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My last relationship ended because my then boyfriend stated he is not what I need right now; that he needs to get his life together and that he’s not good enough for me at the moment. At the time he was going through legal issues (warrants out for his arrest for things before we ever got together and other legal issues). But I’ve been told that men will do “right” by a girl they genuinely like. I don’t know what to believe.

I’m re watching the show since the beginning and I’m thinking about how the writers put charlottes sexuality in a box when it was much more complex than that. In S1 E8 charlottes entertains the idea of a threesome and chooses a woman to have that threesome with. While the show implied the 3some never happened, I wonder why the writers only simply teased the idea of Charlotte being bisexual. With the making of the episode where lesbian artist connoisseurs explore the gallery and later invite Charlotte on an outing. Charlotte expressed she liked how she felt both times. It would’ve been nice to see the writers get creative with charlottes vision for her future and sexuality. Maybe even challenge her idea of a traditional family. Samantha indulging in her sexuality was to be expected but charlottes would’ve been out of left field. I wish they hadn’t boxed her character in as much. After all this was the new millennium.

I’ve heard a lot of people say “if he wanted to he would” and “if he’s giving you mixed signals he’s just not that into you”. But is it really that cut and dry? Or are men more emotionally complicated than these sayings make them out to be?

I’ve been hearing the theory that Janet and Randy chose not to be in the movie because of the tension Randy has with Jermaine. How many of you think this could be true? I’ll be honest I thought they were at the very least okay with each other.

Hello all!!

I finished my round of antibiotics last week. I’ve been avoiding the “toys” I have because I’m scared of contracting BV again since I was using them while I had it (unknowingly) in the early phases of BV. I always keep them clean after every use but is soap enough to kill that kind of bacteria or what else would I do/use? Any advice is appreciated.

I (23 F) had a bestfriend (25F), our friendship about a year ago and this is why. We’ll call her Kim.

To preface; I was in an abusive relationship and lived with him for two years. I had left him one years prior to this incident but my friend was aware of my trauma and knew I was going to therapy for it.

Kim and I were friends for seven years before this incident. Her and I had known each other since junior year of highschool. I was even in her wedding. I live in another state now. And we always made an effort to see each other. We would plan something at least once a year. One thing to keep in mind. This happened during a rocky time in her marriage, her then husband came out as trans and she was finding herself hard to accept it. I was there for her as much as she wanted me to be. In this instance she had rescheduled our plans twice. I was understanding of such. We had finally made concrete plans, she stated she was going on a retreat in my city and that she would be killing two birds with one stone by also visiting me. Ideal situation. We had made plans in advance for her to stay with me. Two weeks prior to the trip she tells me her cousin’s husband will be joining her. She then tells me she plans to stay in his hotel room for part of the trip. And that turns into her staying with him for the entire week trip. I was caught off guard and a little sad because I wanted to spend as much time as I could w her while also working. And in my eyes she was prioritizing time with her cousin’s husband instead of her bestfriend? He’s also her boss. I told her it was okay and we made plans to go out for dinner and go out on the town that Friday. A girls night out if you will. The plan for dinner was for me to cook us something Mexican (I’m Mexican lol). One week before she tells me her cousin’s husband will be joining us for dinner and that they’ll bring a little something. I’m flabbergasted. The only time I’ve met this man was briefly at her wedding a year prior to this incident. I tell her I’m not comfortable with a man I don’t know coming into my home. And this is where all our problems start. Her cousin’s husband is 45 and he’s a big guy. Up until this point I have not let a single man into my home out of the fear that I will get hurt or cornered into an uncomfortable situation . That was my boundary for my home. Yes my friend knew this. The problem was my friend then sent a long text telling me how unreasonable I was being because this is a man she considers her brother and that if it was me she would let me bring in a man that I consider family into her home. Difference is, i live alone and she lives with her mom and her husband. She then goes on to say that she cannot leave this man alone because he’s never been to the city I stay in and it would be unfair and cruel to leave him by himself. No this man does not have a medical or physical impairment nor does he require 24/7 care. We go back and forth and I tell her as much as you consider him to be family I don’t know him and I have a firm boundary about letting no men/ unknown people in my home due to my past and history with DV. She tells me she needs space to think and that she will not come if I don’t open my home to him as well. And I tell her it’s better if we put our friendship on the shelf for life. And this happened in Aug 2025. Since then I left her a VM for her birthday in November and sent her one text in March wishing her the best. I miss my bestfriend. So much has happened that I wish I could share with her. I also want to know how she’s doing as we ended our friendship during a difficult time in her marriage. Should I reach out again to see if I can mend the friendship? Was I in the wrong?