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Your brain isn’t broken. You’re exhausted from trying to perform normal all the time.

ADHD helps us think so fast and connect dots nobody else can. This means “regular” thinking outside my strengths (i.e. communication) felt like stepping outside my comfort zone. and anything outside this comfort zone feels unnecessary. I often saw my problems as a usual part of my life, completely blind to a new world where things could be better.

These regular tasks are what the society around us considers part of normal functioning life. Includes making friends. Includes doing admin tasks. Includes dealing with the government or brands that have delegated their entire CS to a bot.

Some of these are necessary to live a stable, happy life.

But we borrowed our definition of normal from others so it's like we have been living someone else's normal.

It's like running a fast train on a slow track and then asking "I am so bored, does this train go any faster than this?" 🤣

But these normal things aren't the problem here. Our villain isn't our neurodivergence. Sure many of our traits can be very challenging to live with on a daily basis. But avoiding problems is what causes the most damage to our psyche.

Us NDs are natural problem solvers. Our ADHD helps us think so fast and connect dots nobody else can. 

But when we are inside our comfort zone, we can't see our problems for what they are. So, we refuse to leave your comfort zone; we put blinders on our eyes, we try to block our our problems.

That not only blocks our problems but that also blocks our fun.

Challenges make life fun. Challenges should not be your entire life, but challenges are one of the life's ingredients.

 We have to expand the umbrella of what OUR LIFE means to us.

Your brain isn’t broken. You’re exhausted from trying to perform normal all the time.

ADHD helps us think so fast and connect dots nobody else can. This means “regular” thinking outside my strengths (i.e. communication) felt like stepping outside my comfort zone. and anything outside this comfort zone feels unnecessary. I often saw my problems as a usual part of my life, completely blind to a new world where things could be better.

These regular tasks are what the society around us considers part of normal functioning life. Includes making friends. Includes doing admin tasks. Includes dealing with the government or brands that have delegated their entire CS to a bot.

Some of these are necessary to live a stable, happy life.

But we borrowed our definition of normal from others so it's like we have been living someone else's normal.

It's like running a fast train on a slow track and then asking "I am so bored, does this train go any faster than this?" 🤣

But these normal things aren't the problem here. Our villain isn't our neurodivergence. Sure many of our traits can be very challenging to live with on a daily basis. But avoiding problems is what causes the most damage to our psyche.

Us NDs are natural problem solvers. Our ADHD helps us think so fast and connect dots nobody else can. 

But when we are inside our comfort zone, we can't see our problems for what they are. So, we refuse to leave your comfort zone; we put blinders on our eyes, we try to block our our problems.

That not only blocks our problems but that also blocks our fun.

Challenges make life fun. Challenges should not be your entire life, but challenges are one of the life's ingredients.

 We have to expand the umbrella of what OUR LIFE means to us.

Your brain isn’t broken. You’re exhausted from trying to perform normal all the time.

ADHD helps us think so fast and connect dots nobody else can. This means “regular” thinking outside my strengths (i.e. communication) felt like stepping outside my comfort zone. and anything outside this comfort zone feels unnecessary. I often saw my problems as a usual part of my life, completely blind to a new world where things could be better.

These regular tasks are what the society around us considers part of normal functioning life. Includes making friends. Includes doing admin tasks. Includes dealing with the government or brands that have delegated their entire CS to a bot.

Some of these are necessary to live a stable, happy life.

But we borrowed our definition of normal from others so it's like we have been living someone else's normal.

It's like running a fast train on a slow track and then asking "I am so bored, does this train go any faster than this?" 🤣

But these normal things aren't the problem here. Our villain isn't our neurodivergence. Sure many of our traits can be very challenging to live with on a daily basis. But avoiding problems is what causes the most damage to our psyche.

Us NDs are natural problem solvers. Our ADHD helps us think so fast and connect dots nobody else can. 

But when we are inside our comfort zone, we can't see our problems for what they are. We refuse to leave your comfort zone; we put blinders on our eyes, we try to block our our problems.

That not only blocks our problems but that also blocks our fun.

Challenges make life fun. Challenges should not be your entire life, but challenges are one of the life's ingredients.

 We have to expand the umbrella of what OUR LIFE means to us.

Your emotions are your biggest strength. Don't push them down. Don't close off yourself. Don't escape them when you can face them.

It's all a part of your ADHD.

Emotions aren't hard. Emotional dysregulation is hard. Think of all the times you have used your emotions to achieve something you would never have in life. Aren't you grateful you had emotions then?

Everyone has emotions and everyone has their own way of managing their emotions. You don't see what's going on in my head at the moment or any one else who posts on social media.

Your emotions are valid. But pushing them down and finding ways to escape them (hard drus, alcohol, sex. etc) will hurt you in the long run.

If ADHD feels tough when you are young

I thought of sharing this message here, important reminder especially if you are young and have ADHD