Hate it when you're crammed into an elevator after a fire drill and you try to move your arm and accidentally hit your coworker's boob. Im a female btw and all I know how to do is say "excuse me" because obviously it was an accident and not intentional. 😒🙄
Has anyone else ever been through this before??
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I recently moved out of my boyfriend’s place into my own apartment. Since then, our relationship has felt distant and stagnant. He barely communicates—texts a few times a week asking “how’s work?” or calling just to ask “do you love me?”—but never talks about the future.
I just spoke to my so-called boyfriend tonight and I asked him "are you happy in this relationship?" And he said "...well im not sad." Then I said "It just seems like the relationship is at a standstill right now and there is no progress being made."
He said "there's not much progress that can be made. I'm not doing anything else besides meeting your parents." What kind of disrespectful stuff is that? To propose and then meet your parents and ask for their hand in marriage."
I told him "this is between me and you--not my parents. You don't talk about where you would like to see the future go or anything." He said "right now, I don't see a future with you without meeting your parents." 😒 this conversation went absolutely NOWHERE!! Thoughts??? How would you respond to this? It was just dead silence after he said all of this to me.
He hasn’t visited my new place, helped me move (except for a few things a few months ago & that's it) or made any effort to spend time together. When I’ve asked for help with small tasks (like carrying items to my car), he’s complained, made rude comments, or refused, citing tiredness or headaches.
He criticized my quick decision to secure my apartment, even though I had to move close to work and could only afford a specific rent. Despite knowing I’ve been looking for months, he acted surprised and unsupportive.
I’m frustrated because his actions don’t demonstrate commitment—he’s not helping, planning a future, or showing care—while I’ve been managing financially and logistically on my own. I’m considering attending an upcoming online Speed Dating event because I don’t want to wait around indefinitely for someone who isn’t showing effort.
Essentially: he’s emotionally distant, unsupportive, and unhelpful, and the relationship seems stuck while I’m trying to move forward with my life.
i randomly asked him a week ago on the phone "so when are we going to see each other?" and he said "he doesn't know because he has to save his gas or something like that." smh. My friend said im single and my boyfriend knows Im moving on, but just hasn't addressed the situation and that his actions are not demonstrating the fact that he is in a relationship.
i called him yesterday after I got off work to ask him if he could bring my plastic container out to my car and my set of dumbbells and he said he "had a bad headache and couldn't do it." 😒
She thinks it wouldn't be wrong for me to go to this online Speed Dating event because things sound like they are over beteeen us. She said he hasn't tried to come to my new place to have dinner or spend time with me, or anything. Would it be wrong for me to attend the virtual Speed Dating event? I don't want to wait around forever for someone to show up for me and waste the rest of my 30s away.
Fast forward to now (a month later), there is another Virtual Speed Dating Event that is upcoming on May 27th, and am kind of considering going to the event. Would that be a bad idea? I just feel like relationship is going nowhere at this point and that there is little to no effort being put in to the relationship.
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I went over to my boyfriend's place a few weeks ago to get more of my things i was unable to get the last time (i.e, work monitor, food items in fridge, clean out older food items, etc) and I decided to ask him--"do you even like me?" and he responded and said "why not? That's a random question you asked me out of nowhere." I said "sometimes I feel like you don't." He replied & said "I'm sorry you feel that way." He asked me if I missed him & I didn't respond.
Then, when I asked him if he could help me take a few items to my car and he whined and said he was tired. He said "are you going to be able to take all of those bags out in one trip?" I'm not making a 2nd trip.
He even made a comment when I mentioned how there was no space for me to put any trash in the trash can--& said "its good that there isn't because you have alot of trash." smh. He just doesn't even TRY!!!
soooo frustrating...
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I recently moved out of my boyfriend's apartment this past Tuesday, March 17th. He wanted me to wake up at 6am this past Saturday (because that was the ONLY TIME he said he could help me take a few things to my new apartment before his barbershop appointment that was scheduled for 2pm). He said he needed to come back home, take a nap, & wash his hair before his appointment. It was super frustrating because he didn't help me take anything else to my apartment besides THAT DAY.
I still have to pickup my Work Computer monitor that I left at his place, swiffer mop, a few other small bags of things, and some food items in the fridge & freezer at this place. Should I let him know that I plan to stop by either today or tomorrow to pickup these things and should I give him back the key he gave me?
