u/Bored_Girly2124

i’m 22 and most men my age are really addicted to porn. it was one of the reasons why my ex and i broke up, he was subbing to OF girls. it just is extremely painful when i really love a guy but he’s getting off to random women online. and it makes me feel very self conscious of my body and looks. and ik i cant mentally handle dating a guy who reguarly watches porn while in a relationship. idk where to even look for a guy who doesnt because it seems like the vast majority do

the thing that bothers me about ryan condal and his team is that they inherently force women into a box when they claim they are doing the opposite. as evil as she was, cersei was one of my favorite characters from got. she was a horrible person but we know she became that way due to growing up in a patriarchal society and noble circle. she learned how to use power and also her sexuality as manipulation to get what she wanted. basically the same as any other corrupt way a man would’ve tried to hold onto power as well. however, i don’t see rhaenyra or alicent doing anything to hold onto their power in the show. i was excited for alicent’s character especially in episode 7 of season 1 when she resembled her book version more but after that she reverts back to this idea of empathy towards rhaenyra despite her son losing an eye. and rhaenyra softly crying and being docile after the murder of her son is completely illogical. why can’t we see female rage? why are women supposed to cry prettily and look off into the distance (i’m
looking at you alicent in that lake scene) when they are supposed to be engaged? if anything it reinforces the idea that women have to be perfect all the time and can’t unleash “ugly” emotions.

and obviously on the flip side, it simplifies men, especially aegon who was ignored his entire life by his parents so obviously he has some mental issues and could’ve had negative people influencing his behavior as a teenager which could’ve lead to the SA stuff he did because his parents weren’t there to disclipine (besides a slap basically) and instill morals in him. but the point is that rhaenyra and aegon are both not great people in the books. they both do things that are harmful to other people. they weren’t born evil or good, they are nuanced individuals because they are both products of their environment and lived experiences, social structures. same with alicent and any other character in the show. the idea that rhaenyra or alicent would be forgiving to each other after what happened is completely insane and it ruins the entire build up of the first season. ryan condal tries so hard to empower women but instead limits them to what they can actually do in dire and live changing situations. this is why house of the dragon is a bad attempt at being a feminist show and isn’t empowering to women.

so i was adopted as a baby and my biological mother claimed she didn't know who my biological father was. she had a long term bf but she cheated on him and that's how i was made. i did dna testing and i found some dna matches from my fathers side but they are mostly second and third cousins. and when i reached out to my closest match on my dads side, she didn't know any information as well. has anyone been able to find their fathers of their paternal family? i've always wanted to know more about my dads side especially because my adoptive father passed away years ago and i don't have a father in my life now. i'm just hoping there's some possibility out there that i could find him.

so i’m 22 and basically all my life i’ve never been able to squirt until recently. i used to watch tutorials on how to do it because i saw girls in porn being able to do it and i wondered if i could replicate it. and guys would ask me too if i was able to squirt and i always said no because i physically couldn’t. but then for some reason, when i hooked up with this guy a few nights ago, i ended up squirting when i finished when we were having intercourse and i was shocked. i never have done that before and i didn’t even think i could. it definitely wasn’t just pee because it didn’t have a smell and it was clear. but part of me felt like kinda dirty since i learned there’s trace urine from squirting. he seemed surprised by it but didn’t really react any particular way so idk if he even liked it. but yeah has this happened to anyone else? 😭or is there like a biological reason?

i (22f) have a friend who’s the same age who i have been close with for about 2 years. i like being around her most of the time and she’s fun to be around. but she has this habit of saying every guy she talks to is flirting with her. she’s a pretty girl but over and over i hear about this guy flirting with her and another guy this time and it just gets annoying. i’ve gotten hit on but i don’t really drop it in convos as much she does. maybe i’m just not as attractive as her and really does get hit on that much or she is exaggerating the situation. but it’s just annoying when someone brings that up like every time we hang out. i think she has an issue with male validation like i do but i don’t try to use it to one up my friends or that’s kinda of what it feels like to me at least because i keep having to hear about it. idk im just annoyed