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Signed a lease for a specific move-in date. Building called saying that date falls on Memorial Day and no one will be working — so we need to move in either sooner or later. No warning until now.

We agreed to move in one day earlier to accommodate them, but they're charging us a per diem fee for the extra day. When we pushed back and asked him to waive the fee, the staff member told my husband he was "doing us a favor" by informing us. And then he said “it’s only $80”. It’s not even about the money for us, more so about the principle. Had we just received a sincere apology for the inconvenience we may have moved on.

We already made plans with movers and have work the next day so moving in later is not going to work.

We're speaking to the property manager tomorrow. Is it reasonable to ask them to waive the fee? And if they refuse, do we have any real leverage here?

Signed a lease for a specific move-in date. Building called saying that date falls on Memorial Day and no one will be working — so we need to move in either sooner or later. No warning until now.

We agreed to move in one day earlier to accommodate them, but they're charging us a per diem fee for the extra day. When we pushed back, the staff member told my husband he was "doing us a favor" by informing us.

Here's what bothers me: if we move in one day later instead, we'd still be paying rent for the original move-in date without access to the unit. Either way we're losing a day we're paying for — and we didn't cause this problem.

We have work on the later date so that's not really a viable option either.

We're speaking to the property manager tomorrow. Is it reasonable to ask them to waive the fee? And if they refuse, do we have any real leverage here?

My relative recently announced that she’s pregnant after being married only a few months, and while I genuinely feel happy for her, I’ve been feeling unexpectedly emotional afterward.

I struggled with vaginismus for almost 3 years after getting married, and it took a long time, patience, and healing before sex became possible for me. Seeing someone else move so quickly from marriage to pregnancy brought up feelings I didn’t expect...sadness, comparison, pressure, and even a strange feeling that my own journey suddenly feels minimized.

I’m not currently trying to conceive, so this isn’t really about wanting a baby right now. I think it’s more about seeing something that was very difficult for me come easily to someone else, and now feeling “behind” even though logically I know everyone’s timeline is different.

Has anyone else experienced this after vaginismus or another intimate struggle? How did you process the comparison without feeling guilty for it?