u/Chemical-Jello5379

I (25F) has been with my bf (26M) for almost 2 years now. I love him a lot. He is a great person, people around me love him too. Although we have lots of differences, but somehow we still can work it out even though sometimes it is difficult. With this, one main problem I have is that he came from a really strict family. He still has curfew, his parents will call him almost every hours. At the beginning of the relationship, i thought things will be better, because he always try to reassure me by saying “my family is like this because they haven’t know you yet”. However, looking back now, things are still the same. The fact we’ve known each other for almost 2 years, i join his family trips, but I feel like I’m still in step 1.

He himself told me that he is also frustrated with his family, how they treated him, however he is trying to keep the family in peace (which I can understand why he did this, since I know the dynamic of his family), thats why most of the time he’ll give in. He was planning to move out next year, but his family beg him not to because they need his financial support. So he decided to postponed it to 2 years from now. Fyi, we are both asian and I get where he is coming from.

Now I’m so tired with this situation. Because I feel trapped too. I am a really adventurous person, i love being “wild”, I love doing new things. I want to maxed out my 20s. However, I wanted to do these things with my significant other, but I cant with him. I keep telling him how I feel, but all he can say is “this is my situation rn, i cant do these things with you rn, however I promise you one day we will able to.” However I feel unfair. Because until when do I need to wait for him? Another 2 years? But then what if I cant do these new things later? I dont want to regret not to experience new things at this age.

My other worry is how his family will treat us in the future. My parents are from another country and is visiting my brother who live in another state. I will visit them soon and I invited my bf and his family to to come with me. At first they agreed, but long story short they canceled, because of financial reason. I told my bf, then you can just come with me, but his family wont let him go without them coming. I feel disrespected. I shared my thoughts and feeling to my bf, and all he can do is apologizing.

I’m in a really big dilemma. I can see a future with him, I know he will stand up for me, support me, however rn, since he still live in the same roof as his family, he needs to balance it out. I feel bad for him too. I can see that he really need someone to support him though out this journey, because it doesnt look like his family will. Im just in this battle where I want to be selfish where I can experience dating like people out there, i have needs but he cant fulfill, at least for now, but at the same time I want to understand his situation, but its so difficult.

Ive been thinking to break up with him. But i’m afraid im just being so emotional, or im being too childish. He did a lot for me, he learned to change a lot of stuffs, and he did. I dont know what I’m looking for by sharing this on reddit. I’m open to your opinion, or to your experience, or anything. Thank you for reading.

I (25F) has been with my bf (26M) for almost 2 years now. I love him a lot. He is a great person, people around me love him too. Although we have lots of differences, but somehow we still can work it out even though sometimes it is difficult. With this, one main problem I have is that he came from a really strict family. He still has curfew, his parents will call him almost every hours. At the beginning of the relationship, i thought things will be better, because he always try to reassure me by saying “my family is like this because they haven’t know you yet”. However, looking back now, things are still the same. The fact we’ve known each other for almost 2 years, i join his family trips, but I feel like I’m still in step 1.

He himself told me that he is also frustrated with his family, how they treated him, however he is trying to keep the family in peace (which I can understand why he did this, since I know the dynamic of his family), thats why most of the time he’ll give in. He was planning to move out next year, but his family beg him not to because they need his financial support. So he decided to postponed it to 2 years from now. Fyi, we are both asian and I get where he is coming from.

Now I’m so tired with this situation. Because I feel trapped too. I am a really adventurous person, i love being “wild”, I love doing new things. I want to maxed out my 20s. However, I wanted to do these things with my significant other, but I cant with him. I keep telling him how I feel, but all he can say is “this is my situation rn, i cant do these things with you rn, however I promise you one day we will able to.” However I feel unfair. Because until when do I need to wait for him? Another 2 years? But then what if I cant do these new things later? I dont want to regret not to experience new things at this age.

My other worry is how his family will treat us in the future. My parents are from another country and is visiting my brother who live in another state. I will visit them soon and I invited my bf and his family to to come with me. At first they agreed, but long story short they canceled, because of financial reason. I told my bf, then you can just come with me, but his family wont let him go without them coming. I feel disrespected. I shared my thoughts and feeling to my bf, and all he can do is apologizing.

