My grandma always told me that I developed ADHD because I “think negatively” and “attract negativity.”
As if my brain is some kind of punishment for my thoughts and not being able to memorise instructions and struggling is a choice. And she used to say that only drug addicts take medicine for focus!
That idea stays with you longer than you expect. It makes you question yourself, your reality, your worth, your sanity, YOUR EXISTENCE!
these invalidating people make every ADHDer wonder if they actually have ADHD or if they are just.... 'lazy' and they suffer from impostor syndrome
what I’ve learned the hard way is that environment matters more than anything, if you live with an invalidating spouse or family, they will make your ADHD worse!
When I was surrounded by constant criticism, pressure, and misunderstanding, my ADHD felt unbearable. Everything was harder. Focus, motivation, even basic functioning, It felt like I was failing at being human.
When I stepped away from that environment, something invisible shifted. I felt clearer, lighter, and task initiation just became easier in a few months!
Turns out, I wasn’t “too negative.”
I was overwhelmed, unsupported, and trying to survive in a space that didn’t understand me. Leaving wasn’t easy, But staying was costing me my mind.