u/Long-Hurry1974

Wondering what the process is.

My partner’s NW is about 16M. Mine, is virtually zero. We’ll marry under a separate property contract (it all stays his, what’s mine and everything I acquire will stay mine).

I have contacted lawyers to get independent legal advice, but he wants us to do everything through the notaris. I’m worried about the way he wants to set up his testament (I might not be able to take care of the kids), so I wanted legal advice but it seems to not be something people do a lot in West-Europe.

Could you tell me how you went about structuring your marriage contract, protecting yourself (and your children), while ensuring that in case of your passing your family is taken care of?

As a lot of « neutral » subreddits routineously ban them and I’m seeing more and more defending of them here, I want to open up a discussion about the neutrality of the space when they are allowed to post here.

As far as the mods have repeatedly pointed out, the sub is a place where both positive and negative opinions are allowed. Few posters are explicitly neutral, most skew negative or positive and both sides make the overal space balanced.

The snark sub of the group is a big snark sub, and a lot of users who post there, also post here.

I really cannot emphasize how much those kind of users contribute to the hostility of a conversation space. The snark sub has rules against posting anything positive about the group. The main group sub allows for negative opinions.
They routineously complain that some of the girls are not getting enough hate, they call them slurs, attack their bodies…. There is no « good faith » discussion to be had with them and I’m actually convinced that the reason why interesting topics get locked constantly is because they turn the conversation toxic.

I constantly see the same users break rules without ever getting banned. Instead, discussions get locked. I don’t understand how that’s productive in any way. A few subs I know implement a rule where snark users are allowed to participate but mods can see whether or not they are active in those communities, so that if they keep breaking rules, they get banned (since mods started noticing a pattern of them having the most disruptive behaviour). I can’t think of a single sub that has not become better for it.

It’s one thing to dislike her, everyone is allowed to feel negatively about a character. But Carrie hatefs do this thing where they see everything she does through a negative lens and therefore conclude from scenes that are supposed to be inoffensive that she’s an awful human being.

« Carrie always interrupts the others and make it about herself. » They all do that.

« Carrie was so judgemental of Samantha. » They all were, Samantha herself was plenty judgemental about the others at time.

« Carrie guilt-tripped Charlotte into selling her ring. » No she didn’t. She was irrationaly angry and took out her frustration on Charlotte because she was offended she didn’t propose to help her out. And she knew she was being irrational. Charlotte chose to sell the ring to help her.

« She and her outfits and corny jokes, how cringy. » Big loved those.

« She cried about Big’s surgery but didn’t cry about Samantha’s cancer, she’s a bad friend. »… you get the gist.

You can’t even have discussions with these people because they are so blinded by hate for her character. And Carrie is hardly an offensive character, I find it really bizarre.

I would have married him in a heartbeat. Can’lt understand how he’s unpopular. Romantic, filthy-rich, handsome, artistic, well-mannered, sweet, stood up for Carrie…. Why don’t people like him, again?

Quick reminder that we do not know what has happened.

We do not know any of these people personally.

You cannot start psycho-analysing people because you feel personally enamoured by a celebrity.

You cannot start insulting people because you feel they are slighting a celebrity you like.

“HYBE” is easy to type, but Missy, Mitra, and whoever is the woman being called all kinds of names in that other post are PEOPLE. And you don’t know these people.

Like what?

I would have flipped out too if I was Bunny. They weren’t even married for two years and separated twice within that marriage.

Charlotte was hysterical when it came to having a baby. She was looking into IVF THREE months into conceiving? And immediately after she learned about her low ovarian reserve she started learning Mandarin to adopt a Chinese child without discussing it with Trey? How was she a wonderful wife lol. Was Trey okay?

This is a multi-million appartment that’s been in the family for centuries and he just gave it away to someone he knew for 2 years because he was too tired to keep arguing with her about having a baby after coming home from work, from an exhausting job.

Don’t downvote the people posting things you disagree with and stay respectful so we don’t get locked.

Mods, do not ruin the fun please, all we get these days is the same « oversexualisation, what about the kids, bad management »-threads.

I don’t get it. The purpose of the sub is seeing comments from people who are partnered, therefore were able to reach the YPP requirements and are likely to have a bit more experience. There’s absolutely no use to posts with comments made entirely from non-partners or with non-partners giving advice, there are like 50 other youtube subs in which they can post.

The way Smith did with Samantha, you would all call her desperate and with low self-esteem.

The amount of times Samantha was extremely desperate or that Charlotte behaved like a crazy person over her obsession with marriage and children but since they are fan favourites they do not get nearly the same amount of hate as Carrie did is beyond me.

Her shorts comment section looks very different to the one on Tiktok, so just curious.

Divorced after my husband cheated on me for years, got AP pregnant twice, and then left.

We have a 7 year old in the middle of it all.
We have moved out of the country for a new start and our custody arrangement involves him staying in the country once a month to have her over the weekend.

Divorced friends of mine have said it’s much better for a child’s stability if their routine is disturbed a minimum amount. So instead of him getting an airbnb or a hotel I told him it’d be better if he stayed in the guest bedroom. He ignored it. I told him so again and he said (and please don’t laugh) “it’ll be disrespectful to my partner to do so, which you should know”.

Even after our divorce, AP comes before his daughter.

I love how delusional she is when it comes to love.

I love how vulnerable she sometimes got with men even though it resulted in humiliation.

I love how she wears her heart on her sleeve.

I love how she messes up sometimes.

I have had a few times when she had me facepalming in front of my TV, but I will never fault her for the way she behaved with Big. She loved that man, and he was her person.

The second channel will probably become a huge time sink and I can’t even make my posting deadlines on my main… but I so badly want to create that second one. How many have done this?

Perhaps I’m overreacting, I just find this so bizarre and it’s been causing fights.

Beginning of last year, I said I was planning on buying a Macbook because my PC had been running really slowly (7 years of use, was really cheap, we had a good time) and I needed one for college (computer science). My husband then suddenly remembered he had a 2016 MacBook “somewhere”. He apparently bought it but rarely used it and then got another laptop from his job and so it had sat untouched for nearly a decade in a drawer somewhere. I asked him if I could have it, he said sure.

Two days later he finds it back but then tells me he can’t give it to me because he wants to have a backup PC in case something happens to his main so he’ll just create a guest account for me on the computer. I point out that he has a desktop computer and another PC and an iPad… and his iPhone and if anything happens pretty much anything on the MacBook is on the iCloud but that we can do a backup if he wants to be safe so he can transfer it to me. He insists that he needs a backup to his backup to his backup and that it’s his and his decision.

I honestly find it weird since I gave him a printer and a mixer I was no longer using when we were dating since he needed those. But anyway, I start using the macbook as it is, with the guest account.

I can’t as much as download apps from the app store without his administrator permissions, change settings to make certain apps usable or keyboard commands, or when the computer auto turns off. For the entire year and a half I have been using it, he never touched it. So I ask him if he can’t at least make me administrator and he refuses because he says he needs to be the only who can control it. I’m oddly really hurt and bothered by this? It’s not even about the damn PC anymore, I just find this behaviour odd.

I’m actually really close to just tapping into my savings and buying a new PC altogether. Am I overreacting here? Can someone talk some sense into me?