Am i aromantic or just scared of intimacy?

I’m a 22-year-old gay guy, and lately I’ve been questioning whether I might be asexual, aromantic, afraid of intimacy, or something else entirely.

I’ve always been someone who enjoys being alone and staying in my own little bubble. I value my peace a lot, and sometimes having someone else constantly in my space feels overwhelming. There are times when my partner calls or wants to talk and my immediate reaction is annoyance, even though they haven’t done anything wrong.
What makes me question things is that this isn’t just about my current relationship. Looking back, I’m not sure I’ve ever truly been in love with any of my partners. Usually, they were interested in me first. If someone wanted more than friendship, I’d often go along with it because I liked them as a person and hoped romantic feelings would develop over time. They never really did. I don’t approach individuals on a romantic level. Although I like the idea of love and relationships, but the reality often feels different. I want companionship, but I also find myself craving independence and distance.

I’m also very reserved when it comes to physical intimacy. The most I’m usually comfortable with is kissing. I’ve never felt comfortable with sex or things like oral sex, and even prolonged intimate contact can sometimes make me uncomfortable. It’s not that I find people unattractive, I can tell when a guy is attractive, but I don't necessarily want to date or sleep with him. I just don’t really have a strong desire to do those things.
Part of me wonders if I’m on the asexual spectrum. Another part wonders if I’m aromantic. Or maybe I’m just afraid of vulnerability and intimacy.
Has anyone else experienced something similar? How did you figure out whether it was asexuality, aromanticism, intimacy issues, or simply not having met the right person?

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u/Cheap_Ad175 — 13 hours ago

did my ortho do the right thing?

I had a severely crowded and misaligned tooth that needed to be extracted. My orthodontist said he couldn’t move it back into alignment because my wisdom tooth was occupying the space needed for it. To make my dental arch “even,” he removed my second premolar on the opposite side.
What I’m struggling to understand is how my arch can truly be balanced if I have a wisdom tooth on one side but not on the other. That’s what’s making me nervous. I’m worried the final result might end up looking uneven or strange. less

u/Cheap_Ad175 — 1 day ago

Change Sub pricing? ( FINAL POST)

I’m currently charging $7.86 per sub, but I’ve been thinking about raising it to $10. Right now I take home around $6.28 per subscriber, and at $10 I’d be taking home closer to $8.80.

My biggest concern is losing people on renewal. I have about 280 fans with renew on and 202 with renew off (491 subscribed total), so part of me is worried a price increase could hurt that.

I don’t really do PPV, but I just started experimenting with it last week and made about $1.5k. This month I made around $4k total—the most I’ve ever made in a month. Without the PPV, it would’ve been closer to $3k.

This is will be my last post about this, whatever the verdict is i’ll do it. Maybe i’m just being money hungry, but shit i’m not making content for minimum wage. I might as well work a 9-5

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u/Cheap_Ad175 — 8 days ago
▲ 2 r/braces

Will Braces fix this or be a waste of time?

I’m really not sure what to call my bite, I’m not sure if it’s a cross bite or open bite. I just woke up to be fair i’m seeing so much yellow on my teeth lol. I’m afraid of getting gum recession and rotting teeth from braces as well

u/Cheap_Ad175 — 9 days ago

Will braces fix this or be a waste of time?

I’m really not sure what to call my bite, I’m not sure if it’s a cross bite or open bite.

u/Cheap_Ad175 — 9 days ago

Free pages are ass. It’s just a bunch of freeloaders

I have like 11k people on my free page, i sent a PPV, 2k ppl saw it and only 1 person bought the content. it was only $20.😭

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u/Cheap_Ad175 — 10 days ago

Do i remove nut videos from my Wall?

My sub price is $7.80, and i make $6.20 per sub. I have lengthy 3-15mins videos. Just posted on my wall for everyone to see, and possibly screen record. I’m afraid if i should either delete all the full videos, and then resell them as PPV. but i’m afraid i’ll lose subs because all my full content is now behind a pay wall.

My page makes 2k a month roughly, I planned to upgrade my sub price is $10, although i’m afraid more subs will leave rather then come back.

Should I just post teaser videos and pictures? and do the ppv?
or do i post short 3mins, and then i’ll advertise the longer videos as ppv

I clearly don’t know how to manage myself, i just want some advice. I know i’ve posted this once before but this is more of a clear consensus of my situation all in one post.

My Avg rebill on rate right now is 280 right now with 477 subs.

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u/Cheap_Ad175 — 10 days ago

Do I change the way i run my page?

My subscription is currently $7.80, and I’m considering raising it to $10. I’m also thinking about removing the free content from my page and switching to a pay-per-video model, maybe around $5 per video.

I’m not really trying to squeeze more money out of peopleI’m already making around $2k–$3k a month. It just feels like I might be undervaluing my content and selling myself short.

I have 470 subs rn, with like 285 ppl with rebilled on

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u/Cheap_Ad175 — 11 days ago