I’m in a really big dilemma. I can see a future with him, I know he will stand up for me, support me, however rn, since he still live in the same roof as his family, he needs to balance it out. I feel bad for him too. I can see that he really need someone to support him though out this journey, because it doesnt look like his family will. Im just in this battle where I want to be selfish where I can experience dating like people out there, i have needs but he cant fulfill, at least for now, but at the same time I want to understand his situation, but its so difficult.

Ive been thinking to break up with him. But i’m afraid im just being so emotional, or im being too childish. He did a lot for me, he learned to change a lot of stuffs, and he did. I dont know what I’m looking for by sharing this on reddit. I’m open to your opinion, or to your experience, or anything. Thank you for reading.

I (25F) has been with my bf (26M) for almost 2 years now. I love him a lot. He is a great person, people around me love him too. Although we have lots of differences, but somehow we still can work it out even though sometimes it is difficult. With this, one main problem I have is that he came from a really strict family. He still has curfew, his parents will call him almost every hours. At the beginning of the relationship, i thought things will be better, because he always try to reassure me by saying “my family is like this because they haven’t know you yet”. However, looking back now, things are still the same. The fact we’ve known each other for almost 2 years, i join his family trips, but I feel like I’m still in step 1.

He himself told me that he is also frustrated with his family, how they treated him, however he is trying to keep the family in peace (which I can understand why he did this, since I know the dynamic of his family), thats why most of the time he’ll give in. He was planning to move out next year, but his family beg him not to because they need his financial support. So he decided to postponed it to 2 years from now. Fyi, we are both asian and I get where he is coming from.

Now I’m so tired with this situation. Because I feel trapped too. I am a really adventurous person, i love being “wild”, I love doing new things. I want to maxed out my 20s. However, I wanted to do these things with my significant other, but I cant with him. I keep telling him how I feel, but all he can say is “this is my situation rn, i cant do these things with you rn, however I promise you one day we will able to.” However I feel unfair. Because until when do I need to wait for him? Another 2 years? But then what if I cant do these new things later? I dont want to regret not to experience new things at this age.

My other worry is how his family will treat us in the future. My parents are from another country and is visiting my brother who live in another state. I will visit them soon and I invited my bf and his family to to come with me. At first they agreed, but long story short they canceled, because of financial reason. I told my bf, then you can just come with me, but his family wont let him go without them coming. I feel disrespected. I shared my thoughts and feeling to my bf, and all he can do is apologizing.

I’m in a really big dilemma. I can see a future with him, I know he will stand up for me, support me, however rn, since he still live in the same roof as his family, he needs to balance it out. I feel bad for him too. I can see that he really need someone to support him though out this journey, because it doesnt look like his family will. Im just in this battle where I want to be selfish where I can experience dating like people out there, i have needs but he cant fulfill, at least for now, but at the same time I want to understand his situation, but its so difficult.

Ive been thinking to break up with him. But i’m afraid im just being so emotional, or im being too childish. He did a lot for me, he learned to change a lot of stuffs, and he did. I dont know what I’m looking for by sharing this on reddit. I’m open to your opinion, or to your experience, or anything. Thank you for reading.

I (25F) has been with my bf (26M) for almost 2 years now. I love him a lot. He is a great person, people around me love him too. Although we have lots of differences, but somehow we still can work it out even though sometimes it is difficult. With this, one main problem I have is that he came from a really strict family. He still has curfew, his parents will call him almost every hours. At the beginning of the relationship, i thought things will be better, because he always try to reassure me by saying “my family is like this because they haven’t know you yet”. However, looking back now, things are still the same. The fact we’ve known each other for almost 2 years, i join his family trips, but I feel like I’m still in step 1.

He himself told me that he is also frustrated with his family, how they treated him, however he is trying to keep the family in peace (which I can understand why he did this, since I know the dynamic of his family), thats why most of the time he’ll give in. He was planning to move out next year, but his family beg him not to because they need his financial support. So he decided to postponed it to 2 years from now. Fyi, we are both asian and I get where he is coming from.

