u/Beginning_Bird5682

My ex and I are no longer together, and while that’s genuinely a good thing because our relationship was highly dysfunctional, I still find myself getting upset about the plans that we made that won’t get to happen or the person I was when we first met that will never exist again. Feels like a lifetime that is gone. The memories feel like watching a home video from childhood with people and things that are no longer around, which leaves me with a feeling of never ending grief. I don’t feel like this 24/7, but when I am alone my mind goes to the vault of memories I have and it makes me very sad every time. I would have loved for things to have worked out, my life is good now too, however there was level of excitement that I can’t seem to generate on my own. Feels like I’ll never feel as happy as I once felt.

At times, I feel like certain family members are jealous of my wins and have a hard time celebrating my successes. On the other hand, when I am having life problems, they are all ears and want to hear about all of it. I didn’t feel this way when I was younger, but now that I am in my late 20’s, the negative sides of people I love are starting to show.

For example, when my grandfather was alive, my grandma told me that my grandfather told her I looked really fat. My grandmother was overweight for most of her life, so I was shocked when she told me that. Clearly, my grandfather made that comment to her privately which is okay. But there was no real reason to have shared that with me other than to make me feel bad. I can’t see this in any other way than perhaps jealousy?

I have also confided in my brother about how my life finally feels like it’s going well, and I’ve noticed that he really gives me the cold shoulder. I can’t help but feel like now that my life is not riddled with problems and I’m doing better for myself, he dislikes hearing about the things going well in my life.

Have you ever dealt with this? How do you continue to have a connection with people who seemingly dislike when you are happy? Is it normal for people to like you more when you are struggling?

Today was wonderful. Started off kind of blah, but I was able to do do some great things for myself. I got my groceries, went to the park, ate a delicious slice of cheesecake, bought myself a new self care item, took a hot shower with all my favorite products, and ended the night with a nutritious dinner. As I sit here drinking my chamomile tea reflecting on my day, I feel really at peace.

It throws me off because I am not seeking approval in any shape way or form. I’m just being open about something that I am doing whether she agrees or not. It makes me feel like she is trying to tell me what is and isn’t acceptable to do with my life. Am I being too sensitive? Is there a different way I could or should be thinking about these comments?

I recently quit a bunch of bad habits that naturally led to me turning inward and reassessing everything in my life - relationships, friendships, career, goals, etc. now that I have a clearer understanding of the type of person I would like to become and the type of life I would like to live moving forward, I am finding it difficult to relate to people who I used to share more in common with. I don’t think I’m better than anyone who I previously connected with, but I’m finding myself judging their life choices and feeling like maybe I don’t have enough in common with them anymore to keep the connection. Additionally, I’m finding it hard to accept some of their life choices that are clearly harming them, and it’s making me want to distance myself because it is hard for me to find a response that doesn’t come off judgy. I am proud of who I am becoming and have quit some really bad habits but we all need people in our lives and I don’t know how to find that balance between being there for others and realizing that I am moving in a different direction with my life. It feels like if I keep feeling like this I will inevitably self isolate and maybe I will have no one to turn to and that feels really scary.

I recently quit a bunch of bad habits that naturally led to me turning inward and reassessing everything in my life - relationships, friendships, career, goals, etc. now that I have a clearer understanding of the type of person I would like to become and the type of life I would like to live moving forward, I am finding it difficult to relate to people who I used to share more in common with. I don’t think I’m better than anyone who I previously connected with, but I’m finding myself judging their life choices and feeling like maybe I don’t have enough in common with them anymore to keep the connection. Additionally, I’m finding it hard to accept some of their life choices that are clearly harming them, and it’s making me want to distance myself because it is hard for me to find a response that doesn’t come off judgy. I am proud of who I am becoming and have quit some really bad habits but we all need people in our lives and I don’t know how to find that balance between being there for others and realizing that I am moving in a different direction with my life. It feels like if I keep feeling like this I will inevitably self isolate and maybe I will have no one to turn to and that feels really scary.

Hello! I’m looking for an aromatic face masque for those days when I want to boost my mood and take a moment for myself. Not looking for a sheet masque but more of a clay or cream masque that sits on my skin while I’m in the bath. Thank you in advance!

After 4 years, I’m starting to deal with what I believe to be stress induced health issues. These have been the most stressful 4 years of my entire life and I attribute that to my toxic relationship. I had extremely poor boundaries, and now I am facing the consequences of years of stress because i didn’t leave earlier. I am undergoing all sorts of testing right now because I’m having symptoms of illness and i feel scared and stressed. I wish i had left earlier. I wish I had put myself first. Have you ever gone through health issues following the end of a terrible relationship? How long did it take for you to heal? I’m worried that I will never feel healthy and overcome the damage caused.