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So I have a friend of three years. We both are male. So like basically we both have revealed a lot to each other and help each other out and are currently in class XII prepping jee. But like the thing is that he generally is very chirpy and fun with others joking a lot and talking all stuff with them. But with me like he’s generally not feeling the need to talk much and stays quiet a lot. But he does feel free enough to tease me on anything and criticise me on my bad habits and tease ke but I feel I’m inadequate for him like I’m nit enough like he only talks study and serious stuff with me. There was a misconception once, and like o subtlety told him that o felt a but hurt he talked tk me the next day to clear things up and becomes a bit weirdly more interactive when I’m like a bit emotionally hurt by sm other thing or stressed out. How do i take it like since he didn’t find the need to talk much in general with me. As an infj i crave for conn3ctioj talks ahdlike read patterns in him that kinda tense me up.

info:- I’m like generally quiet and reserved but get quirky and fun when I’m comfy make very few close friends and am very very helpful though i can seem aloof smtimes. he is like a carefree guy who doesn’t really explicitly believe in close relationships, but shows otherwise in actions, is very mature and caring and is extremely fun when he can. knows a lot too. both of us are curious tho we’ve had very diff childhoods(not in terms of positivity or culture but in terms of interests) hes an isfp btw. He tells me to chill a lot and not take things srsly. He also tells me he talks by moods but as an infj i notice he talks a lot woth others and kinda srs and less with me.

I need some infj help in maintaining my thoughts and emotion and what i can do.

pls dont mind my spellings i have very stubby fingers and type on a tablet

So I have a friend of three years. We both are make. So like basically we both have revealed a lot to each other and help each other out and are currently in class XII prepping jee. But like the thing is that he generally is very chirpy and fun with others joking a lot and talking all stuff with them. But with me like he’s generally not feeling the need to talk much and stays quiet a lot. But he does feel free enough to tease me on anything and criticise me on my bad habits and tease ke but I feel I’m inadequate for him like I’m nit enough like he only talks study and serious stuff with me. There was a misconception once, and like o subtlety told him that o felt a but hurt he talked tk me the next day to clear things up and becomes a bit weirdly more interactive when I’m like a bit emotionally hurt by sm other thing or stressed out. How do i take it like since he didn’t find the need to talk much in general with me

info:- I’m like generally quiet and reserved but get quirky and fun when I’m comfy make very few close friends and am very very helpful though i can seem aloof smtimes. he is like a carefree guy who doesn’t really explicitly believe in close relationships, but shows otherwise in actions, is very mature and caring and is extremely fun when he can. knows a lot too. both of us are curious tho we’ve had very diff childhoods(not in terms of positivity or culture but in terms of interests)

He just wanted to ask. Do u isfps like become very chirpy, goofy or open in front of ur closest friends. Or is ur actual persona one thats very quiet and doesnt feel the need to talk while sittingnext to the close person all the time. Like u cud care deeply for the person and ask personal questions bht interactions are mostly teasing or libertious comment making in the second case. The first case is basically talking a lot abt opinions on current things inthe world, discussions etc.

He guyz wanted to ask. An isfp really close friend of mine like really close. He remains silent with me otherwise its jjst the bothnof us talking engineering entranceexam prep or him teasing or non offensively mocking me on personal stuff . Like he takes the liberty to do so but he himselfdoes small talk enthusiastically or discusses topics i also know with others only and prefers ro remain silent with me. Like hes told me that he only opens up to close ppl around me. He does criticiseme or try to tell me to improve somethings in my face and he does care. He is also extremely caring with me and wud pressure me to express myself clearly.

Based on whatever ive searched(he himself took mbti and typed as isfp twice), its baffling for me based on what an isfp does. Cud any of u guys shed light on this since an isfp judges another thebest. Am an infj 17 years male so is he

Hi i have an isfp close friend. Am an infj. So heres the dynamic bw us. We both care for each other and we do play around like he jokes with me a lot. We both are in class XII prepping for an entranceexam and like he reveals a lot of his study plans to just me and i also help him i a lot. But like he just casually talks around with others all the time and i dont know sometimes he just goes quiet around me. Like he finds no need to sometimes talk. He will be all counsellor when im in trouble but he as such wont talk in person abt the casual things i send him or wheni request a convo from him(we cant chat rn due to some personal constraints i wont discuss). When we cant talk the whole day, he might come to just say hi orbye or plainly smile or joke but doesnt express himself much and often speaks his mind out. Sometimes i take his advicevery srsly and he says i shouldnt. Since he is i feel and by tests an isfp, u guys pls advise me on ur take on this dynamic. Its a friendship of 3 yrs. And what u guys can tell to improve. From an isfp pov.

U guys are just so pure and ope. U guys subtly show whos trusted and whos just an acquanitance. U guys deeply care those u think abt and just feel so free around ppl u trust. If someone notices carefully, they will understand ur way of loving and friendship. From an infj whos learnt a lot from an isfp.

U made us dream even when ppl said we wouldnt make it thru.

Unmade us fight for that one fledgling team many hate for the camaraderie and old school perfection u show.

Thank u gt for letting us fight as a team.