He even asked me last week "so your commute and you being closing to your job is more important than me?" SMH
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\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\*\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\*\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\*FINALLY got my keys to my new apartment ON MY OWN (Without my boyfriend).
Last week, he was not saying much to me for a few days & whenever I asked him what was wrong & tried to touch him, he said he was tired.
Well, I finally got him to open up to & start talking to me.
He finally revealed to me what was bothering him & said "Dont tell ppl stuff and then change your mind about it. One day you say you're gonna do one thing & then the next day, you say you're going to do something else. I feel like you're trying to mess me up. Then you said " I got the apartment. Then I'm thinking I gotta figure out how im gonna get 600 dollars in 2 weeks.
I replied to him & said "I'm sorry you feel that way. Im not trying to intentionally mess you up.
I told you I would still give you money to go towards some of next month's rent. I just explained to you how I only received Half of a paycheck for my first check & would have to wait until my 2nd paycheck (when I receive a FULL PAYCHECK) to pay you."
Btw, he has not offered to help me take anything that needs to go with me to my new apartment to my car--LET ALONE help me move at all. He said "I don't really want any movers in my apartment." He also said "you don't really have alot of stuff & you don't live that far away to be making multiple trips to your apartment to drop stuff off." 😒
How would you even respond to this??? Its just frustrating. All I really need is a moving company to transport my items (clothes, food, extra bags, etc) to my new apartment using their truck or van. But they all charge for a minimum of 2 hours of labor and I was quote $340 to $414 for it--which is insane. I don't even have any furniture to move smh.
He criticized me for being quick to get the apartment because the leasing agent told me about a deal. I told him I did not qualify for the apartment that was more money because I don't make 3 times the monthly rent. He said to me "so you really think NO OTHER apartment that is as affordable as the one you got now is going to be affordable in a few months?" And I told him "no, because the rent prices tend to increase alot when the weather gets warmer."
I decided to move because I just started a new job & have an extremely stressful & hectic commute. I wanted to be as close as possible to work especially during my probationary period. I need to make a great impression and not struggle with my commute & time as much as possible. I expressed this to my boyfriend & told him i was trying to find an affordable apartment as soon as possible so that I would have an easier commute--especially since I have to be at work at 8am.
He knew about how I was looking for an affordable place to live for several months. So I don't know why he's acting so bothered and surprised now. He has not expressed or discussed any plans of wanting to get married to me in the future at all--so does he think im just going to wait around for him Forever?!
I told him I would give him $250 or so for utilities since I would not be able to give him the normal $680-$860 i normally give him-ESPECIALLY since I am no long getting unemployment.
I was recently unemployed from September 2025 to Earlier this month & was STILL paying him money for my portion of the rent.
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Since I moved out of my boyfriend's place and got my own apartment last month, we have been distant. he has texted me a few times every week asking me "how's work?" but nothing else. He has called me a few times as well and hasn't said anything about where the relationship stands at all, which is frustrating. He has asked me everytime we spoke on the phone recently--"do you love me?" and that's it.
i randomly asked him a week ago on the phone "so when are we going to see each other?" and he said "he doesn't know because he has to save his gas or something like that." smh. My friend said im single and my boyfriend knows Im moving on, but just hasn't addressed the situation and that his actions are not demonstrating the fact that he is in a relationship.
i called him yesterday after I got off work to ask him if he could bring my plastic container out to my car and my set of dumbbells and he said he "had a bad headache and couldn't do it." 😒
She thinks it wouldn't be wrong for me to go to this online Speed Dating event because things sound like they are over beteeen us. She said he hasn't tried to come to my new place to have dinner or spend time with me, or anything. Would it be wrong for me to attend the virtual Speed Dating event? I don't want to wait around forever for someone to show up for me and waste the rest of my 30s away.
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He even made a comment when I mentioned how there was no space for me to put any trash in the trash can--& said "its good that there isn't because you have alot of trash." smh. He just doesn't even TRY!!!
soooo frustrating...
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\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\*\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\*\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\*FINALLY got my keys to my new apartment ON MY OWN (Without my boyfriend).
Last week, he was not saying much to me for a few days & whenever I asked him what was wrong & tried to touch him, he said he was tired.
