u/BuddyRelevant

Original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships\_advice/s/6PsVJwyUGt

We finally sat down and talked properly.

Here’s what we agreed on:

She will pay 45% of all shared living costs, I will pay 55%.

The extra 10% from my side is mainly for the small maintenance costs (around €50 extra per month for things like the airco, etc.) that she doesn’t feel is fair for her to pay fully.

She wants to buy 10% of my house from me. Her reasoning is that this way she will also “own” part of the house, so it feels like ours instead of just mine.

She would take a small mortgage for that 10%. I get the money from her and I will put that money away safely (not spend it).

I will set a fair price for the 10% that also takes into account that house prices go up, so I’m not selling it cheap.

We are going to a neutral financial advisor together.

I (and my parents) think it’s smarter if she just saves the money and buys the 10% in one go instead of taking a mortgage, because borrowing costs money.

We made a small bet: if the advisor agrees with me that saving is better, she has to buy me a box of Lego. If the advisor says the mortgage is the better option, I’ll accept that.

My parents are not happy with the idea of selling her 10%. They’re mostly worried that I’ll end up spending the money I receive. I plan to lock it away so that doesn’t happen.

Question:

Does this sound like a reasonably fair compromise, or am I still making a mistake somewhere?

EDIT: I'm so so lost, when I talk to her it all makes sense from her perspective but when I read all of your comments I get so confused. Break up? Stay with her? Lose some financial stability for love?

I own a fully paid-off house (inherited). I earn around €2000 a month. My girlfriend earns a bit more than me but doesn’t have a permanent contract yet.

She doesn’t want to move in because the house doesn’t feel like hers and she’s scared I’ll kick her out if we ever break up. Her mother is strongly encouraging this view.

She wants me to sell my house, buy a new one together, and take on a mortgage (which she would partially arrange), while I still contribute to the monthly payments.

My idea is that she moves in, we split all shared living costs equally, and we put a proper legal agreement in place so she’s protected if things go wrong.

I really don’t want to give up a debt-free house just to start paying a mortgage. Feels like a big step backwards for me.

Am I being unreasonable here? How would you handle this situation?

EDIT: Relationship is 2 years old. We won't be marrying anytime soon.

EDIT 2: Thanks for all the comments. The consensus is very clear. I will not sell my paid-off house. Her idea of creating a financial trap so I also have something to lose is a hard no for me. I’m done considering that option.

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