u/Comfortable-Sun-9473

I don’t really know if this is the right place to post this, but I’m on day 12 coming off kratom and I’m honestly struggling a lot mentally and just feel really lost.
I’m 22M. I grew up in NJ and I recently moved to South Dakota because it was the only other place I knew people outside of NJ. I didn’t move for a perfect reason or anything, it just ended up being where I had some other family connections and a place to go when things in NJ weren’t great.
Looking back, I wasn’t a great person growing up. I tried to act like a “gangster” type and got involved with the wrong crowd. I pushed a lot of people away and burned bridges without really realizing it at the time. By the time high school went on, I was pretty much isolated and left out of most social circles, except for people who weren’t really good influences.
I come from a loving family and had a good childhood in some ways, but socially I really messed things up and didn’t handle things well. I graduated with a low GPA (around 1.5) and didn’t really build a stable friend group or direction in life.
Right now I’m dealing with:
kratom withdrawal (day 12)
pretty constant depression and anxiety
no real social life or friend group
feeling stuck between NJ and SD and not knowing where I belong
a lot of regret about how I handled my past
Some days are okay, but a lot of the time I feel really isolated and like I missed my chance socially. I miss having friends, being invited places, and just feeling connected to people.
I also have a girlfriend, but I honestly feel confused about that too and whether it’s real connection or just me being afraid of being alone.
I went to a crisis center recently but didn’t really get much help and ended up with a big bill, which honestly made things feel worse.
I’m not looking for sympathy or anything like that. I just want to know if anyone has been in a similar situation where they basically had to rebuild their life and social circle from almost nothing and actually figured it out.
Any advice on:
getting through kratom withdrawal mentally
rebuilding a social life from scratch in your early 20s
or just getting out of this stuck mindset
would really help.
Thanks for reading

I’ve made a few posts on here today is my 8th day without kratom and am still feeling pretty shitty, was taking anywhere from 1-3 Mit45 shots a day for about 4-5 years, I had quit a few times before but not sure if this time was so difficult due to declining mental health. I defently used it mainly for my depression and also just to get high. Curious when cravings start to go away and when you start to feel some happiness again. Thanks everybody

I’m 22 years old and I have a DUI, but I received a Suspended Imposition of Sentence (SIS). Because of that:
It is not on my driving record (MVR)
I never lost my license
I never had SR-22 insurance
It is scheduled to be removed/expunged in September
I’m trying to get a job as a CDL delivery driver (places like Pepsi/WP-type companies).
My questions are:
Will employers still be able to see the DUI on a background check even though it’s SIS and not on my MVR?
Would this automatically disqualify me from hiring even if my driving record is clean?
If I apply now and get denied, can I still reapply in September once it is expunged and no longer visible on records?
Or does a prior application/denial affect future chances even after expungement?
Just trying to understand how strict these companies actually are with this situation and whether timing (now vs after expungement) really makes a difference.

I’m 22 years old and I have a DUI, but I received a Suspended Imposition of Sentence (SIS). Because of that:
It is not on my driving record (MVR)
I never lost my license
I never had SR-22 insurance
It is scheduled to be removed/expunged in September
I’m trying to get a job as a CDL delivery driver (places like Pepsi/WP-type companies).
My questions are:
Will employers still be able to see the DUI on a background check even though it’s SIS and not on my MVR?
Would this automatically disqualify me from hiring even if my driving record is clean?
If I apply now and get denied, can I still reapply in September once it is expunged and no longer visible on records?
Or does a prior application/denial affect future chances even after expungement?
Just trying to understand how strict these companies actually are with this situation and whether timing (now vs after expungement) really makes a difference.

I’m a 22 year old guy originally from New Jersey. Last year I moved to South Dakota hoping for a better life and a fresh start. Honestly, my life here hasn’t been great overall, but I did meet an amazing woman. She’s genuinely the sweetest girl I’ve ever been with, treats me incredibly well, and I really do love her. We’ve only been dating since January though.

At the same time, I’m struggling badly with quitting a 6-year kratom addiction. I’m currently unemployed, don’t really have friends here or back in NJ anymore, and feel pretty lost in life overall.

One thing I do have is amazing parents back home in NJ. They’re honestly incredible role models and I miss them a lot. My dad owns a business that I worked at for over a year before moving to South Dakota, and if I moved back home I could probably work with him again and maybe eventually take over the business someday if I worked hard enough.

The problem is I feel completely torn between two lives.

On one hand:
\- Stay in South Dakota
\- Be with this amazing girl
\- Try to build a life from scratch
\- Learn a trade or skill and maybe someday start a business here

But I also feel trapped here sometimes because I don’t really have direction, opportunities, or a support system besides her.

On the other hand:
\- Move back to NJ
\- Be close to my parents again
\- Work toward a stable future with my dad’s business
\- Probably have more long-term financial security

But then I lose this relationship and go back to having basically no social life there either.

The hardest part is if me and her broke up tomorrow, I’d probably move home almost immediately. That makes me question whether I’m staying here for the right reasons.

I basically feel like every decision is wrong:
\- Stay in South Dakota with a great girl but no direction
\- Or move home for family and opportunity but feel alone socially again

Has anyone else in their 20s felt stuck between love, family, and trying to figure out where they actually belong?

Im currently not working or doing anything I get really motivated while I’m high on kratom but sense trying to quit I geniality am crippled with this question. My mental health is already not okay and I am honestly scared at how low I feel every day to the point I checked myself into a mental hospital. Never have attempted suicde nor plan on it but sometimes I no longer wanna be here.

I’ve been abusing kratom for around 6 years now off and on. “The shots to be exact” this go round the withdrawals have not been so bad but the mental effect has been terrible to the mount im border line suicidal. A lot has happend this year I moved to SD from NJ in hopes of having a better life. I haven’t I’ve found myself in a place I like but has no opportunity. I’m just curious if the mental effects ever get better I’m really really struggling and crying all day. I really could use some advice guys.