my nervous system knows no rest because I live with family and need to pretend I’m muslim so ofc I’m always policed on whether or not I for real prayed and read quran it’s sooo fucking exhausting and I’m constantly on edge. I hate whoever spread Islam to my country all of my problems stem from my family being religious. can’t wait to move out when I’m rich enough religion of piss notnpeace
In my case I’m talking about uk south asian diaspora. Mind you this guy lives in the UK and was brought up here as you can tell by his accent. Why tf is he viewing women in such a lustful way? Women wear saris for themselves not for the male gaze. It’s part of our culture and when I tell you Islam has ruined how we can wear our cultural clothing that’s deemed as ‘acceptable’ within our families and communities. We have creeps like him sexualising women for wearing cultural clothing. Is he ok in the head? I remember having a Bengali Quran teacher who was proper extremist and she only wore niqab and burqa and said saris, lenghad, the heavy Asian jewellery are completely haram and evil. Pure brainwash this religion is I can’t believe the damage it has done to South Asia and I will forever mourn how my life and others could’ve been if Islam wasn’t introduced to our ancestors 😐
I’m sooo happpy!!! I’m trying to get used to using a Macbook and its controls as a former windows user lol. My last laptop was a HP pavilion 360 which I bought in 2018, the hinges were loose, wouldn’t close properly, slow af so an upgrade was needed. the speakers are so damn good on the Neo I didn’t expect it to be as loud as it is? I was watching some Netflix and was surprised! Also downloaded Roblox and it’s realllyyyy goood I love it, no lag! I hope this laptop lasts me many years, tbh I’m not gonna do anything heavy on it. Just wanted one for basic use and Roblox. Might push my luck and try after effects on it…? That’s if I get back into editing.
I live in the fucking UK, Im a closeted ex muslim who still wears hijab. My family don’t know i left but there are signs. I don’t read Quran like my mum wants me to, she always says read after every prayer. I fake pray to keep the peace or my mum will scream the house down and abuse me. I fake it all to keep myself safe. But me not reading Quran is more noticeable to my mum. rn my aunty is staying at my house, and she told me off to my aunty saying I never read Quran and use trauma as an excuse to not read it. For context I’ve had terrible experiences in madrasah and Quran classes with teachers abusing me physically and verbally, I have adhd so was always zoning o it during Quran classes and my teachers would berate and abuse me for this. Then my aunty says you shouldn’t let teachers dictate your experience they have nothing to do with Quran. Yes the fuck they do? They are Muslims they represent ISLAM. If they’re forcing it on me they’re reflecting Islam. Anyways my mum and aunt spend time trying to convince me to read it again. I’m not responding but it’s obvious I’m really pissed off. I’m 22 years old why the fuck are you trying to force me to read Quran and be religious we live in ENGLAND FOR FUCKS SAKE WHY CANT I BE LEFT ALONE?!!!! If I were to force them to be atheist that wouldn’t be right so why do they think they can do the same? Fuck this family I can’t wait to leave
Okay, unpopular opinion. I truly think kpop Stan culture, specifically around male kpop groups and their fans enables so much misogyny and forgiveness towards men. Recently a famous kpop boy group got called out by a lot of other kpop stans, their own fandom etc for hanging out with a well known abuser in the western music industry, and basically promoting him on their story. This western artist tried to kill his former partner and abused her really badly. But, I’ve seen a lot of women and young teenage girls essentially forgive their kpop boy group they Stan and say things like ‘I’m still stanning them and holding them accountable’ ‘I’m disappointed but I will still keep stanning them, I know they will apologise shortly’. And it just got me thinking how this parasocialism of forgiving these idol’s bad actions and choices can very much reflect into real life where if you are in a romantic relationship with a man you brush off any concerning things he does because you believe he can change and his apologies mean something. Idk, am I tripping. I’m just so concerned to see so many young girls defend this group like their life depends on it. Because I promise you, these group of men don’t give a fuck about victims of abuse, they don’t care about women if they’re hanging out proudly with a renowned misogynist abuser. And they do have a history of misogyny themselves through song lyrics and much more. And furthermore, I’ve seen women/girl fans from many boy group fandoms constantly be misogynistic to women idols and girl groups. To be honest kpop industry as a whole is pure misogyny.
