sex advice: 30F and 33M
I’ve been with my boyfriend for a little over 3 years now and we’re long distance (2 hours apart). We see each other every weekend. 80% of our relationship has been commuting to see each other on the weekends. My boyfriend is into his career more than he was when he first started dating and it’s become his entire life and all he can talk about. He talks about it mostly in a stressful unhappy way, never positive way. It’s started to push him away from me intimately and it’s turning me off a lot. I’m a firm believer than when Friday night hits, leave work at work and enjoy the weekend. We haven’t been intimate now in a few months and work aside, I come to find out he watches Reddit porn and jerks off every single night he does not see me. We had sex for the first time in 4 months and he couldn’t finish and it just made me feel icky with the knowledge he can get off 5 days a week when I’m not around but not with me. When I was single, I’d also get off everyday but I wouldn’t rely on porn. I’d get off without it often but my boyfriend seems heavily dependent on it. I also do not get off on porn when I’m alone without him anymore. We tried again a week later and 2 more times after and he still couldn’t finish and gave up. It’s making me feel very weird because we used to be intimate with no issues every single weekend up until the last few months. I can’t tell if the work stress is getting to him or if he gets off on porn so much 5 days a week that he can’t get off when it’s time to see me. Is this even a thing? I’m starting to feel so insecure the longer we go without intimacy. I also wanna say I don’t pressure, I’m understanding, but there’s just a mixture of feeling weird and not desirable.