u/CheBae101

I live in an apartment. The nine years I’ve had my dog, have all been in apartments and until recently in the last 8 months, I have had zero complaints and property managers have stated that my dog is super quiet.

However in the last 8 months, I have noticed a huge increase in anxiety when I leave for work or to go out with friends. This has resulted in numerous complaints from my landlord.

I have tried sedative medications the vet prescribed. Gabba and Traz. Both work but it’s not very consistent.

Recently the vet placed her on an a dirty medication, which would take 6-8 weeks to take effect.

I have also learned in the last several months that my neighbor next to me will bang on the wall, which according to neighbors is what tends to really upset my dog. Some days I come home and she’s super worked up.

I don’t believe it’s so much separation anxiety, but it seems that due to my neighbors antics that my dog is conditioned now to know that when I leave, the banging will start.

My landlord has done nothing after numerous complaints from myself and several neighbors. I’m not sure if the anxiety medication is even worth it due to the circumstances that’s causing this barking and howling. To me it seems that any dog would react this way and become agitated.

If I move, will this problem persist? I don’t have much funds to move. But as of today my landlord issued an official warning and the next step will be eviction.

I’m a bit lost as to what I can do to remedy the situation short term and long term and would appreciate any advice.

So context: I was talking to a girl I had just met, we were texting today and had been flirting back and forth in a teasing manner like all day.

At one point she made a comment that I was obsessed with her already to which I replied “let’s not put the cart before the horse 😉😘” and the banter continued with her teasing me some more. Eventually I had made a comment that I liked how she can “go back and forth with me and that she’s special for that” she responded with calling me gross for calling her special? And she was being for real and then following that she was pretty cold. So I ended the conversation and moved on.

I just find it weird because several times she had made comments about being the big sister and I didn’t shoot her down for that, but had pointed out that she’s not my sister and she even agreed that it might be weird for her to say that. So that just even made the whole exchange more confusing.

I have never been told that calling someone special is gross? I’ve been called special many times by other girls so this kind of caught me off guard. So ladies, was I in the wrong here or was she overreacting?

I don’t really use dating apps all that often. Basically I will create accounts and I will get a lot of interest from women but the conversations are always pretty bland and boring. So already, I never have much faith in these apps.

However recently I was messaged by a girl who I thought was incredibly cute. We also shared a ton in common. Like she seemed like the girl I’ve been searching for. It was almost weird how identical we were in interests, values etc. so i messaged her back and we chatted for a day before exchanging numbers.

During this time, she was kind of live bombing me. I’ve never been in that situation quite like this. Not only was she complimenting me and calling me cute repeatedly, which I liked. But she was referring to my parents as her future in laws, talking about our future house and kids. This made me a bit uneasy considering we haven’t even met in person, and had only been talking for two days.

On the second day I also found out she had just moved to the city from another state earlier that week for a job promotion. Good paying job, so I felt secure in that since I know she is financially independent. (My previous relationship, my ex was unemployed and refused to find work and kept expecting me to pay for everything) so things seemed fine on that end but in the back of my mind I was a bit alarmed at how hard she was love bombing me while just being brand new to the city?

Aside from texting, we spoke on the phone for a few days and our phone calls would go on for like an hour or two. Like I said earlier, we were really hitting it off. But she was very reluctant on meeting, stating she wants to settle in first, and she has bad anxiety meeting people for the first time. I understand getting settled in and was very accepting to her reasoning for that, and I also get nervous meeting someone for the first time so none of that seemed entirely unreasonable. But with how hard she was love bombing me but not wanting to meet in person, that part seemed a bit off. Regardless I told her I would give her the time and space needed for her to get settled in.

However, day 4 talking and she just abruptly stopped talking. She called later that day and said she was just overwhelmed with unpacking and that she forgot to text me that day. Again, I was understanding. Reassured her she doesn’t need to text me back right away or anything. She told me on the call she would text me that night after she ate dinner. But I never heard from her. Two more days go by and again, nothing. I sent her a message on her first day at her new job wishing her good luck, and hoping it goes well. Still nothing.

So today, I decided to move on. I took her off my Instagram, after all she was viewing my stories and posting on her story giving updates on her move. So she’s on her phone and looking at my profile etc. but can’t talk to me despite her saying she was going to text me a few days prior.

My main question is, what makes someone go so hard right out the gates like she did with love bombing me and talking about our future family etc. blowing up my phone and calling me to ghosting me in just a few days? Seems like a huge swing from one end to another, right?

I would appreciate some insight on this, did I cut her out too early? Would it be worth even reaching out to her now?

I know it’s just a dating app, and I typically don’t engage with them for the reason that people are flaky. but like I said, we had so much in common.

My hypothesis is she was on cloud 9 moving to a new city, having a new job that paid well and was probably very interested in me and attracted to me, but once she began unpacking, started her new job and feeling overwhelmed with the changes that she was pulled back to reality.

Or maybe she felt I wasn’t an interested since I wasn’t really live bombing her back. But I did make it known that I was interested, that I liked how she had so much in common. I gave her compliments and everything so she had to have known I was.

Anyways, I hope I provided enough details and information.