Growing up mum has always been in abusive in different ways. Childhood it was extremely physical and emotional, as a teen more emotional, less physical but I still did get hit. Adulthood it’s more mental, emotional and financial.Finanical control is something else. She stole my child trust fund which if you don’t know what it is, when you are born the government and your parents put in money each year, and you can withdraw funds when YOU turn 18, and it’s legally yours all in your name. My mum did some fraud shit and pretended to be me to withdraw the money so she could use it to go to religious pilgrimage to Saudi Arabia, I had little consent over this, I was 18 at the time with nothing to my name and still dependent on parents. Years later I realise this is financial abuse, I bring it up to her and she said it’s your dad’s hard earned money. I’m like please research what a trust fund is and how it’s legally mine. She just screams in my face. Anyways, recently she wanted new living room furniture which costs a lot of money, she asks me for my savings which I refuse to. She then cries to everyone eg my aunts and tells them im a selfish child, how she did everything for me I.e clothe me and feed me when I was a kid and bought me books and I can’t even lend her my savings. I refused to give my savings because I need that money when I move out - didn’t tell her the reason of course. Not only that, she practically forces me to be muslim. I am ex muslim and have to pretend I am to keep the peace. I wear the hijab, pretend I pray etc, I do fear my life is in danger if she ever finds out the truth. She always has problems with whenever I go out for fun and assumes I’m being a wh##re, even though im literally with my friends. She tried to pressure me to get married at 18 to men from back home and told me it’s so wrong if women never marry and you’ll be a sinner if you remain unmarried. I feel so much eggshells around her I still live with my parents and I hate it so fucking much, I’ve had more panic attacks because of her recently and it’s affecting my breathing to the point where I had to have an emergency doctors appointment. I feel like she controls every aspect of my life and as long as I’m living under her roof I can never truely be myself, I am 21. Hopefully soon I can move out, she did tell me I cannot move out unless I am married. I don’t believe in that bullshit, and if she crashes out when I move out I’ll call the cops who will let her know I’m a legal adult and there’s nothing she can do. But the way she treats me and the dynamic we have is so similar to the stereotypical controlling romantic relationship, and because of that im scared to be with anyone. What if they control me just like my mum did? What if they abuse me like her? What if I feel like the only way to keep the peace is to comply with her orders even if I don’t agree? Shit got me fucked up so I never ever want to marry or be in a relationship because the thought of being potentially controlled again is a huge no for me
I came across a TikTok where a guy was shaken up from having his phone stolen and in the comment section someone tagged one of the alleged guys who was in a Bally and bike who steals phone around Bow church area in ELdn. So I went on the guys account and he posts a TikTok about how it feels good for him to steal iPhones, and someone asked how does he do it. Thief replied usually I ask them to on the spot im assuming he pressures them at kn point. I can also see pictures of him bragging cash which I assume he gets from selling the iPhones. I've never reported anything before so I'm not sure how to go about this, but I do know that the entire thing of masked boys or men coming up to strangers and pressuring them to unlock their iPhones and hand it over is becoming more common in the area so I want to make an anonymous report
Hello everyone I was just wondering if there are any 4b women out there who own properties, because im researching on potentially buying one in the future (NOT anytime soon I have just started my job and I am really young lol) but all the tips seem to be catered towards couples or I see mainly couples doing videos on being home owners. All my fellow women here who have bought their own properties, what kind of properties is it and how did you do it!! Maybe im wishing too soon, but one day I would love to own maybe a 2 bedroom apartment where I live alone in absolute peace and bliss. I feel like the downside of me buying my own place in the future is that I won’t have any family help at all, im not even speaking financially but just helping me build things or move things out of my home (Im not Muslim but my family are really religious and traditional and women moving out before marriage and living alone is seen as some serious shameful thing), and because I know I won’t have any help for going against their expectations I know it will be expensive to hire moving services etc and potentially very isolating to not have my own family’s support in accomplishing a goal I have . Everyone in my family who bought homes and properties did it the ‘right’ way, they got married and bought it with their husbands so of course family helped out when they could, however I know how my family treats women who go against their culture/religion like absolute outcasts so I won’t get any of their support
Just curious because I feel like all the ex Muslims I meet are atheist and have given up on religion me being one of them lmao I don’t think I can ever be religious again