Captain Gill youve had a heartbreak in 2023valso. And youll redeem it nexr year surely. Proud of how u led a team with a few big names and rel unknown talent to the finals beating batting juggernaut teams. Thanks Sudharsan, Sundar, Butler for holding a batting order. Thanks DSP siraj, prasidh, rashid, rabada and co for being the wolves of t20 bowling. And holder u were every gujarat titans fan's heartthrpb ever since u started this season.

GT you may have lost the battle but 3 finals and 4 playoff qualifications in thefirst 4years is hell swag. We will our little but dedicated fanbase forever support u and coach nehra and hayden. Just tweak up ur mid order and then lets see who can defeat this team of flair and flamboyant cricket.

The trophy shall be ours next year. All Hail the class of 2026 who dared to challenge the many lakhs ppl who said otherwise

Hey guys ive heard some on the isfps in my life kinda say that they dont always see friends as closw. They reserve that closeness for family. But then i feel that intuitively they do treat me and ppl i know close to them a bit differently. What do u actually think there. Now ive seen this in my isfp connects partixularly so i asked elsw this doesnt seem very specific

Just wanted to express my deepest gratitude to u fellow isfps. Am an infj with an isfp bestoe. Being with him has taughtbme so many facets of life. U guya can be chill and live life in the moment. U guys can be chill with evryone but know how to show subtly that u enjoynsomebodys company. Amd the way u guys can socially blend into scenarios while maintaining ur philosophical side and persona is inspiring.

The level of committment u guys show is reassuring and u all are gems. The world needs more ppl like u who can love the present moment and teach spontaniety and true relationship

Heres my msg to u fellow infjers. We aint special. Yes we are a bit socially awkward sometimes and our level of intuition is high to make us feel weirdos and quirks. But heres the thing. No one cares. If we think ourselves to be normal, then we can enjoynthose littlest of things that can please us considerably. Just think urself to be normal and reduce that isolation we do. Interact qith fellows around u(be open with the few ppl u trust) and just let life loose. We aint responsible for the world, the less bueden we take its better. Just think oneself to be normal and love life thats it.

Learnt this from my isfp friend tday thought of sharing for all the fellow infjers out in the wild

Hey fellow infjs wanted to ask. Is it just me or do we look for deep convos, lots of one on one time and some spontaneity in friendships. I look forthe same which is why i have just 2 close friends outside my family. Likewhat wud u look for in a friendship, and what wud u specifically enjoy

Hey guys just wanted to ask.Do u isfps prefer starting a xonversation or letting one start it. Am an introverted feeling mbti too. And is that behqviour variable between th9se extra close to u and normal ppl. and what is smthing u look for in a friend

hi guys am an infj with an ISFP bestie. just wanted to say. u guys are amazing. but had a concern. like my friend helped me get over some real bad emotional disappointment and he seemed really cheerful and talkative and friendly with me. suddenly, next day, he became silent and didn’t talk to me the whole day. while he talked with the rest. like he’s genuinely caring and loving and he himself asked me how I was feeling before helping me out but is it that i am too overbearing

like do u isfps do that when u wanna dislike somebody or keep them away or what. like I’m genuinely confused he didn’t even tell me clearly when I asked him if he was alright like if I troubled him too much

Hi i need some help. I feel a friend of mine is going kind of silent and not really actively communicating with me. He does do it sometimes but is mostly silent with me in class. I want to ask him why but am to scared regarding the outcome like if i sound a bit to controlling or something. Cud u guys pls help me out. Its been going on since 2 months.

What according to you aresome of thetraits of anINFJ that are particularly helpful, appreciating in a very close friendship???

and what do u feel are also overwhelming for an infj in a friendship?

What are somethings that disturb an INFJ?

and what are s9me friendshop tips for infjs in a clos friendship situation only?

Hey isfps wud just wanna ask. How do u express and show to ur closest ones that u value and like them. Like what difference do u show. And say ur irritated(not betrayed or hurt) say by someone sharing their emotions with u, how long does it take for u to recuperate and forgive. and like what wud u think abt ppl who share their deepest emotions with u which they dont otherwise

Hey guys just wanted to ask. What do u guys like in a frirndship really close andwhzt wud u expect out of an infj. Just curious since my closest friend is an isfp and while i know what he likes andvice versa just curious to know if i missed out on smthing. And what wud u like in an infj friend and want. Really appreciate ur way to care and xalm js downandmake us feel neard to appreciatee u guys. Andhow do u guys show u care abt ur closest ppl.

Guys if u look at it not all is bad.

Batting order:- MAKE A FEW CHANGES LIKE gill and jos at top sai at third and remove either of tewatia or srk. Batting fixed. We might not have miller but will. Ecloss enough anyways.

Bowling at death:- Is an issue so try bringing a new bowler inlast 5 ove4s. We got suthat in in rcb match and we nearly got into game

Just this and evrything sort for me. I know its frustrating but we lost our mid order till lastseason. Lets bepatient and hope for best. Situations better than other teams like MI or KKR or LSG.

Am an INFJ and havean ISFP close friend. He just genuinely confuses me asto whether he likes me as a person or not. Like he doescare by criticising me on some small yet wrong habits and he doesnt do that with anyoneelse. How do i make himfeel that iveheard him and whatbdo i do that generally makes u guys feel safe andheard andlike other ppl??? He also says i worry and caretoo much for himdo isfpsnot like that???