Have you ever been convinced someone was your person or that they were "meant for you," only to later completely change your mind?
If so, what actually changed? How did you move on again?
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Almost a year later and I’m (29F) still devastated by a breakup/situationship with a guy (29M) that lasted about a year and a half. He kept me emotionally attached for a long time, talked about a future with me at points, then eventually got into a committed relationship with another girl within a few months. Cliché, I know.
I’m slowly getting through it but it still hurts like hell. Iv been doing some art classes, therapy, deleted social media and trying to focus on my fitness and travel plans. I even tried dating a little while but found I wasn't ready.
What are other ways you were able to move through the sadness and rejection? It’s even harder given my age and everyone else is getting engaged and married and I feel like the odd one out and will be left with the scraps in the dating pool.
Please be kind.
Have you ever ended things with a woman very firmly, like you genuinely believed it was the right decision and there was no going back, but later regretted it?
Not necessarily in a “I miss her because I’m lonely” way, but more in a “I didn’t realise what I had", “I thought the issues were bigger than they were",“I chose peace/ease/novelty at the time", or “I wasn’t emotionally mature enough for the relationship then”
Did the regret hit immediately or much later? And did you ever try to reconnect, or did you just accept it and move on with someone else?
I want honest male perspectives on this situation because I feel like I’m going in circles in my own head.
I was involved with a guy on and off for a long time. In the beginning, he pursued me hard, talked about the future, said things like he thought I was “the one,” and acted very emotionally invested. But he never fully committed. Whenever things got serious, he’d pull back and say he “wasn’t ready for a relationship.”
Over time the dynamic became messy and emotional. We had strong chemistry and feelings, but also inconsistency, mixed signals, periods of distance, conflict, etc. Eventually he ended things and basically said “we didn’t work” and that he didn’t think we should be together.
The confusing part is that not long after, he got into a committed relationship with another girl and seems very serious about her. He introduced her to family/friends, acts consistent with her, and is doing all the normal boyfriend things he never did with me.
My question for men is:
How can a guy genuinely have strong feelings for someone, say all those things, and still never fully commit — but then commit pretty quickly to someone else?
Does this usually mean:
I know nobody here knows him personally. I’m just trying to understand how men experience situations like this because I keep flipping between “he cared but couldn’t make it work” and “he never really wanted me in the first place.”
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I am struggling hard with a situation where a guy i thought was my soulmate, never chose me. We were basically in a situationship, had feelings for each other but he was unhappy in life. He took me for granted, disrespected me and I would lash out, we brought out the worst in each other.
A year and a half later he left my life because he knew I wanted a relationship with him but he met another girl he was interested in and no longer thought we were meant for each other.
Now they have been comitted for at least 6-7 months and am only now accepting it is not a rebound, it is a real relationship he never tried to build with me. He is capable of consistency and commitment but not with me.
My self worth, confidence and happiness has gone completely down the drain, its pathetic I am aware, but I cannot find the energy to bring back my own power.
I think what I’m really struggling with is not just losing him, but accepting that something I believed had so much potential never became real with us, but did with him and this other girl.
ChatGPT isn't helping
I am struggling hard with a situation where a guy i thought was my soulmate, never chose me. We were basically in a situationship, had feelings for each other but he was unhappy in life. He took me for granted, disrespected me and I would lash out, we brought out the worst in each other.
A year and a half later he left my life because he knew I wanted a relationship with him but he met another girl he was interested in and no longer thought we were meant for each other.
Now they have been comitted for at least 6-7 months and am only now accepting it is not a rebound, it is a real relationship he never tried to build with me. He is capable of consistency and commitment but not with me.
My self worth, confidence and happiness has gone completely down the drain, its pathetic I am aware, but I cannot find the energy to bring back my own power.
I think what I’m really struggling with is not just losing him, but accepting that something I believed had so much potential never became real with us, but did with him and this other girl.
ChatGPT isn't helping