How does everyone else navigate having to fake pray? I always shut my bedroom door and tell my family don’t come inside or I can’t concentrate if people watch me pray. I don’t fr pray tho I whip out the prayer mat and scroll on tiktok😭😭😭😭😭😭😭. But whenever im out with family or at a family member’s house prayer is a problem because I can’t lock myself in a room and pretend I’m praying. Let’s say if we’re going out to eat and there’s a masjid, I’d have to do the prayer actions and is sooo fucking tiring for me. But anything to keep the damn peace ffs. As for wudu I never ever do it. I just put water on the bathroom mat and splash some on the walls to make it seem like I did it. I’ve been doing fake praying and wudu since I was 7 years old but lately I’ve been feeling like I cba for this shit why am I faking if I don’t believe in it? I mean tbh I know why because my mum will crash out and kick me out if she thinks I don’t pray. But im just thinking like life is too short to be faking my identity.Fuck this shit fr. LMAO my mum told me to teach my little cousin how to pray im just like i have a headache. I can’t teach her because i forgot all the stuff your meant to recite when bending down and whatever and I barely know any Surahs apart from Fatiha and ikhlas 💀💀💀 yeah I am so so cooked of my mum finds out the truth
I’ll go first. For me it has inspired me to become more financially stable as ever. It has made me not want to be a shy girl anymore and get out there and do more speeches and networking events to help my future career. Ever since leaving, I feel more confident in myself. I feel like leaving a community where I know I’ll not get any support for publicly being ex muslim, it has given me a drive to just be successful and always provide for myself. I know I’ll never have the privilege of parents supporting my choices, so I save as much as possible for my future such as buying my own place where I live alone, and not living with a muslim man who is my husband. Growing up as a muslim I always was just told I can’t own my own property and that I cannot leave home until im married; that my next home will be my husband’s home. No the fuck it won’t 😂
Hey guys. For context I live in the UK. In a very muslim area though… I’m a closeted ex Muslim and still need to wear hijab - for safety as my mum is extremely controlling and abusive. If she saw me in public without it I don’t think I’d be alive? I take it off sometimes but im slowly trying to build courage to be comfortable not wearing it in public like to the park or shopping centres etc. Anyways, I wanted to ask if any ex Muslims here left their parents home alone. How did you do it? How did your parents react? At any point did police need to get involved? My mum emphasises I cannot leave her home unless I get married because women can’t live alone in her eyes or I’ll do Zina. The fuck lmfao. I don’t believe in that shit so I know I’ll move out when I get a better job. I’m saving like 1k a month to eventually move out in the future. If I live in my parents house forever I’d develop serious issues. TBH I already have horrible anxiety and as a result breathing problems
Uhhh I guess this is a rant idk. I’m deconstructing islam after years of being in denial, and I’ve just recently found out about the Hadith where Aisha wipes off Muhammad’s dry come off his clothes using her fingernails to scrape it off… what the fuck. What the actual fuck she was a fucking baby. I am so disgusted and shocked. Why was I never taught this in madrasah and Islamic studies class? Upon further research, I questioned why didn’t the prophet clean his clothes after he has his come on it. Surely that’s considered haram walking around dirty and after doing sx im sure you need to do ghusl; anyways i found out that they consider semen as not impure because it creates life. Now this is where the contradiction is. If semen is pure because it creates life, how can a woman’s period blood be impure when the whole reason why humans are made is because a woman is able to menstruate. So so fucking contradictory to me. I’m reading more about the prophet, and each time I feel like he makes rules for everyone else, but he gets away with such horrible things. Like how he changed the rules to marry his adopted son’s ex wife, basically his daughter in law. That dynamic is absolutely fucked like why are you such a horn dog? I can’t believe I was never taught this in Islamic studies. I feel so disgusted being a closeted hijabi knowing im representing a religion based on lust and pdfilia when I wear it outside. I’m working on moving out, hopefully then I will be free
I’m fuming, im searching the internet on women’s experiences on telling their bosses they cannot come in due to period pains and if they should disclose this information or not.a lot of people are saying you should never say period as this reason for taking a sick day or people will assume all women are lazy and incompetent when they are menstruating and cannot get the job done. Bruh what the actual fuck sorry what? The world hates women SO much that we are penalized in the workforce over something we have no control over?!!! And what makes me quite sad is how some female bosses are extremely dismissive despite experiencing menstruation themselves and how uncomfortable and painful it can be. Also what fucking pisses me off the most is that people have this assumption women lie about their pain just to not go into work. I know for a fact the majority of women are not lying, just because there’s an outlier doesn’t mean all of us are lying to take time off work for funsies.I know some countries are slowly giving women more leniency, like Spain introducing paid menstrual leave. I JUST hate that we are told to ‘cope’, and ‘get over it’ and that ‘everyone experiences this and gets on with it’, it’s not okay that as women we are expected to act like we are fine at work just to keep capitalism running, fuck that shit. Women need accommodations, istg if men had periods there’d be fucking period parties every month. If I ever become a manager myself, I’ll let my women workers take paid leave every month, give them adjustments like WFH, stock up the workplace with medications, heating pads and some snacks for them, I never want to be a manager dismissing women’s pain for the sake of capitalism.
