u/PianoRevolutionary12

just want to scream from the rooftops about this,

the disc bound planner with easily removable pages

i couldnt handle the notebook, same disorganized flipping around. now i have my stuff in sections with dividers, a nice leather cover, place to hold a pen and loose papers, YES

I buy the premade yearly calendar on amazon, blank pages for everything else

I am someone generally paralyzed by indecision. Should i go camping? When? next weekend oh i didnt decide and now im still home. Should i do this on friday oh whoops its now friday no plans. This extends to bigger stuff, job search, making friends even life management. I get lost in the forest looking for a tree

I guess it is over analyzing. Occasionally i will get tired of this attitude and make a big impulsive move. Which is also bad, sometimes, no enough thought put in

Where is the middle ground?

What framework do you use to make decisions that actually take responsible action without getting lost in analysis paralysis

Actually it has been about 10 days of this. I am unemployed and apparently very committed to destroying my life?

Why? I see the car driving off the cliff i know i am in the car, cant stop. Am i just hiding from my thoughts? I am feeling a little bad but not terrible about myself i dont need to hide, im not depressed or anything

I have melatonin which i didnt take, i walked 11,000 steps to help me sleep, then i watched 8hrs of tv instead of sleeping. I try to trick myself to fall asleep on the couch doesnt happen

It is real leather, I hate the feeling of it sticking to my legs or being cold to the touch. I dont want to reupholster the whole thing, but is there some product i could put on the 6 seat cushions to change the feel?

The sofa is dark green if you care

Is this deep? I think so. Take it with you on your journeys

How do pyschedelics interupt the natural process? Seems like that is very much the goal? Also interesting for use against a bad trip. How have you used psychedelics to change your mindset long term?

Any thoughts welcome

From a biological and cognitive standpoint, the human brain does not passively reflect objective reality. Instead, it actively constructs a useful simulation of the world using sensory shortcuts, predictive processing, and evolutionary biases, which leads some philosophers and scientists to argue that normal perception is inherently constructed rather than strictly true. 

How the Brain Constructs Reality

• Predictive processing: The brain constantly guesses what will happen next based on past experience rather than just recording raw data.
• Heuristics: It relies on fast, intuitive mental shortcuts to make quick decisions, which can lead to systematic errors or biases.
• Filter systems: Neural networks edit out vast amounts of sensory input to prevent sensory overload, leaving only what is deemed useful for survival.

You can leverage the fact that your brain constructs its own reality to actively rewire your mindset. Since your perception is a flexible simulation rather than a fixed recording, you can use specific cognitive strategies to change how you process the world.

Reframe Your Internal Narratives

• Question the first guess: Recognize that your brain's initial, often negative reaction is just a predictive guess, not absolute facts.
• Challenge assumptions: Actively ask yourself what evidence supports or disproves a stressful thought.
• Write alternative scripts: Force your brain to generate three realistic, positive outcomes for any situation that worries you.

Upgrade Your Brain's Input

• Curate your information diet: Limit exposure to sensationalized news and toxic social media feeds that train your brain to predict danger.
• Seek novel experiences: Travel, learn new skills, or meet different people to break old, rigid mental patterns.
• Practice gratitude: Intentionally focus on small, positive details daily to program your brain's filters to notice wins instead of threats.

Exploit the Placebo Effect

• Adopt confident posture: Stand tall and smile to signal safety and confidence to your nervous system.
• Use positive self-talk: Speak to yourself with encouragement to prime your brain for success before difficult tasks.
• Visualize success: Spend a few minutes imagining a positive outcome in vivid detail to pre-train your brain's predictive models.

The siren song of facebook marketplace is calling to me once again, and the deals are crazy good! So is there a good resource to watch, on what to look for, common things that need repairs with an absurdly cheap used boat? Just a little 4-6 seater powerboat.

The problems with my last sailboat were not immediately evident, even as it was floating in the water.

Lol yes i get it " no such thing as a free boat" but what else should i be looking for?

Not covered in a field, Old motor that "ran last year", rotting transom, soft floor? How do i tell if the cables need to be replaced? Metal vs fibreglass?

Ok I see all these couples, same body type, same clothing style, same temperament, just so similar. And it makes a lot of sense, if you are a runner of course you might want to date another runner, enjoy the same hobbies etc. I just never gave a shit about this, and now I am wondering if I am going about things in the wrong way? Are similarities the guiding principle in dating? Being able to fit in a "category?"

I have never fit in a category, and the women I have dated were very different from each other. Like if I was a sports guy I would go to crappy sports bars and date women in ball caps. My weekends would already be planned out around the team, my friends would be other sports guys, who would date other women in ball caps.

Where is the "box" for doing dangerous hikes one week and sitting around chilling with some drinks the next week?

Ok if its me in the future I would be cranky, "I can do it, don't need some young punk's help!"

