r/ADHDerTips

Locking the door is so automatic your brain doesn’t bother storing the memory. Saying it out loud forces you to pay attention for a second, so when the panic hits halfway down the street, you can actually recall doing it.

My significant other has autism, and I know that marketing is not allowed on here, but I just really don't know where to share this to the people that might actually need or want it. Basically I built an app that lets you structure your day, in a way that doesn't feel overstimulating / overwhelming.

Basically my SO struggles a lot with this in particular, making a schedule for the day. The day was always setup with "this needs to happen by this time" etc. and when she slept in she was already falling behind. She wanted, instead, to be able to be more flexible about her schedule. So we sat down and talked about how to make this happen for her. After a while I understood that the way I structure my day is not how she thinks about structuring hers. Basically what I do is I just split the day into arbitrary chunks, and they can seep into each other as much or as little as I want. We called it the "Squiggly line" where it's not a hard rule that the first objective / part of that day is done by that particular point in time. And it's ok if you start (like with ADHD) kind of doing something else on the next without finishing the first part.

So since I already vibe-coded this tool for her, I basically just wanted to share it with others and see if they feel the same way. I ask nothing in return, just a tool, particulary aimed for the neurodivergent usefulness of a squiggly line to separate tasks.

I was just going to name it Squiggle. But my better half suggested SquiggleWiggle. So here ti is: https://squiggle.pelk.dev/

Hi everyone, I’m currently going through the process of being assessed for ADHD although in the meantime am struggling to keep up with the demands of my role. I work in a scientific setting where it partly involves straddling lots of projects and keeping up to date with the latest research (reading papers, remembering what I’ve read, consolidating that into my long term memory and recalling it in meetings with colleagues). Increasingly I’m finding it difficult to keep up with everything - especially since I started working for a new manager - who has different expectations to my old manager. Although I’ve been a high achiever for most of my adult life - there’s a growing part of me that just wants to quit, rest and start afresh in a new career that doesn’t require me to work against my brain so often. I’m conflicted though as the pay is decent and I’ve worked hard for this job.

What would you do in my shoes?

I’ve already had a few conversations with my new manager around some of my challenges although it hasn’t lead to meaningful changes.

Discipline and self-control

How do you guys deal with yourselves? When you're in a bad environment you can't exactly leave (or don't want to), when you have to do things you don't like, hate or it's just out of your comfort zone, when you need to get up and do things even if you simply CAN'T just get up and do it. In other words... How do you guys live as adults? My only real support is my tired hubby and the medications I've stopped but will start again.

so I struggle with the usual homework , time management, laundry folding, cleaning, losing shit all the time, etc. issues that suck. my problem is that a lot of ways people with adhd deal with this stuff is through some kind of visual system. I’m legally blind/visually impaired and can’t see color, so the main systems that I’ve been recommended or have heard about won’t work for me. do any of you have tips or suggestions on how to deal with stuff like this? (just treat me like I’m not blind and ignore visual aspects of the mainly non visual tips please. I don’t want to explain a ton. I just want some advice.) :’)

Time blindness , executive function , rejection sensitivity , emotional regulation difficulties. 35 and medicated but add seems to be kicking her ass . What works ? There’s some coaching programs online , they are pretty expensive which is fine if it actually works

Guys im struggling to find a planning system that works with my ADHD. Between work, personal tasks, meals, weekly planning and all the random things in my head, everything gets overwhelming pretty quickly.
I’d love to see how you actually organise yours?

Genuine question, because I’m interested in the psychology behind this.

I have several colleagues working in NHS ADHD services who regularly see patients miss review appointments despite receiving multiple reminders beforehand and on the day.

Sometimes, when the patient is contacted, they’re available but haven’t attended because they forgot, lost track of time, or didn’t have something they needed for the appointment; for example, an up to date blood pressure reading.

Obviously, difficulty with organisation, prospective memory and time management can be part of ADHD itself, so there’s an irony here.

But it made me wonder:
If every review cost you £50 to £100 out of pocket; and you lost that money if you didn’t attend; would it change how likely you were to remember and prepare for it?

Or would ADHD still win regardless?
Interested to hear from people who have experienced both NHS and private ADHD care.

So, uh. As silly as it sounds, I have ADHD and a HUUUGE fan for slashers.

And so, that means, I haven't watched anything except for child's play (⁠╥⁠﹏⁠╥⁠)

I larp them all, lol

Anyone got this problem? not? What's your overall opinion on slashers? ;0

Noticed having a slow morning with a movie or tv episode helps start the day nicely.

For context I am an early riser but getting started with the day's things has always been challenging.