Well, I finally got him to open up to & start talking to me. He finally revealed to me what was bothering him & said "Dont tell ppl stuff and then change your mind about it. One day you say you're gonna do one thing & then the next day, you say you're going to do something else. I feel like you're trying to mess me up. Then you said " I got the apartment. Then I'm thinking I gotta figure out how im gonna get 600 dollars in 2 weeks.
I replied to him & said "I'm sorry you feel that way. Im not trying to intentionally mess you up.
I told you I would still give you money to go towards some of next month's rent. I just explained to you how I only received Half of a paycheck for my first check & would have to wait until my 2nd paycheck (when I receive a FULL PAYCHECK) to pay you."
Btw, he has not offered to help me take anything that needs to go with me to my new apartment to my car--LET ALONE help me move at all. He said "I don't really want any movers in my apartment." He also said "you don't really have alot of stuff & you don't live that far away to be making multiple trips to your apartment to drop stuff off." 😒
How would you even respond to this??? Its just frustrating. All I really need is a moving company to transport my items (clothes, food, extra bags, etc) to my new apartment using their truck or van. But they all charge for a minimum of 2 hours of labor and I was quote $340 to $414 for it--which is insane. I don't even have any furniture to move smh.
He criticized me for being quick to get the apartment because the leasing agent told me about a deal. I told him I did not qualify for the apartment that was more money because I don't make 3 times the monthly rent. He said to me "so you really think NO OTHER apartment that is as affordable as the one you got now is going to be affordable in a few months?" And I told him "no, because the rent prices tend to increase alot when the weather gets warmer."
I decided to move because I just started a new job & have an extremely stressful & hectic commute. I wanted to be as close as possible to work especially during my probationary period. I need to make a great impression and not struggle with my commute & time as much as possible. I expressed this to my boyfriend & told him i was trying to find an affordable apartment as soon as possible so that I would have an easier commute--especially since I have to be at work at 8am.
He knew about how I was looking for an affordable place to live for several months. So I don't know why he's acting so bothered and surprised now. He has not expressed or discussed any plans of wanting to get married to me in the future at all--so does he think im just going to wait around for him Forever?!
I told him the Leasing Consultant at the leasing office of the apartment told me to apply for the apartment ASAP because the units go fast & the prices fluctuate. I did exactly this because I also noticed that then rent was going to be over $1600 if I tried to move around March or April. I don't make enough money to afford an apartment that is more than $1480.
I told him I would give him $250 or so for utilities since I would not be able to give him the normal $680-$860 i normally give him-ESPECIALLY since I am no long getting unemployment.
I was recently unemployed from September 2025 to Earlier this month & was STILL paying him money for my portion of the rent.
I recently moved out of my boyfriend’s place into my own apartment. Since then, our relationship has felt distant and stagnant. He barely communicates—texts a few times a week asking “how’s work?” or calling just to ask “do you love me?”—but never talks about the future.
I just spoke to my so-called boyfriend tonight and I asked him "are you happy in this relationship?" And he said "...well im not sad." Then I said "It just seems like the relationship is at a standstill right now and there is no progress being made."
He said "there's not much progress that can be made. I'm not doing anything else besides meeting your parents." What kind of disrespectful stuff is that? To propose and then meet your parents and ask for their hand in marriage."
I told him "this is between me and you--not my parents. You don't talk about where you would like to see the future go or anything." He said "right now, I don't see a future with you without meeting your parents." 😒 this conversation went absolutely NOWHERE!! Thoughts??? How would you respond to this? It was just dead silence after he said all of this to me.
He hasn’t visited my new place, helped me move (except for a few things a few months ago & that's it) or made any effort to spend time together. When I’ve asked for help with small tasks (like carrying items to my car), he’s complained, made rude comments, or refused, citing
tiredness or headaches.
He criticized my quick decision to secure my apartment,
even though I had to move close to work and could only afford a specific rent. Despite knowing I’ve been looking for months, he acted surprised and unsupportive.
I’m frustrated because his actions don’t demonstrate commitment—he’s not helping, planning a future, or showing care—while I’ve been managing financially and logistically on my own. I’m considering attending an upcoming online Speed Dating event because I don’t want to wait around indefinitely for someone who isn’t showing effort.