This is an old guy, not like middle aged, I saw him struggling with lifting something heavy in the mud and I just came over and did it for him. I said "oh my hands are already muddy"

Would you help the guy or let him struggle to preserve his "macho ego"

I am new to trailrunning, what a thrill it is! I can't believe it took me so long to find it.

Anyways what are your prep moves? I figure a regular yoga class will pretty much cover all the possible issues? Add in some body weight moves abs moves. Do you do trail specific strengthening exercises

I don't know what I was doing in my 20s and 30s, had some lovers but i did not prioritize lust and adventures. And now I am almost an old man full of regrets! So I am going to recapture my youth, how do I do that? Does anyone have any tips? Is this a midlife crisis? Yes.

If i was in my early 20s I would go to some terrible university bar and do shots? But I am a grownup and I don't want to drink until 3am these days. So what is the move? Open dress shirts and gold chains in the nightclub? That was a joke ;) But the question is real

How do you casually date?

these are not challenging delusions, my life is going fine i am getting ready to go for a run

But i have these daydreams? like persistent detailed fantasies? While just doing regular stuff, sober. Like "being told by some supernatural force that I should save some random strangers from a car crash that hasn't happened yet, so I go to the spot and wait. Soon enough bam they crash and I save them"

And of course that is just a fantasy, I have no actionable steps, I don't have a location, or any sense of urgency, and so I just go about my day, and the daydream happens again, and again and again. What is the deal?

My infrequent psychedelic trips often have this same element in them, supernatural communication, trusting "the vibes" , and once in my life I did trust the vibes and I did save some lady from a bad situation.

So whats going on? Am I just getting off playing the hero in my fantasies? Is the universe trying to prepare me for work as some kind of psychic detective?

i am a last minute type of guy, i am not thinking about the weekend until maybe thursday, and then if i make plans on friday its too late for people!

Do i need to leave a week? 2 weeks? Or is 3 days enough? Ok for example i want you to hang out with me on friday night, how many days in advance do I have to let you know?

I dont really get it, how do i know how I am going to feel in 2 weeks? Ok if it is a camping trip or something that requires advanced prep but what if it is just a casual thing

I am currently a shit runner, never had much time or interest for it. I imagined busy city concrete, or worse the treadmill. But I have discovered forest trailrunning, and man it is a whole different thing.

I felt like i tapped into something ancient, like its just a bit of running why does this feel so good? Is this what my brain is supposed to be doing? There were a few spots where I could have easily busted my ankle or slipped off a ledge, but that made it even better haha

New hyperfixation unlocked! Anybody else?

any advice, i want to "charge" my tattoos up, create powerful walking sigils

I am trying to "charge" my tattoos, turn them into walking sigils. Does anyone have any tips for such things

Stupid question I know. But I was reading an adhd post and all you guys are doing crazy intense jobs, and doing them well! Damn I'm the only one barely functioning?

Ok so I've had jobs, hired by family etc but I have never actually sent a resume to a stranger and gotten a job that way. I don't even get how it works. I send the resume and then what, go there? call them? Seems absurd that i am the only person who cannot figure this out.

If I was the person hiring I would pick 5 resumes and delete the rest? Or is it now an ai keyword sorting program? I am currently getting turned down for jobs that I am over qualified for, what is the deal

Yeah yeah listening to people and then asking about it later, sure thats great. But here is the hack. Go on social media, ask people about the stuff they post

They will light up just the same as if you asked them about something they told you, maybe even forgetting that they did not actually tell you about it

I have used it a few times now. People can tell when you are take a real interest in them. And this is a shortcut ;)

I have been burned in the past bought a really old boat, turns out that shit needed a lot of work! Too much work. Who could have guessed. Not me ;)

Did I learn my lesson? No. The sirens of facebook marketplace are calling to me again! Anyways trying to be smarter this time.

Probably talking a 16ft ish motorboat, outboard, metal or fibreglass

Going to check the boat carpet, will probably scrap or sell the 2 stroke? motor and replace with a modern one i have, what else is on the list? I will of course make them put the boat in the water

Any tips are welcome please

I have had hospitality jobs I got by showing up, worked for family, school internships etc. But I have never gotten a grown up job by sending out resumes to strangers.

I do not even understand the process. Send the resume and cover letter, and then what? Go there? Call them? Go to their house? This is a joke ;) I feel like I am sending out resumes into the ether, to be read by no one, receive no feedback, and repeat FOREVER

At least now I am using Indeed (which is great) so I can see they have turned me down. I am sometimes applying for things with no direct experience, but I have reasonable transferable experience, basic office jobs I could competently do based on my experience. But the job post always wants direct experience, in sales for example

Also I do not have a linkedin, I do not want job spam and to display my resume on social media, why would anybody want that? I was told I need a Linkedin in this day and age to show the AI job interview bot that I am a real person. But if I have no "recommendations" isnt that worse than having no profile? Are people really getting jobs on linkedin?