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Worst part about having n parents?

What's the worst part about having narc parents for you? For me, it's the constant questioning of myself: am I being too sensitive about what she said? Am I the narc for dismissing her criticism? Am I misremembering these memories or is she gaslighting me?

It's so fucking hard- and somehow that makes me feel worse than the emotional constant combativeness.

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u/Budget_Maize7279 — 1 month ago
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Amber Glenn: Meet the Person Behind the Fame

Because there are probably a lot of new fans since the Olympics, we have decided to do a series of posts on her background. This is post 1. I hope you enjoy! Content warning: this post does go into her mental health struggles.

Amber Elaine Glenn was born on October 28, 1999 in Plano, Texas, in the outskirts of Dallas. Her mother is a fitness instructor and her father is a police officer. She also has a younger sister named Brooke. She was homeschooled (like me!) from second grade to the end of high school to accommodate her rigorous training.

She began ice skating at age 5, inspired by American singles skater Sarah Hughes who was 2002 Olympic champion. During her transition to a senior skater, she internalized hate comments: being told she was too muscular, fat, had the wrong body shape, had terrible costumes, etc. As a result she got depression, anxiety, and an eating disorder. She was briefly in an inpatient facility due to thoughts of suicide. Her mental health struggles have led her to become a huge advocate for athlete mental health. By speaking about her own struggles, she addresses the stigma surrounding the "perfectionist" mindset people have towards elite athletes- especially Olympic ones. Fittingly, her mantra is "Believe and Breathe."

Figure skating is an intensely demanding sport from time, physical and mental fortitude, and, of course, money. He father worked over 30 hours of overtime; Amber used second-hand equipment from eBay, and her mother worked as a nanny for Amber's coach so they could receive discounted rates. After only a year of skating, Amber landed the axel jump- the hardest type of jump because it required an extra half-rotation. By the age of 11, she had landed all her triples save for the axel.

In the novice category at the US Championships in 2012, Amber won silver. The next year she placed fifth as a junior.

At the junior Grand Prix in the 2013-2014 season, she won bronze. It was her international junior debut. She won the 2014 Midwestern Sectional Championships, qualifying her for Nats. At Nats, she won both the short and the free skate. Her combined score was the highest score for a US junior lady under the ISU judging system at that time. While this was a huge win for Amber and showed her promise, it led to increased pressure and more mental health struggles.

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u/Budget_Maize7279 — 2 months ago
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When to start searching?

I’m 18, international adoptee from China, now live in US. Just finished high school, going to go to college but for the first two years I’ll be living at home. I want to get a DNA test (I think I’ll do it through ancestry.com) but I just don’t know when to do it. I know that there is so little hope of finding bio family, and that most likely my results will sit destitute for endless years. However, part of me is naive with 5e possibility that something might come up, and my whole life will be turned over.
My question is when should I get the dna test? I don’t know why, but I don’t really want my APs to have a role in this process- my mom’s a narc and they just seem to have crafted this narrative that suits them so they assume it works for me (lol they were doing what was best for you, they left you on the steps of a government building” that kind of bs).
I’m really ambitious and kinda feel like a failure. I’m doing community college for 2 years and then transferring to a UC instead of straight to university. I didn’t have a choice. My childhood was so messed up and now I’m paying the price. Anyway, should I do it during college? After? I’m going to get a master’s degree after college. Should I wait til I’m completely done with school? I would love help on this, I have no idea when to do this, because college and grand school mean a lot to me, and while I’m desperate to know about my bio family, I don’t want them ruining another part of my life.

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u/Budget_Maize7279 — 2 months ago