn't even look up.

When I was leaving the gym that night, he was speaking with his manager who was on my side of the counter as I was walking out. There was another employee looking at her phone. He paused as I was coming up and said "have a great night" and his manager continued talking to him. The other employee didn't look up lol.

He's obviously very cute but I know this is also his job to say hello lol.

He just joined the front desk staff at my gym. He is in his 20s.

First time I saw him: Gave him a big smile while I was walking out, and he immediately gave me a warm smile back and said "Have a great night". There was another front desk employee next to him that didn't even look up from their phone.

Second time I saw him: He was the only one at the front desk. I was looking for my badge to swipe so was standing there confused looking for it in my bag. He waited until I swiped and with a big warm smile said "Thanks, have a great workout".

Third time: It was a busy Friday night - lots of customers in the front desk area. He was there with another front desk employee. I couldn't see over the people in front of me - I just wanted to quickly scan my ID and head inside. He moved his head and neck around the guys in front of him signaling that his ID scanner was open. I went up and quickly scanned it and he said "hey" - close eye contact but no smile. The other guy at the front desk (different guy from previous times) didn't even look up.

When I was leaving the gym that night, he was speaking with his manager who was on my side of the counter as I was walking out. There was another employee look at her phone. He paused as I was coming up and said "have a great night" and his manager continued talking to him. The other employee didn't look up lol.

He's obviously very cute but I know this is also his job to say hello lol.

I'm not Catholic but went to a Jesuit undergrad and I just find guys like this to be my type:

35-44 year old, Catholic, down to earth, family oriented, laid back but ambitious professional and looking to settle down (no Peter Pan syndrome)

Do you know where single guys like this hang out in terms of hobbies, events, etc. I tried Church in NYC but the ones I went to are not the above type.

I'm 39F if that helps. If this is a weird post, I can delete but trying to be strategic here and expose myself to environments where guys like this hang out/meet people.