r/isfp

Everyone says ISFPs are idealistic…but I’m the most nihilistic realist you’ll ever meet. I’m prone to episodes of nihilism and nihilism comforts me. I don’t feel the need to justify why I feel comforted by nihilism. Or perhaps you could call it absurdism. Either way I’m not…idealistic. I believe people can be blinded by idealism that they forget the reality that’s in front of them. I also think that idealism can lead people to not holding others accountable- if someone does something completely out of line they find a way to justify it or make it seem like they’re not a bad person. Or imagining the world as a utopia where people can do no wrong. Reframing things like murder and lying or any immoral acts as “well maybe they did it for a valid reason” or whatever. Believing everyone is good and wishing the world was a utopia but that just isn’t possible. That doesn’t mean you can’t do good things for others. Just don’t be blinded by idealism.

My cousin said to me he believes in idealism which is the idea that life will eventually get better…but that’s just realistic thinking to me? Not idealism. More like realistic optimism.

What is a difference between intj and isfp. I'm kinda struggle to find out who I am since I relate to both of those types?

INTP (30M) dating an ISFP (25F) – struggling with Ti vs. Fi communication

I’ve been dating my ISFP girlfriend for about four months, and overall our relationship is genuinely great. We love each other deeply, and in most areas we’re very compatible.

The biggest source of friction, though, is communication—specifically what feels like Ti vs. Fi.
I have fairly well-developed Fe, so I’m comfortable talking about emotions, expressing my own, and holding space for hers. I’m not trying to debate feelings away or approach everything purely logically.

The difficulty starts when she’s emotionally triggered (or me of course) or when her position is based entirely on how she feels in the moment. It can feel like I’m communicating with an emotional wall. In those moments, it seems like my only options are to either get pulled into an emotional argument or step back, wait until she’s calm, and hope we can revisit the conversation later.

What I struggle with most is that any difficult conversation—even when I phrase it as gently and compassionately as I can—often seems to be interpreted as criticism. She becomes defensive, and the original issue gets lost.

As a result, I often end up putting my own feelings aside to help regulate hers, even when I was the one who needed to bring something up. Then I have to revisit the issue later and hope it lands differently the second time.

For those of you who’ve been in an INTP–ISFP relationship (or have experience with strong Ti/Fi differences), is this something you’ve encountered? How do you navigate difficult conversations without one person feeling attacked or the other feeling unheard?

I saw a claim that ISFP cannot be sp9, because cause Fi-dom focus on inner feelings contradicts E9's self-forgetfulness and loss of self-contact and even if 9 has inner world, they don't make decisions through internal value system, plus ISFPs are cognitive sensors (aux Se), while E9s have strong Si-dom.

Is this actually true? :') or is this just some sort of stereotyping?

Has anyone had any close platonic relationships with isfps, romantic relations or married to one?

How has the dynamic been between you, what did you like and dislike about being together, in which ways did you help one another, meet, and how do enneagram types connect?

I have known of intjs, infps and esfjs married to isfps but i’d like to know more about other types as well as these and more specifically how it is in terms of fulfilment and mutual understanding/growth.

I think many ISFPs tend to overly rely on their Fi and Ni or have Fi-Ni loops. For whatever reason. On the other hand, I barely use my Ni lol. It only comes out when I’m talking philosophical stuff. But I can only talk about philosophical things so much before I explode. When my cousins or a friend asks me deep questions about the future, my life’s purpose, or my plans for the next 20 years I legit don’t know how to answer. Hell, my “philosophical musings” are VERY Se heavy, there’s a minuscule amount of Ni. I find myself relying on my Se a lot, and I love leaning into it.

Let's have a friendly conversation! What are your positive and negative traits as an ISFP?🩷

I'll start🙃

𖣁My positive traits, at least according to other people, are that I'm friendly and supportive. I'm not sure if daydreaming a lot counts as a positive trait, but I like to think it does. 🙂‍↕️😂

𖠢As for my negative traits... I can be pretty lazy. I also get angry pretty quickly sometimes, but I usually regret it afterward or feel guilty. And, to be honest, I'm a little jealous too. 🥲🤦🏻‍♀️I also don't really have a clear goal or a specific passion. I love all kinds of art, but I never seem to have the patience or motivation to actually do them.

If you don't feel comfortable sharing about yourself, don't worry ,you don't have to. I totally understand. 🙂‍↕️🩷

if so in what way?

After we learn about the cognitive functions within our type and become accustomed to the mbti/ socionics theory world, we can find that we have internalised certain positive or negative aspects of our type which then impacts our mental heath.

Ideally, types should be neutral and facilitate growth however there is an implicit ranking of types by value e.g intelligence is most valued in society followed by poetics/creativity/social smoothness.

I’ve read of infjs that unconsciously internalise negative comments from the criticisms that glorify this type. Especially, I would say much of the premature disrespect is directed towards the sensors, though it exists in forma for every type.

In a utopian, could you imagine an implicit ranking not being present, how would it look like?

Has learning your type and being involved in community spaces affected your mental health?

Hi everyone,

I was wondering what types have you had the best and worst romantic or platonic relationships with and why?

Was wondering if this could connect to some intertype theories..

As an ISFP, have you ever been in a romantic relationship with an ISFP, ENFP, or INFP? What were the pros and cons? Would you do it again?

i took Micheal Caloz’s Cognitive Functions Test and have read quite a bit about both personality types and im still stuck between the two. i dont know what to do at this point LOL

ik it sounds like a stupid question but i honestly js dont know what to do. Im always being pushed towards science but in all honesty im not that into it. Im interested in media but i dont know any jobs involved in that except journalism.

this also might give a better idea but im an isfp sx/sp 4w3 + 486 ESI

\+ https://www.reddit.com/r/MbtiTypeMe/s/1mH5hxnZz3 a link to some typeme thing i did a while back.

Im mainly looking for ideas that’ll work for me that aren’t too outlandish and impossible to get successful in.

Ok, so, explanation.
I’m trying to figure out my MBTI. I’ve been through ISTJ, ISFJ, ENFJ, even briefly INFJ, but despite all of these being judging types (need to point this out because I know someone will,) I think I’m either an INFP or ISFP, so that’s why I’m here.
I want to know if there are any definite distinctions between the two. I relate heavily to Fi, and from research I also relate to Ni, but I keep doubting that I’m an INFP because people are often mistyped as INFP, and I do relate to the ISFP stereotype and some parts of Se.
If it helps, I am a 6w5, that’s for sure.
Thank you for reading my ramblings.

I’m autistic and ADHD, I am more inclined towards “bromances” and hanging out with dudes at the gym than going out for girls nights LOL, I don’t ever get invited to girls night. I don’t have any female friends, for some reason it’s harder to make friends with fellow women:( nothing against anyone, my brain is just wired a certain way.

I know it's kind of a blunt question but I'm curious.

If you do or don't, then why?

Hi! I hope you are doing well, dear isfp artists!
My ISFP friend recently fully opened up to me, and I wanna know where I stand for him. We are not best friends or so. Instead, its been only few months since we met for the first time.

Sometimes people feels free to open up when they think the listener cant do anything about their dark past/secrets anyway, or thet will never see them again. Is it the case with you? Or do you open up becayse you fully trust?

Do you ever open up to your crushes?