Now I’m so tired with this situation. Because I feel trapped too. I am a really adventurous person, i love being “wild”, I love doing new things. I want to maxed out my 20s. However, I wanted to do these things with my significant other, but I cant with him. I keep telling him how I feel, but all he can say is “this is my situation rn, i cant do these things with you rn, however I promise you one day we will able to.” However I feel unfair. Because until when do I need to wait for him? Another 2 years? But then what if I cant do these new things later? I dont want to regret not to experience new things at this age.

My other worry is how his family will treat us in the future. My parents are from another country and is visiting my brother who live in another state. I will visit them soon and I invited my bf and his family to to come with me. At first they agreed, but long story short they canceled, because of financial reason. I told my bf, then you can just come with me, but his family wont let him go without them coming. I feel disrespected. I shared my thoughts and feeling to my bf, and all he can do is apologizing.

I’m in a really big dilemma. I can see a future with him, I know he will stand up for me, support me, however rn, since he still live in the same roof as his family, he needs to balance it out. I feel bad for him too. I can see that he really need someone to support him though out this journey, because it doesnt look like his family will. Im just in this battle where I want to be selfish where I can experience dating like people out there, i have needs but he cant fulfill, at least for now, but at the same time I want to understand his situation, but its so difficult.

Ive been thinking to break up with him. But i’m afraid im just being so emotional, or im being too childish. He did a lot for me, he learned to change a lot of stuffs, and he did. I dont know what I’m looking for by sharing this on reddit. I’m open to your opinion, or to your experience, or anything. Thank you for reading.

I (25F) has been with my bf (26M) for almost 2 years now. I love him a lot. He is a great person, people around me love him too. Although we have lots of differences, but somehow we still can work it out even though sometimes it is difficult. With this, one main problem I have is that he came from a really strict family. He still has curfew, his parents will call him almost every hours. At the beginning of the relationship, i thought things will be better, because he always try to reassure me by saying “my family is like this because they haven’t know you yet”. However, looking back now, things are still the same. The fact we’ve known each other for almost 2 years, i join his family trips, but I feel like I’m still in step 1.

He himself told me that he is also frustrated with his family, how they treated him, however he is trying to keep the family in peace (which I can understand why he did this, since I know the dynamic of his family), thats why most of the time he’ll give in. He was planning to move out next year, but his family beg him not to because they need his financial support. So he decided to postponed it to 2 years from now. Fyi, we are both asian and I get where he is coming from.

Now I’m so tired with this situation. Because I feel trapped too. I am a really adventurous person, i love being “wild”, I love doing new things. I want to maxed out my 20s. However, I wanted to do these things with my significant other, but I cant with him. I keep telling him how I feel, but all he can say is “this is my situation rn, i cant do these things with you rn, however I promise you one day we will able to.” However I feel unfair. Because until when do I need to wait for him? Another 2 years? But then what if I cant do these new things later? I dont want to regret not to experience new things at this age.

My other worry is how his family will treat us in the future. My parents are from another country and is visiting my brother who live in another state. I will visit them soon and I invited my bf and his family to to come with me. At first they agreed, but long story short they canceled, because of financial reason. I told my bf, then you can just come with me, but his family wont let him go without them coming. I feel disrespected. I shared my thoughts and feeling to my bf, and all he can do is apologizing.

I’m in a really big dilemma. I can see a future with him, I know he will stand up for me, support me, however rn, since he still live in the same roof as his family, he needs to balance it out. I feel bad for him too. I can see that he really need someone to support him though out this journey, because it doesnt look like his family will. Im just in this battle where I want to be selfish where I can experience dating like people out there, i have needs but he cant fulfill, at least for now, but at the same time I want to understand his situation, but its so difficult.

Ive been thinking to break up with him. But i’m afraid im just being so emotional, or im being too childish. He did a lot for me, he learned to change a lot of stuffs, and he did. I dont know what I’m looking for by sharing this on reddit. I’m open to your opinion, or to your experience, or anything. Thank you for reading.

TL;DR: I (25F) love my boyfriend (26M), but his strict family controls a lot of his life even at his age. We’ve been together almost 2 years, but I still feel limited in what we can do because he prioritizes keeping peace with his family. He promises things will get better “one day,” but I’m tired of waiting and worried I’ll regret missing out on experiences in my 20s. I understand his situation and feel bad for him, but I’m starting to question whether love is enough for this relationship long-term.