Essentially: he’s emotionally distant, unsupportive, and unhelpful, and the relationship seems stuck while I’m trying to move forward with my life.
i randomly asked him a week ago on the phone "so when are we going to see each other?" and he said "he doesn't know because he has to save his gas or something like that." smh. My friend said im single and my boyfriend knows Im moving on, but just hasn't addressed the situation and that his actions are not demonstrating the fact that he is in a relationship.
i called him yesterday after I got off work to ask him if he could bring my plastic container out to my car and my set of dumbbells and he said he "had a bad headache and couldn't do it." 😒
She thinks it wouldn't be wrong for me to go to this online Speed Dating event because things sound like they are over beteeen us. She said he hasn't tried to come to my new place to have dinner or spend time with me, or anything. Would it be wrong for me to attend the virtual Speed Dating event? I don't want to wait around forever for someone to show up for me and waste the rest of my 30s away.
Fast forward to now (a month later), there is another Virtual Speed Dating Event that is upcoming on May 27th, and am kind of considering going to the event. Would that be a bad idea? I just feel like relationship is going nowhere at this point and that there is little to no effort being put in to the relationship.
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I went over to my boyfriend's place today to get more of my things i was unable to get the last time (i.e, work monitor, food items in fridge, clean out older food items, etc) and I decided to ask him--"do you even like me?" and he responded and said "why not? That's a random question you asked me out of nowhere." I said "sometimes I feel like you don't." He replied & said "I'm sorry you feel that way." He asked me if I missed him & I didn't respond.
Then, when I asked him if he could help me take a few items to my car and he whined and said he was tired. He said "are you going to be able to take all of those bags out in one trip?" I'm not making a 2nd trip.
He even made a comment when I mentioned how there was no space for me to put any trash in the trash can--& said "its good that there isn't because you have alot of trash." smh. He just doesn't even TRY!!!
soooo frustrating...
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I recently moved out of my boyfriend's apartment this past Tuesday, March 17th. He wanted me to wake up at 6am this past Saturday (because that was the ONLY TIME he said he could help me take a few things to my new apartment before his barbershop appointment that was scheduled for 2pm). He said he needed to come back home, take a nap, & wash his hair before his appointment. It was super frustrating because he didn't help me take anything else to my apartment besides THAT DAY.
I still have to pickup my Work Computer monitor that I left at his place, swiffer mop, a few other small bags of things, and some food items in the fridge & freezer at this place. Should I let him know that I plan to stop by either today or tomorrow to pickup these things and should I give him back the key he gave me?
He even asked me last week "so your commute and you being closing to your job is more important than me?" SMH
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\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\*\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\*\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\*FINALLY got my keys to my new apartment ON MY OWN (Without my boyfriend).
Last week, he was not saying much to me for a few days & whenever I asked him what was wrong & tried to touch him, he said he was tired.
Well, I finally got him to open up to & start talking to me. He finally revealed to me what was bothering him & said "Dont tell ppl stuff and then change your mind about it. One day you say you're gonna do one thing & then the next day, you say you're going to do something else. I feel like you're trying to mess me up. Then you said " I got the apartment. Then I'm thinking I gotta figure out how im gonna get 600 dollars in 2 weeks.
I replied to him & said "I'm sorry you feel that way. Im not trying to intentionally mess you up.
I told you I would still give you money to go towards some of next month's rent. I just explained to you how I only received Half of a paycheck for my first check & would have to wait until my 2nd paycheck (when I receive a FULL PAYCHECK) to pay you."
Btw, he has not offered to help me take anything that needs to go with me to my new apartment to my car--LET ALONE help me move at all. He said "I don't really want any movers in my apartment." He also said "you don't really have alot of stuff & you don't live that far away to be making multiple trips to your apartment to drop stuff off." 😒
How would you even respond to this??? Its just frustrating. All I really need is a moving company to transport my items (clothes, food, extra bags, etc) to my new apartment using their truck or van. But they all charge for a minimum of 2 hours of labor and I was quote $340 to $414 for it--which is insane. I don't even have any furniture to move smh.
He criticized me for being quick to get the apartment because the leasing agent told me about a deal. I told him I did not qualify for the apartment that was more money because I don't make 3 times the monthly rent. He said to me "so you really think NO OTHER apartment that is as affordable as the one you got now is going to be affordable in a few months?" And I told him "no, because the rent prices tend to increase alot when the weather gets warmer."
