Looking for the right positions
Hi good people of Reddit,
I was born with hip dysplasia/hip dislocation in both hips. Thankfully the doctors managed to fix it for the most part: one hip was put back perfectly and the other almost perfectly.
Because of that I have a slight difference in length between both my legs, my balance is shit, and I'm not exactly the most agile/flexible dude.
It's never really made me feel left out or anything, but there are just some random things I physically can't do. I can't ice/roller skate or ride a skateboard because I just don't have the balance. I also can't sit comfortably in a canoe for very long... no wait, more relevant to this post: I can't do what we call in Dutch "de kleermakerszit", basically sitting cross-legged.
Lotus, Burmese, all those kinds of positions... I wish I could try them, but they're just not really an option for me.
I picked meditation back up a while ago after years of not doing it, and I prefer doing it sitting because if I lie down I just get sleepy.
Right now I usually sit with my legs straight out in front of me and my arms either resting on my lap or over my abdomen while holding my own hands. It works, but something about it feels a bit off. Especially my arms. I kind of feel like they should be more "connected" to the rest of me somehow, if that makes any sense.
Maybe it's completely in my head, but sometimes it feels like the position itself is limiting me a bit. Not really because it's painful or anything, I just don't feel as settled or grounded as I think I should.
So I was wondering what kind of sitting position people would recommend if sitting cross-legged just isn't possible. And especially what you do with your arms/hands so they feel natural and relaxed instead of like they're just *floopy