u/BlueSourPatch_

I’m turning 30 this year. He cheated (kissed someone else a few times). My world feels shattered. I lost hope in love and am scared to do this all over again. I do eventually want to get married and have kids, but I feel like that feels impossible now. Also, don’t know who to trust and if my person is even out there… I thought he was my person. Any advice? Will he just be better for the person he truly wants?

I’m turning 30 this year. He cheated (kissed someone else a few times). My world feels shattered. I lost hope in love and am scared to do this all over again. I do eventually want to get married and have kids, but I feel like that feels impossible now. Also, don’t know who to trust and if my person is even out there… I thought he was my person. Will he just be better for the person he truly wants?

I’m turning 30 this year. He cheated (kissed someone else a few times). My world feels shattered. I lost hope in love and am scared to do this all over again. I do eventually want to get married and have kids, but I feel like that feels impossible now. Also, don’t know who to trust and if my person is even out there… I thought he was my person. Will he just be better for the person he truly wants?

I’m turning 30 this year. He cheated (kissed someone else a few times). My world feels shattered. I lost hope in love and am scared to do this all over again. I do eventually want to get married and have kids, but I feel like that feels impossible now. Also, don’t know who to trust and if my person is even out there… I thought he was my person. Will he just be better for the person he truly wants?

Been dating this guy for 5 years. We’re in our late 20s now. Known him since high school and reconnected in our early 20s. Met each others’ families, got engaged, set our wedding date and chose vendors together. He’s always been there for me (and I tried my best too) and has always been super thoughtful. He was kind and patient when things were good. We’re different people but I thought we meshed well together. 8 months before our wedding date, he completely blindsides me and drops a bombshell that he fell out of love with me, he doesn’t know if I’m the person for him, he’s not sure if I even love him for him (I do) and he starts listing a bunch of things that are “wrong” about me (I’m too quiet at social gatherings, I’m waiting till marriage to do certain things, I’m not stylish, I have too many fam events and am too dependent on my parents, he doesn’t think I appreciate him). The 180 mind boggles me, I don’t recognize this person. Even had a nice proposal with my dream ring.

He also has been saying mean things to me during limbo when we tried to work things out (I was apologizing for things I did that hurt him, I really loved him and went out of my way to make him happy in the best way I knew at the time but I had no idea it wasn’t enough, especially when he would tell me I’m perfect or how he’s grateful to do life with me)… mean things he said include how it feels like the cooties when I touch him, how I’m boring and I should be boring with someone else, how he can’t picture me as his wife and how he couldn’t see me walk down the aisle (all things that hurt to hear). He also disclosed that he cheated on me 2 years ago (kissed a girl from school a few times during the span of a week). He eventually broke things off with me saying he can’t proceed because he doesn’t have feelings. This all came as a shock to me because I had no idea he was falling out of love. I thought we were planning for our happily ever after together. Sometimes I blame myself for the things I could’ve done better (been more appreciative, more patient, more outgoing, more stylish) - he evaluated me and didn’t let me in on his problems. Any insight and opinions would be helpful.