Hey guys. I had elvanse at 12 today and it’s 4 pm now. However I don’t think it’s really kicked in to its full potential. Im still kinda zoning out and I took a very long time to get up, shower and clean my room and bed sheets. Idk I just don’t think it’s making me super duper productive?😭 is this normal…? It’s my first time having it. I would say that my overthinking has definitely lessened but my executive dysfunction is still kind of there. I thought I’d be doing my hobbies like painting for hours on end today but I’ve just done my chores which took me 3 hours…
My mum got offered to view a 3 bed council flat. They’ve told her she’s applicant 1 to view the property, and the letter also says upto 6 applicants will view a property. It also says if more than one applicant wants to accept the property, it’ll be awarded to the applicant with the highest position in list, and applicants are considered in a priority order. Dumb question, tbh I just want some clarification. If my mum is applicant 1 does it mean she has the most priority, or is she simply just the first to view it and if applicant 5 has higher priority needs than my mum, they’ll be more likely to get the flat?
I’ve worn it since I was 7 years old!!! 😭 by force. My mum gave me the damn baby hijab and said put it on and if you take it off I’ll hit you. Since then I never dared to take it off or tell her im taking it off. I’m 21 now. I still wear it. Wear it everywhere, at work, when going out with my friends. Feel like an absolute fraud wearing a cloth that I absolutely hate the meaning of. I live in a western country, but literally the area is extremely muslim (London LMAO) and majority of my family live around me. So if I took it off I’ll defo get snitched on if someone saw me. Not that I care to be judged, but I care if my mum finds out as I live with my parents still and she’s really abusive. I’m so tired guys
for context I grew up in a Muslim south asian background. I no longer believe in it after deconstructing. However a lot of men do of course because it benefits them. A lot of them say it’s ok to coerce your wife into sleeping with you and say women are sinful and angels will curse her if she says no. I know im not Muslim anymore (closeted ex muslim), but it makes me so depressed that they can get away with saying all of this misogyny and how it’s pretty much enabled and supported within my community. And to think my mum wants me to marry a muslim man? For me to suffer? For me to basically get forced by him? I’m actually just so upset knowing that there are millions of women who are being coerced using the ‘angels will curse you if you don’t sleep with me’ Hadith. I am so so so sad for them and I wish none of this was real. idk it’s all just really affecting me and I cannot believe in 2026 some cultures and religion think it’s ok to force yourself on a woman in the name of religion. when will this violent misogyny end? im so tired :/
Growing up I knew that I never ever fully resonated with Islam. I never have prayed in my life, I fake pray. I always wore hijab and dressed modest because my mum forced me, she’s extremely abusive so if I don’t comply I pretty much would’ve gotten beat up. But as a teenager, I thought my family would pressure me in the future to marry a ‘good’ muslim man, and that I’d have to always wear hijab and just live life they want it to be. Now the thought of pretending and accepting marriage from Muslim men genuinely repulses me I can’t describe how much it disgusts me. Now that I’m older, I realise it’s my fucking life and my fucking choice. No one can force me to marry those disgusting misogynists and I will never ever say yes. Nowadays, whenever my mum forces me to do something like pray or read Quran, I crash out. I still wear hijab out of fear because I live with my family still. But my crashing out and anger is the only way I set boundaries for my mum to understand she can’t force this bullshit on me. She probably suspects I hate Islam but doesn’t want to confront me or it’ll start an argument, and honestly she doesn’t wanna hear the real truth that I hate Islam and im an ex muslim because itll break her. I’ve made it clear that i never want to be married, and that she should never look for an arranged marriage for me because i will NOT entertain that ever and i have made it clear i will get police involved and you will never see me again. It feels good to feel in control of my life and not have stupid expectations around me of being a housewife and mother. Im literally AuDHD and lazy as fuck, no way can I be a housewife and mother lmfao! I guess the police threats work, and the fact that I genuinely crash out when she mentions marriage. Maybe being a crazy evil girl is the way forward. These people can’t understand shit civilly and respectfully. They pressure and force until you break and say yes.