u/Big-Opening5406

Can we please get cal some normal shoes? He is a lawyer from new York why that hell does he have slim cut jeans and some damn timberlands on… they don’t match the outfit and they don’t match his vibe. Feels like he is so city he is forcing himself to look woodsy. Perhaps a slim hiking shoe/boot or a clean looking casual tennis shoe ?? Like anything would be better at this point. I’d rather see him in flip flops and jeans honestly. Not only is the whole show hallmark bad but the boots are just the cherry on top for me. It’s like everyone else has someone dressing them and he’s left to just find something in the back of the wardrobe trailer

This man being the father of my children 🥲 I know hate is a strong word, we split up while I was pregnant because he did nothing to help prepare for the babies financially or physically, didn’t come to appointments, put me in the worst depression of my life to the point where my family was begging me to move out ( I did move out) Fast forward,I had the babies and we tried to make it work to have the family together type thing but I think I truly do hate him.

I am changing diapers and trying to get them dressed and he walks by and grabs my ass… like why? Why not fucking help get them changed and dressed so we can get out the door??? I am turned over trying to get a few more minutes of shut eye after feeding them at 6 am when he knows I’ve got work at 8 (I work for myself but the girls come with me so I am momming and working from 8 to 8 ) and he’s grabbing my face trying to turn me around to kiss and pulling my shorts down on the side in an attempt to have sex and something about it just makes me want to deck him right in the fucking face.
A shower ? Alone ? For 10 minutes ? FORGET IT!!! He unlocked the bathroom door and came in there and got in the shower with me😐 like for one where are the girls at bc they were wide awake 2 minutes ago and you’re supposed to be doing tummy time with them. Two who tf invited you in here, the locked door wasn’t a sign that I wasn’t really accepting visitors into my shower ?

Nothing to ever say about my hair, makeup, outfit etc looking nice. Just grabbing me and touching me and trying to grab my face to basically force me to kiss him. It actually disgusts me and I feel like being post partum just made me even more angry and disgusted by him than before when I was pregnant and he was just mentally draining me.

How do you set aside your hatred for someone who betrayed you and your relationship a million gazillion times and hurt you emotionally and beat you down mentally when you were at the most vulnerable point in your life and allow them to be around your kids and be a dad cause I am STRUGGLING. I hate him and don’t want to be around him and really if he blocked me today and never wanted to speak or see any of us ever again I would cry tears of joy. However, he’s more of a “ do the minimum to be able to say and look like I’m a good dad when really I’m not doing much” so that’s not gonna happen :/ so I unfortunately have to put up with him even if it’s a minimal amount. (I know it sounds selfish to want to keep my kids away from him for my own feelings towards him but GAH DAYUM i just cannot stand him)

Any tips are welcomed, but for now I will hate.

First off, let me admit that I am not familiar with this at all and I am just trying anything and everything I am so desperate it’s not even funny.

I had twins 3 weeks ago and their dad denied they were his my whole pregnancy. Wasn’t at the birth per my wishes due to the lack of involvement in the pregnancy and much more. Now that they have been born he is trying to ply dad of the year and I have said no, that’s not how it works.

Is there any spells out there I can do to get him to leave me alone for good and just let me live my life with my girls peacefully ? I feel like it a long shot but he basically is only doing this because his family knows I and he refuses to tell them that he has denied them this whole time..

I know this sounds insane but there’s so much history of violence and drug/alcohol abuse that doesn’t matter because it’s “too old” but it’s only because we haven’t lived together for a while so I haven’t had a way to have anymore evidence of it even though I know it’s most likely still happening :/