u/BuffaloBulky5086

i’m 2nd year premed major at UTS, but i don’t have any friends really- they left to go to another uni hahahah but if anyone would like to study that would be fun

i’m second year but only met one person so far doing pre med as well, maybe i don’t socialise enough

My partner and me have been together for a year and a few months now, our sexual life is pretty good, but before him I used to be dominant and service top i guess, but when i met him he didn’t like to be submissive which is fine and i believe there should never be two set sexual roles in a relationship. it’s hard to dominate him as he doesn’t like it, but he’s made comments that it’s about someone’s energy and person that makes it easier for him to let dominate him. he said to me yesterday we haven’t had sex in three weeks and i get really horny especially since i’m going through second puberty taking testosterone, but apparently he says i’m not dominant enough for him and i wish i could be. i wish he’d let me. to me this is crushing, even my last ex complained about this when he was fine with being dominant. it’s not like i don’t try with my partner, he’s never let me so it’s always felt awkward. so now no sex and he says he’s been doing it by himself due to this makes me really upset an feel like i’m not good enough. i don’t know what to do with this feeling and awkwardness. i want to know how to feel like im enough sexually for my partner without overcompensating?

I feel this OCD sub genre isn’t talked about often, every decision I make it dwells on me, i can’t stop thinking about it, it’s starting to make me feel sick. i recently got a piercing (spider bites) but the possibilities of choosing the wrong decision/choice instead of one keeps playing in my mind, it happens daily not just this one incident. does anyone also experience this? i’ve gotten over it many times like just saying “f- it” and choosing whatever.