What shows would you lovelies here @r/AuDHDWomen recommend?

Old or new, we are not picky.

Animations, reality,documentaries...anything really

Watched Monsters.Inc in two days and the day battery capacity was boosted flawlessly🤗

I’ve always struggled with drinking enough water. I’ll go several hours without noticing I’m thirsty, then suddenly feel exhausted, foggy, or get a headache. Phone reminders get ignored almost immediately, and most tracking methods I’ve tried only last a few days before I abandon them.I’m curious what has actually worked for other people here long-term:

• Do you use any specific systems, environmental cues, or habits that help?
• Have visual reminders, pairing drinking with another routine activity, or something else been more effective than notifications?
• Does anyone find that adding a sense of reward or making it more engaging helps, or does that just create extra mental load?
• Any tricks or approaches that have stuck for more than a couple of weeks?

Would really appreciate hearing what’s worked (or completely failed) for you. Thanks for any advice!

I’m a senior in high school and lately I’ve been wondering if I might have ADHD. I started looking into the symptoms and I realized I relate to a LOT of them:

I have pretty much all of these to some degree: getting distracted easily, procrastinating even when I want to do something, forgetting things, losing stuff, struggling with organization/time management, being restless and needing to move/fidget, interrupting or acting without thinking sometimes, hyperfocusing on things (like adhd symptoms)

I also tend to touch my face a lot and pace around sometimes. I sometimes talk really fast too. (if only I could write/type as fast as I could talk)

I was also looking into autism because I wanted to see if there was overlap. There are a couple things I relate to, like pacing/stimming and sometimes talking quickly, but I don’t really have sensory issues, fixed routines, or special interests. I also generally understand sarcasm, when people are making fun of me, and when someone is clearly lying.

Socially, I’m usually considered pretty funny and sociable (both to my irls and online friends) although I can definitely be annoying sometimes lol. I just take a little while to become comfortable/friendly with new people, like coworkers or new classmates, but ill usually consider most people friends if they don’t annoy me. Since starting senior year I’ve only really made 2 new friends though in a span of a month, but we don’t really hang out outside of school (well because we’ve known each other for less than a month lol, I’m sure at one point I’ll ask them to study or hang out at the mall or something when I get around to it)  :)

I know nobody here can diagnose me, but for people with ADHD, does this sound familiar? What made you realize you might

Side-note: but I vaguely remember my Mom looking at videos about adhd children and their behaviors. The only reason i remember this was because i thought it meant you had 20/20 visions lmfao ”ad-HD“. -I was a dumb kid 🫠🫠🫠

When I study, I need to see the big picture. And even once I have it, my brain asks, "Okay, but then what?" And then, "But then what?" I can't settle into the one thing I'm doing because I'm constantly wondering if it's a waste of time or if I should be doing something better. Sometimes I'll hit something interesting that isn't relevant to what I'm reading, and I'll go down a Google rabbit hole.

Here's an example. I was comparing 5G with other wireless technologies out of random curiosity. That turned into wanting to understand how waves work, so I asked an AI to build me a full course outline.

It started with algebra, so I stepped back to look at what came after, and then what came after that, and I kept asking "what happens after this?" until the AI basically told me there's nothing after this. Someone learns it, passes it on, and the cycle repeats. I just sat there thinking, what's the point of everything? That's how existential it gets, and it makes it so hard to stay on the task in front of me.

I'm also great at starting things. A new language, a programming language, a new topic. I'll get through a page or two, or if I'm lucky stick with it for a week, and then I drop it. Not because I stopped caring, but because something else grabbed my attention or I just forgot. I figured I needed proper goals, but the same thing happens with the goals.

There's another layer to this. Whatever I'm learning, I get pulled toward how it works at the deepest level. If I'm learning to type, I'll start wondering how the keys work on the inside, Google a few things, and realize there's so much more underneath. I want to know how everything works down to its core, like with the waves example. Then I get bummed out when it all ends in math. I know there are different dimensions to learning something (typing is not the same as the engineering behind a keyboard), but my brain gets pulled toward the deeper stuff anyway.

In my research I came across the idea that this could be fear of failure, where your brain invents excuses so you don't have to do the work. I honestly don't know if that's it. I do want to learn, and I want to go deep. I just don't have the patience to sit through all of it. I want to already know it. I've even wondered why my brain can't work as fast as a computer so I wouldn't have to sit there bored.

Has anyone dealt with this? How do you stay with one thing long enough to actually finish it? I could really use some advice.

And yes, I am genuinely willingly to e-transfer anyone who can help me solve this problem.