u/Bluebird_Mood

I'm wondering if it's bad or shameful at all that I still live with my dad -- my mother is deceased -- at the age of 32? I graduated college with a bachelor's in film, and have a full-time job that pays about $45,000 after taxes. I do regularly apply to jobs for a few hours during the weekends, to attempt to get something better, preferably working for the government. I live in California, in San Diego.

I would like to keep living with my dad, although I'm not sure for how long. I am wise with each of my pay checks in that I am solely putting it into my Roth IRA to max it out, or to invest it into the VOO.

It's taken me a few years after graduation to become employed, and I have a strong suspicion it's been because of my quiet and monotone voice and because I'm a high-functioning autistic. I also look about eight years younger than I am. I also spent a long while trying to get hired as an entry-level video editor at an editing agency, and had made a website and YouTube Channel editing a lot of unofficial film trailers as well as doing professional editing for some clients for their film trailers, and despite getting some client work I failed at getting an agency job.

I wonder if my current living situation is abnormal, and maybe even bad? Any thoughts on this?

Not sure about ever getting a house of my own one day, and I'm not in a relationship or dating anyone. Hence the focus on putting away into my Roth IRA and investing.

I've been wondering about the pre-hire process involving the physical abilities portion. I've read what's been stated on the official BOP website, but I also read somewhere that there were a certain number of pushups and sit-ups involved and that you need to perform a certain number within a time range of 60 seconds or so. Is this not correct? Maybe it's outdated info that I came across?

I just want to make sure I know everything involved because I want to be properly prepared and pass.

Also, my vision is 20/40, but that's with wearing high-prescription glasses. Would I have a good chance of passing the vision requirements? My severe myopia is from being born prematurely and having to have surgery for retinal detachment. My prescription details:

Right Eye:
SPH: -9.50
CYL: -0.75
AXIS: 130

Left Eye:
SPH: -10.25
CYL: -2.00
AXIS: 70

I recently got hired as a freight associate. I had orientation last Friday and am scheduled to take the computer-based training from today until this Thursday, and then Friday is apparently my first day where I'm thrown "to the wolves" to start work.

Might be kind of dumb questions, but I just want to not be clueless as to where to go. Um, so today for the computer training, after clocking in at my assigned time, do I just go straight to the computer room or would I need to wait in the back-of-store waiting area like I did for my interview and orientation until a manager approaches me and permits me to enter the computer training room?

And on my first day of work... I was never shown at orientation where the backroom is. I'm assuming I would just head over there on my first day right after clocking in and I would be instructed by someone higher-up what items I'll need to be putting away/sorting? Or would I go someplace else other than the backroom to get my instructions?

Just don't want to mess up or get lost. Thanks.

And, I've tried multiple times to log in to workday and workforce, but I'm unable to log in to either one. I know I'm using the correct password, and my User ID. Is it normal for them to both not to be accessible until after my computer training's completed?

In my early thirties and graduated with a film production degree from SDSU a few years ago. I've always been very passionate about film, specifically film editing, and it's been a dream to one day get a video editing job at a company.

Over the past six years since graduating college I've applied to various video editing jobs within San Diego, including at Playstation, and local news companies. I have barely gotten any interviews. So I now work a job completely unrelated to film. But I have still edited a few official film trailers for clients as a freelance video editor, and have also edited unofficial fan-made film trailers for films that I like. I also have five feature film scripts written, each intended as ultra low-budget, dialogue-heavy projects.

I'm wondering if it's about time to completely give up on being hired by any film, tv, or video game company as a video editor, at least in San Diego. Perhaps it would be in my best interest to just focus on making a few short films or a feature film ultra low-budget, along with continuing to edit unofficial trailers for fun, without the hope of one day securing a job from the creativity. Just doing it during spare time because I like to do it.

I had applied to hundreds of video editing jobs located in Los Angeles, but only ever landed about 4-5 interviews during that six year period.

Suffice to say I feel like I'm through with all the work of applying and having no company want to hire me. If my work's going to get ignored, I figure I could just have it as a hobby I'm passionate about. At least I can imagine myself still doing video editing for fun even when I'm in my 50s, as a hobby, even if I'm only ever paid hardly anything for it by the very occasional client and mostly edit things just for fun.