I decided to move because I just started a new job & have an extremely stressful & hectic commute. I wanted to be as close as possible to work especially during my probationary period. I need to make a great impression and not struggle with my commute & time as much as possible. I expressed this to my boyfriend & told him i was trying to find an affordable apartment as soon as possible so that I would have an easier commute--especially since I have to be at work at 8am.
He knew about how I was looking for an affordable place to live for several months. So I don't know why he's acting so bothered and surprised now. He has not expressed or discussed any plans of wanting to get married to me in the future at all--so does he think im just going to wait around for him Forever?!
I told him I would give him $250 or so for utilities since I would not be able to give him the normal $680-$860 i normally give him-ESPECIALLY since I am no long getting unemployment.
I was recently unemployed from September 2025 to Earlier this month & was STILL paying him money for my portion of the rent.
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Since I moved out of my boyfriend's place and got my own apartment last month, we have been distant. he has texted me a few times every week asking me "how's work?" but nothing else. He has called me a few times as well and hasn't said anything about where the relationship stands at all, which is frustrating. He has asked me everytime we spoke on the phone recently--"do you love me?" and that's it.
i randomly asked him a week ago on the phone "so when are we going to see each other?" and he said "he doesn't know because he has to save his gas or something like that." smh. My friend said im single and my boyfriend knows Im moving on, but just hasn't addressed the situation and that his actions are not demonstrating the fact that he is in a relationship.
i called him yesterday after I got off work to ask him if he could bring my plastic container out to my car and my set of dumbbells and he said he "had a bad headache and couldn't do it." 😒
She thinks it wouldn't be wrong for me to go to this online Speed Dating event because things sound like they are over beteeen us. She said he hasn't tried to come to my new place to have dinner or spend time with me, or anything. Would it be wrong for me to attend the virtual Speed Dating event? I don't want to wait around forever for someone to show up for me and waste the rest of my 30s away.
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I went over to my boyfriend's place today to get more of my things i was unable to get the last time (i.e, work monitor, food items in fridge, clean out older food items, etc) and I decided to ask him--"do you even like me?" and he responded and said "why not? That's a random question you asked me out of nowhere." I said "sometimes I feel like you don't." He replied & said "I'm sorry you feel that way." He asked me if I missed him & I didn't respond.
Then, when I asked him if he could help me take a few items to my car and he whined and said he was tired. He said "are you going to be able to take all of those bags out in one trip?" I'm not making a 2nd trip.
He even made a comment when I mentioned how there was no space for me to put any trash in the trash can--& said "its good that there isn't because you have alot of trash." smh. He just doesn't even TRY!!!
soooo frustrating...
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I recently moved out of my boyfriend's apartment this past Tuesday, March 17th. He wanted me to wake up at 6am this past Saturday (because that was the ONLY TIME he said he could help me take a few things to my new apartment before his barbershop appointment that was scheduled for 2pm). He said he needed to come back home, take a nap, & wash his hair before his appointment. It was super frustrating because he didn't help me take anything else to my apartment besides THAT DAY.
I still have to pickup my Work Computer monitor that I left at his place, swiffer mop, a few other small bags of things, and some food items in the fridge & freezer at this place. Should I let him know that I plan to stop by either today or tomorrow to pickup these things and should I give him back the key he gave me?
He even asked me last week "so your commute and you being closing to your job is more important than me?" SMH
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\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\*\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\*\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\*FINALLY got my keys to my new apartment ON MY OWN (Without my boyfriend).
Last week, he was not saying much to me for a few days & whenever I asked him what was wrong & tried to touch him, he said he was tired.
Well, I finally got him to open up to & start talking to me. He finally revealed to me what was bothering him & said "Dont tell ppl stuff and then change your mind about it. One day you say you're gonna do one thing & then the next day, you say you're going to do something else. I feel like you're trying to mess me up. Then you said " I got the apartment. Then I'm thinking I gotta figure out how im gonna get 600 dollars in 2 weeks.
I replied to him & said "I'm sorry you feel that way. Im not trying to intentionally mess you up.
I told you I would still give you money to go towards some of next month's rent. I just explained to you how I only received Half of a paycheck for my first check & would have to wait until my 2nd paycheck (when I receive a FULL PAYCHECK) to pay you."
