u/Bendze

Hi guys, I need your help and some honest feedback on something I have been working on.

A while ago I noticed a pattern in myself and also in people I talked to about goals. Most people do not really fail at goals in a dramatic way. It usually goes like this. The first one or two weeks feel good, things are consistent, and there is motivation. Then something small happens like missing a day, and after that it slowly falls apart without a clear decision to stop.

I wanted to understand this better so I tried building a very small application around it. The idea is simple. Instead of showing a full plan or long list of tasks, it focuses on giving you just the next small step for one goal at a time.

So far only two people have tried it, and both of them actually dropped off during onboarding before they even got to the part where the app generates anything useful.

Right now I am trying to figure out what exactly is confusing. Is it the onboarding, the concept, or just the way it is presented.

If you have experienced that “week 3 drop off” with goals and are open to trying something very early stage, I would really appreciate your feedback. Even just telling me where it feels unclear would help a lot. Thanks

I've noticed a pattern with myself and a lot of people I've spoken to. You set a goal, the first week goes well, you feel motivated, and then somewhere around week 2 or 3 things just quietly stop. There's no dramatic moment where you decide to give up. You just skip a day, then another, and eventually you realise it's been two weeks since you did anything about it.

What I find interesting is that it's rarely about the goal being wrong or too hard. Most people I've talked to still cared about the thing they were working toward. Something else happens in that window and I'm trying to understand what that actually is.

I'm not looking for productivity tips or app recommendations. I want to hear from people who've been through this and can tell me what it actually looked like for them. What was the goal, what did the first couple weeks feel like, and what changed.

Happy to chat over DMs if anyone's up for it.

made it on a very motivated sunday. color coded. broken into daily steps. genuinely proud of it.

haven't thought about it since.

what's the thing that actually gets you back to something after you've completely dropped it, not the motivation to start again, but whatever makes you actually open it and do the next step

not a small one. something you were actually excited about for a while.

i’ve noticed a pattern with myself. i’ll start something, feel fully locked in, make a plan, even set daily reminders… and then a few days later it just drops off. no big event, no clear reason. just stop showing up.

for example, i set a reminder every morning for two weeks and started ignoring it by day 3.

trying to understand if there’s usually a specific moment where it breaks for people, or if it just kinda fades without noticing.

what was yours

not a small one. something you were actually excited about for a while.

i’ve noticed a pattern with myself. i’ll start something, feel fully locked in, make a plan, even set daily reminders… and then a few days later it just drops off. no big event, no clear reason. just stop showing up.

for example, i set a reminder every morning for two weeks and started ignoring it by day 3.

trying to understand if there’s usually a specific moment where it breaks for people, or if it just kinda fades without noticing.

what was yours

not a small one. something you were actually excited about for a while.

i’ve noticed a pattern with myself. i’ll start something, feel fully locked in, make a plan, even set daily reminders… and then a few days later it just drops off. no big event, no clear reason. just stop showing up.

for example, i set a reminder every morning for two weeks and started ignoring it by day 3.

trying to understand if there’s usually a specific moment where it breaks for people, or if it just kinda fades without noticing.

what was yours

not a small one. something you were actually excited about for a while.

i’ve noticed a pattern with myself. i’ll start something, feel fully locked in, make a plan, even set daily reminders… and then a few days later it just drops off. no big event, no clear reason. just stop showing up.

for example, i set a reminder every morning for two weeks and started ignoring it by day 3.

trying to understand if there’s usually a specific moment where it breaks for people, or if it just kinda fades without noticing.

what was yours

not a small one. something you were actually excited about for a while.

i’ve noticed a pattern with myself. i’ll start something, feel fully locked in, make a plan, even set daily reminders… and then a few days later it just drops off. no big event, no clear reason. just stop showing up.

for example, i set a reminder every morning for two weeks and started ignoring it by day 3.

trying to understand if there’s usually a specific moment where it breaks for people, or if it just kinda fades without noticing.

what was yours

not a small one. something you were actually excited about for a while.

i’ve noticed a pattern with myself. i’ll start something, feel fully locked in, make a plan, even set daily reminders… and then a few days later it just drops off. no big event, no clear reason. just stop showing up.

for example, i set a reminder every morning for two weeks and started ignoring it by day 3.

trying to understand if there’s usually a specific moment where it breaks for people, or if it just kinda fades without noticing.

what was yours

not a small one. something you were actually excited about for a while.

i’ve noticed a pattern with myself. i’ll start something, feel fully locked in, make a plan, even set daily reminders… and then a few days later it just drops off. no big event, no clear reason. just stop showing up.

for example, i set a reminder every morning for two weeks and started ignoring it by day 3.

trying to understand if there’s usually a specific moment where it breaks for people, or if it just kinda fades without noticing.

what was yours

not a small one. something you were actually excited about for a while.

i’ve noticed a pattern with myself over the last few years where I get really into something at the start. I make a plan, feel motivated, set up reminders, and it feels like this time it will actually stick. For a few days or even a week everything feels aligned and easy.

and then it just quietly stops. there is no big decision or clear moment where I give up. it’s more like I just start delaying it, then ignoring it, and at some point I realize I’m no longer doing it at all.

for example, I set a reminder every morning for two weeks and started ignoring it by day 3. nothing really changed in my life at that moment, I just stopped reacting to it.

i’m trying to understand if other people have a clear breaking point where things fall apart, or if it usually just fades without noticing.

what was yours