I enjoy the process of editing unofficial trailers and movie montages a lot. Getting to choose the music and go through a lot of films, analysing them and cutting them to the music.

I suppose it's kind of like the lesson the main character learns in that Pixar movie "Soul", that the joy of creation is all that really matters, and enjoying that journey of creating pieces of art that move you and/or that mean something to you and you like, rather than attempting to make a profitable and successful career from. And that even if you would get a successful career, the enjoyment of the creation itself is still what matters most of all.

It has been tiring doing all of those hours applying and never really getting interest for my creativity. I do feel like the second half of my twenties were wasted by spending as much time as I did focusing on trying to make video editing in film a professional career. I don't regret my film production bachelor degree, however.

I learned all about the various types of FIRE, and right now am 33 years old. I graduated with a bachelor degree in film when I was 25 but couldn't land any steady employment until about a month ago. Until just recently I've only been able to get inconsistent low-paying work as a freelance video editor.

I have it planned where I have jobs lined up, one part-time and the other full-time, working 80 hours a week combined if I work overtime. One of them is Amazon and starts at $19 per hour but is 1.5 times the hourly pay for hours worked above 40.

I still live with my dad, in San Diego. I figure if I can work for 80 hours per week for the next two years and to invest essentially all of that take-home pay into VOO in my own investment account, and allow it to then sit and grow, I could coast fire and have a good amount saved at the age of 65, and not feel stressed about retirement.

Any thoughts on this? I kind of want to do this to make up for all the lost time throughout my 20s of never saving anything because I couldn't get any job. And I'd like to still be able to take full advantage of being able to live with my dad.

Not sure what I would do after I'd reach my investment goals after the two years are over.

My dad's already pretty old at 73.

Sorry, I had meant two years, not one year. Mistake in the title.

So I've only been on two dates in my life, both when I was in my early twenties. Each never went beyond the initial first date.

I'm now in my early thirties and I'm thinking of. it being very likely I'll never be in a romantic relationship with anyone. I've read that dates are similar to job interviews, and I don't interview well. I interview poorly, and it's taken me roughly six years after graduating from college to obtain some kind of a job, despite applying regularly during all of that time.

Combined with the fact that I'm socially awkward, I stutter, my voice is very quiet and monotone -- my dad told me I often sound simpleminded or that I'm on drugs, or actually retarded. I feel like I have no chance of having a deeply meaningful, fulfilling, happy romantic relationship. I feel I ought to just focus solely on my working life and on attempting to get a career going, and give up completely on romance because no one in their right mind would ever want me anyway or find me to be attractive. I consider myself to be ugly and repulsive, anyway, and am very used to being disrespected, dismissed, and feel like I'm viewed as not even human and instead seen and treated as this odd sort of alien who people should be careful around and interacted with limitedly, if at all. Or spoken down to like I'm a child or just not very smart.

I'n actually ashamed of my voice. That combined with how my face looks, I can see why a good number of people want to treat me like a child, men and women alike.

I'm a transitioned trans man. Four years total on T, and top surgery. No bottom surgery. I'm gay but very rarely romantically attracted to women.

Can anyone else relate?

Thanks for reading.

Picture of me attached. 😞

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I had applied to both a Correctional Officer position and a Unit Secretary position at the Metropolitan Correctional Center (MCC) in San Diego approximately a month-and-a-half ago. I have yet to get an invitation for an interview and was wondering if it's probably because staffing needs are not great and they're not lacking for workers there. Or perhaps it's because of too many applicants and they can only accept so many? When applying I noticed that it stated there were "many openings" for both jobs at the San Diego location. I was also rated as "best qualified" for the Unit Secretary position partly because of my crisis counsellor work experience and my bachelor's degree education.

Unfortunately I wouldn't be able to relocate outside of San Diego, so working for a different federal prison wouldn't be possible.

Is it likely I would need to wait two or three months, or even a few additional months, to receive an invitation to interview? I'm a little worried that I'll never be given a chance to interview.