Btw, he has not offered to help me take anything that needs to go with me to my new apartment to my car--LET ALONE help me move at all. He said "I don't really want any movers in my apartment." He also said "you don't really have alot of stuff & you don't live that far away to be making multiple trips to your apartment to drop stuff off." 😒
How would you even respond to this??? Its just frustrating. All I really need is a moving company to transport my items (clothes, food, extra bags, etc) to my new apartment using their truck or van. But they all charge for a minimum of 2 hours of labor and I was quote $340 to $414 for it--which is insane. I don't even have any furniture to move smh.
He criticized me for being quick to get the apartment because the leasing agent told me about a deal. I told him I did not qualify for the apartment that was more money because I don't make 3 times the monthly rent. He said to me "so you really think NO OTHER apartment that is as affordable as the one you got now is going to be affordable in a few months?" And I told him "no, because the rent prices tend to increase alot when the weather gets warmer."
I decided to move because I just started a new job & have an extremely stressful & hectic commute. I wanted to be as close as possible to work especially during my probationary period. I need to make a great impression and not struggle with my commute & time as much as possible. I expressed this to my boyfriend & told him i was trying to find an affordable apartment as soon as possible so that I would have an easier commute--especially since I have to be at work at 8am.
He knew about how I was looking for an affordable place to live for several months. So I don't know why he's acting so bothered and surprised now. He has not expressed or discussed any plans of wanting to get married to me in the future at all--so does he think im just going to wait around for him Forever?!
I told him the Leasing Consultant at the leasing office of the apartment told me to apply for the apartment ASAP because the units go fast & the prices fluctuate. I did exactly this because I also noticed that then rent was going to be over $1600 if I tried to move around March or April. I don't make enough money to afford an apartment that is more than $1480.
I told him I would give him $250 or so for utilities since I would not be able to give him the normal $680-$860 i normally give him-ESPECIALLY since I am no long getting unemployment.
I was recently unemployed from September 2025 to Earlier this month & was STILL paying him money for my portion of the rent.
Went to the repair shop to get my brake pads and rotors put on & the mechanic told me my frion is leaking. He said that he would need to hook it up to an AC machine & put some dye on it to detect where the leak is coming from (i.e., whether the leak is coming from the compressor or someplace else). He said it will take up to 3 hours for them to figure out where the leak is coming from.🙄
I told my coworker about it & he said he has worked on cars for 30 years and recommended me to get some R-134a Refrigerant, and said that that will seal any leaks that are going on with my car. I went to Auto Zone and bought some but am wondering how long the sealant will last. Does anyone have any advice on what to do? Is the R-134a Refrigerant reliable? Is it a waste to spend $140 to have the mechanic hook my AC system up to a machine and put dye on it to detect where the leak is coming from? Any help would be greatly appreciated!!
Went to the repair shop to get my brake pads and rotors put on & the mechanic told me my frion is leaking. He said that he would need to hook it up to an AC machine & put some dye on it to detect where the leak is coming from (i.e., whether the leak is coming from the compressor or someplace else). He said it will take up to 3 hours for them to figure out where the leak is coming from.🙄
I told my coworker about it & he said he has worked on cars for 30 years and recommended me to get some R-134a Refrigerant, and said that that will seal any leaks that are going on with my car. I went to Auto Zone and bought some but am wondering how long the sealant will last. Does anyone have any advice on what to do? Is the R-134a Refrigerant reliable? Is it a waste to spend $140 to have the mechanic hook my AC system up to a machine and put dye on it to detect where the leak is coming from? Any help would be greatly appreciated!!
Went to the repair shop to get my brake pads and rotors put on & the mechanic told me my frion is leaking. He said that he would need to hook it up to an AC machine & put some dye on it to detect where the leak is coming from (i.e., whether the leak is coming from the compressor or someplace else). He said it will take up to 3 hours for them to figure out where the leak is coming from.🙄
I told my coworker about it & he said he has worked on cars for 30 years and recommended me to get some R-134a Refrigerant, and said that that will seal any leaks that are going on with my car. I went to Auto Zone and bought some but am wondering how long the sealant will last. Does anyone have any advice on what to do? Is the R-134a Refrigerant reliable? Is it a waste to spend $140 to have the mechanic hook my AC system up to a machine and put dye on it to detect where the leak is coming from? Any help would be greatly appreciated!!
