r/sexandthecity

I need a quote that will be easy to identify even for a one-time watcher

Mine is a little embarrassing to admit (and I'm working on it!!) but I actually see myself reflected when i watch Carrie have a multiple day breakdown over Aidan not giving her the "stomach flip". I just get it. After a lifetime of dating avoidants, it almost feels weird when someone youre dating is just perfect and 100% available and obsessed with you right off the bat. Im so used to insane levels of pining, your heart skipping a beat when they finally text you, endless yearning etc etc that I almost love it. Therapy.. Now. I love Carrie but finding her relatable is my sign i might need counseling. Such is life

Growing up I was a huge fan of the movies, used to watch them on repeat. Then finally this year I got HBO max and decided to watch the show from the beginning.

I thought it would take me a while to get into it but I was hooked from the first episode

Each character so far (not that anyone asked for it)

Carrie: Carrie really seems to self sabotage her life quite a bit. I go through times of loathing her and loving her. I can not stand her and big together I think he is so toxic and so is she sometimes. Loved her and Aidan together, he seems like a really cool guy. I wish she would just let herself be happy instead of questioning everything. And let’s be real she isn’t the greatest friend in my opinion, yes at times she’s great but she always finds a way to bring it back to herself. I think Sarah Jessica Parker does an incredible job of acting.

Charlotte: in the films Charlotte was my favourite by far, I adored her but in the show I find her quite frustrating. I understand that she wants the white picket fence lifestyle and that is totally fine but I find it hard when she criticises her friends for not wanting the same thing. I think it does come from a good place in her heart, she just doesn’t always communicate that well. And her and Trey, what a train wreck, I can not stand him I think he is toxic and so is his mother. I have enjoyed her the most in season 4 because she is finally standing up for herself and setting boundaries.

Miranda: our boss lady queen. In the films I really did not like her, I found her annoying and a bit whiny but in the show I have really enjoyed her. I think she has similar tendencies to Carrie in terms of self sabotaging especially when it came to Steve (who I like but do agree he needed to grow up), it seems she too struggles to let her self be happy. I love the way she is honest with her friends but not to a point of being horrible; I think her and Carrie can be sometimes egg each other on in an unhealthy way. I think I have enjoyed her dating life the most, she has had some very interesting dates.

Samantha: I’m always on the fence about Ms jones, I liked her season 3 but every other season I change my opinion on her episode to episode. I think it’s incredible how she is so confident in her sexuality and the way she is with men (and the one woman 😉) but on the other hand i think sometimes it’s a bit much. I think because I know the background stuff that happened while filming SATC my issues with Samantha sometimes come from Kim Cattral herself.

In saying all of this, they all have their flaws and things that Excell in. It was and still is such an incredible show and it covers so many important topics. My favourite episodes so far have been when all of them went to LA, Charlotte becoming too obsessed with her vibrator and the one where Samantha dates the short guy 😂

My friends I am a die hard background noise SATC fan of almost 30 years. I love season 1,2,3. Season 4 is eh. There are a few fantastic episodes in 4 but overall not my favorite. 5 is a crime darling. 1st half of 6 is rough but the second half 6 was great.

Should I watch AJLT? Or just keep my happiness?

While I think that Miranda was right to tell Carrie that she shouldn’t move to Paris with the Russian in S6 E18, I think she was the absolute worst messenger. A woman that had given up so many of the things she wanted for SKIDMARK STEVE, was in no place to call out Carrie.

Maybe it was a fantasy, but at the end of the day, Aleksandr was going to take care of everything and was giving Carrie stability & security, something a lot of men (STEVE FOR EXAMPLE), are not able to do. And while that ultimately wasn’t the life Carrie wanted, I don’t think there was anything inherently wrong with wanting it or giving it a try.

If Miranda could live in a fantasy with Steve, why couldn’t Carrie? And let’s not forget: Miranda didn’t like Big, she didn’t like Aiden, she didn’t like the Russian, she only liked BERGER (that must tell you something).

P.S: I have a friend just like Miranda: she’s always the one to criticise others when they’re “living in a fantasy” or dating a man that’s “not right for them”, meanwhile, she is the one that is dating a bum-ass who she has to pay the cab for everytime he’s over at her place, and even thinks of marrying him, lol.

The way Smith did with Samantha, you would all call her desperate and with low self-esteem.

The amount of times Samantha was extremely desperate or that Charlotte behaved like a crazy person over her obsession with marriage and children but since they are fan favourites they do not get nearly the same amount of hate as Carrie did is beyond me.

I genuinely hate Steve. HATE HIM.

Steve was the definition of a man-child. He constantly wanted things to go his way, and whenever Miranda pushed back, he had a tendency to manipulate the situation until she eventually gave in. He always seemed to want Miranda to accommodate him while acting like her boundaries were somehow unreasonable. He wanted the relationship on his terms, and when Miranda didn’t immediately agree, he’d pout, guilt-trip her, and overall act like a child.

And I know many people will argue that he had “whimsy,” but to me, he was always a loser who somehow managed to shoot his shot and get women who were far more attractive, successful, and, frankly, had better personalities than him. And then those women ALWAYS had to come down to his level and adapt to the life HE wanted. It was never, “How can I build a life that works for both of us?” It was always, “How do I convince her to want the life I want?”

And let’s not even talk about how having a successful woman always intimidated him. There was always this underlying insecurity whenever Miranda’s career, money, or independence made the difference between them too obvious. Instead of simply being proud of her, he often seemed to need her to make herself smaller so he could feel comfortable.

What makes it even worse is that the show constantly frames this behavior as adorable. Like, look at Steve! He’s goofy! He’s just a simple guy! He’s got a heart of gold!
No. He is a GROWN MAN.

STEVE BRADY I HATE YOU AND YOUR DOOKIE SKID MARK PANTIES AHH.