u/BlooperButt — reddlx

Just found out about “triangulation” and I’m wondering is anyone else with RSD has experienced it.

I got involved with a guy last year who taught me a new psychological manipulation tactic called triangulation. He was constantly saying this other woman is funnier than me and that other woman has so much in common with him. I was never fully chosen and he had me in quite a state.

I usually stay away from comparisons because it’s detrimental to my mental health. I do it to myself and have had to work to change that behavior in me. I don’t use most social media because of it.

I only found out about this triangulation term today and feel it fits. I always felt so confused but now I have a word for it. It’s very validating and even relieving.

Has anyone else experienced this? It’s taking me a lot of therapeutic work to move on from and it’s been a very difficult journey to recovery since it affected my self-esteem so deeply. I’m still working through it and sensitive to the topic, if I’m honest. What has helped you?

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u/BlooperButt — 5 days ago

▲ 166 r/GirlDinner

Girl breakfast is for when you’re making sure he never escapes the way he treated you 💕

A banana and apple fritter with homemade coffee.

I told her everything. The girl he was flirting with in front of me on my birthday? She knows how he held onto my care and attention like I was a placeholder for when she came back to him.

I only speak truths. I have no reason to exaggerate or lie.

I hope he answers to himself for all the conversations he avoided and how that affected other people around him. I hope he’s not able to manipulate her. I hope he’s not able to sweet talk her like he did me. I don’t want her to end up hurt from him like I was.

I hope he’s reminded of the way he treated me every time he looks at his couch. I hope he’s haunted by my words when he’s driving in his car. And I hope his desperate need for appearances and vanity eats him alive.

u/BlooperButt — 8 days ago

▲ 94 r/GirlDinner

I’m tired of being polite and quiet about someone who treated me poorly girl dinner

Publix popcorn chicken and my favorite red velvet cupcake to ever grace my taste buds. 💕 I don’t even know if this counts as girl dinner but it feels like girl dinner since it was the first items I swiped out of the fridge.

It’s really tough to forgive someone who never apologized. It’s a skill I clearly need to work on. I can forgive a lot, too. Maybe we don’t have to forgive *everything*.

I don’t care for being treated unfairly. It’s a bit of a sore spot for me. I’m getting more skilled at handling rejection and being understanding, but I clearly have some homework to do in the “this chump played me like a fiddle and I wanted to be a good person so badly that I fucking bought it” department.

If someone details out to you all the things they’d do to sneak in somewhere, lie about who they are, etc., then they’ll sure as hell lie to you about something so small as home gym equipment. They’ll lie about being on GLP and let you think they developed an eating disorder. They’ll just… lie.

And in the end, maybe pity is the way I ought to go instead of anger. Maybe that’s what the anger is masking; my sincere disappointment in the person I thought I knew.

I don’t know them though. I never really did. I got fooled again because I’m much too kind when it comes to rooting for an underdog.

u/BlooperButt — 10 days ago