I just started a new job and have been here for almost 3 months and honestly I CANNOT wait until I can freaking telework. One of my new coworkers and the lady who trained her got on my nerves today. Her trainer has absolutely NO CONSIDERATION for anyone else AT ALL. I answer phones all day long at a bank and all I can hear is her talking on the phone semi loud to the customer on the line and her annoying side conversations with my coworker who she trained. Its hard to focus on the caller and what they are saying and try to tune out the annoying background noise. So ridiculous.
Also, with me being new--I'm also self conscious about people listening to my conversations while I'm talking as well. I could have sworn I heard the trainer in my section whisper to the girl she trained while I was on the phone and say "I can't help but overhear and listen to peoples' conversations." Like wth. EXTREMELY ANNOYING, AGGRAVATING, IRRITATING, and it makes me feel very uncomfortable because I feel like I'm being judged while I'm on the phone. How do you even handle an issue like this??
I wonder if it would be wrong for me to ask my Manager if I can get my seat moved. I can't keep working like this.
I just started a new job and have been here for almost 3 months and honestly I CANNOT wait until I can freaking telework. One of my new coworkers and the lady who trained her got on my nerves today. Her trainer has absolutely NO CONSIDERATION for anyone else AT ALL. I answer phones all day long at a bank and all I can hear is her talking on the phone semi loud to the customer on the line and her annoying side conversations with my coworker who she trained. Its hard to focus on the caller and what they are saying and try to tune out the annoying background noise. So ridiculous.
Also, with me being new--I'm also self conscious about people listening to my conversations while I'm talking as well. I could have sworn I heard the trainer in my section whisper to the girl she trained while I was on the phone and say "I can't help but overhear and listen to peoples' conversations." Like wth. EXTREMELY ANNOYING, AGGRAVATING, IRRITATING, and it makes me feel very uncomfortable because I feel like I'm being judged while I'm on the phone. How do you even handle an issue like this??
I just started a new job and have been here for almost 3 months and honestly I CANNOT wait until I can freaking telework. One of my new coworkers and the lady who trained her got on my nerves today. Her trainer has absolutely NO CONSIDERATION for anyone else AT ALL. I answer phones all day long at a bank and all I can hear is her talking on the phone semi loud to the customer on the line and her annoying side conversations with my coworker who she trained. Its hard to focus on the caller and what they are saying and try to tune out the annoying background noise. So ridiculous.
Also, with me being new--I'm also self conscious about people listening to my conversations while I'm talking as well. I could have sworn I heard the trainer in my section whisper to the girl she trained while I was on the phone and say "I can't help but overhear and listen to peoples' conversations." Like wth. EXTREMELY ANNOYING, AGGRAVATING, IRRITATING, and it makes me feel very uncomfortable because I feel like I'm being judged while I'm on the phone. How do you even handle an issue like this??
I'm absolutely pissed and beyond LIVID that I could not meet with my provider (Psych. Nurse Pract.) this evening. She chose NOT to renew/authorize my refill of my prescription that I reached out to her about a few days ago AFTER she texted me asking me if I could meet today in the evening time, rather than our original scheduled appointment time--which was yesterday evening after work.
She texted me the Zoom link to our meeting tonight exactly 2 MINUTES before our scheduled meeting and I tried my best to log on using the link she sent me & the Meeting ID--however, I kept receiving error messages. I texted her & said, "Hi im trying to sign in now. Its giving me a hard time. Can we please do a phone call?."" The idiot never responded. So not only did I waste time waiting for our so-called "RESCHEDULED APPT TIME, but I also wasted time driving to the pharmacy because I stupidly thought I would easily be able to pickup my prescription" after my failed meeting with her. 🙄😒 WTF is wrong with people??? Why was it so damn hard for her to just respond to my message or at least try to acknowledge it.
Would you try to deal with the same provider or find a new one? I suffer from Generalized Anxiety Disorder and have been trying to get acclimated to my new job after being unemployed for 4.5 months. It definitely does NOT help my anxiety to have to manage my provider who supposed to helping me cope with my anxiety better. What a jerk.
Oh and btw, she ignored my text and then responded the NEXT DAY and said "I am just seeing this. Would you like to reschedule?" She NEVER apologized for not responding to my text or anything like wth??? I ended up going with a different provider because she seriously inconvenienced me. How do you even let a horrible provider like this know that you want to move on from them and found a more suitable provider??