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I'm 19 and 8 months pregnant, 5 Months ago I had brought up to my MIL that I didn't want anyone kissing my baby cause of Risks that I had read online and the fact that she smokes Cigarettes (Cigarettes is just a her thing and I've also politely asked her to smoke outside so my baby doesn't have the risk of second hand smoke), I didn't want to risk anything happening with my baby (we also live with her so I had only told her at the time because she was the only one I had to worry about, We do pay her half of my husbands paycheck to go towards bills) and she told me "Whatever, I'm gonna kiss all over that baby." Which I thought was weird but also thought it was a joke at the time, so I let it go. Yesterday, Me and My husband had mentioned it again to her and the fact that I didn't want to risk anything and she said "Find Research and maybe I'll consider it."

So we went online and found websites from different doctors to find risks for it, My mom had also told me that I had RSV as a kid and that it was a risk of kissing the baby before the babies immune system was built up, So I sent a screen shot of the research to her and she said "The baby will get RSV regardless of if you kiss him or not so not kissing him isn't doing anything besides depriving him of love." Me and my husband both replied saying "The only people we are depriving love from is people who aren't his parents", She then said " Whatever, I'm not fighting you on this, your reasoning doesn't stack up, I'm not going to be bullied into agreeing to that." My husband replied saying that "Welp, We aren't bullying you, We're setting a basic boundary and if you can't see that, we can make sure of it." which made her reply saying "You forget who is supporting you and your family, who helps you, This isn't a smart fight to pick."

Currently, Me and my husband are finding a new ob and a pediatrician down where my mom lives so we can go live with her and my dad, My husband will have better working opportunities down there and I'll be able to go back to work and help save for our own place... Are we making the right decision on leaving?

PSA: I don't know whether this comment was deleted but it's not showing up. I left my family in the other town cause I believed moving down here would be the best decision for us, It was way before I got pregnant and I didn't think I would get pregnant. This is something I didn't think would happen but i know if I were still down there with my husband none of this would have happened, Is it my fault? Maybe. But I moved down here cause I thought it would have better opportunities but I was wrong and that is 100% my fault.

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I'm 19 and 8 months pregnant, 5 Months ago I had brought up to my MIL that I didn't want anyone kissing my baby cause of Risks that I had read online and the fact that she smokes Cigarettes (Cigarettes is just a her thing and I've also politely asked her to smoke outside so my baby doesn't have the risk of second hand smoke), I didn't want to risk anything happening with my baby (we also live with her so I had only told her at the time because she was the only one I had to worry about, We do pay her half of my husbands paycheck to go towards bills) and she told me "Whatever, I'm gonna kiss all over that baby." Which I thought was weird but also thought it was a joke at the time, so I let it go. Yesterday, Me and My husband had mentioned it again to her and the fact that I didn't want to risk anything and she said "Find Research and maybe I'll consider it."

So we went online and found websites from different doctors to find risks for it, My mom had also told me that I had RSV as a kid and that it was a risk of kissing the baby before the babies immune system was built up, So I sent a screen shot of the research to her and she said "The baby will get RSV regardless of if you kiss him or not so not kissing him isn't doing anything besides depriving him of love." Me and my husband both replied saying "The only people we are depriving love from is people who aren't his parents", She then said " Whatever, I'm not fighting you on this, your reasoning doesn't stack up, I'm not going to be bullied into agreeing to that." My husband replied saying that "Welp, We aren't bullying you, We're setting a basic boundary and if you can't see that, we can make sure of it." which made her reply saying "You forget who is supporting you and your family, who helps you, This isn't a smart fight to pick."

Currently, Me and my husband are finding a new ob and a pediatrician down where my mom lives so we can go live with her and my dad, My husband will have better working opportunities down there and I'll be able to go back to work and help save for our own place... Are we making the right decision on leaving?

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I'm 19 and 8 months pregnant, 5 Months ago I had brought up to my MIL that I didn't want anyone kissing my baby cause of Risks that I had read online and the fact that she smokes both Weed and Cigarettes, I didn't want to risk anything happening with my baby (we also live with her so I had only told her at the time because she was the only one I had to worry about) and she told me "Whatever, I'm gonna kiss all over that baby." Which I thought was weird but also thought it was a joke at the time, so I let it go. Yesterday, Me and My husband had mentioned it again to her and the fact that I didn't want to risk anything and she said "Find Research and maybe I'll consider it."

So we went online and found websites from different doctors to find risks for it, My mom had also told me that I had RSV as a kid and that it was a risk of kissing the baby before the babies immune system was built up, So I sent a screen shot of the research to her and she said "The baby will get RSV regardless of if you kiss him or not so not kissing him isn't doing anything besides depriving him of love." Me and my husband both replied saying "The only people we are depriving love from is people who aren't his parents", She then said " Whatever, I'm not fighting you on this, your reasoning doesn't stack up, I'm not going to be bullied into agreeing to that." My husband replied saying that "Welp, We aren't bullying you, We're setting a basic boundary and if you can't see that, we can make sure of it." which made her reply saying "You forget who is supporting you and your family, who helps you, This isn't a smart fight to pick."

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I'm 19 and 8 months pregnant, 5 Months ago I had brought up to my MIL that I didn't want anyone kissing my baby cause of Risks that I had read online and the fact that she smokes both Weed and Cigarettes, I didn't want to risk anything happening with my baby (we also live with her so I had only told her at the time because she was the only one I had to worry about) and she told me "Whatever, I'm gonna kiss all over that baby." Which I thought was weird but also thought it was a joke at the time, so I let it go. Yesterday, Me and My husband had mentioned it again to her and the fact that I didn't want to risk anything and she said "Find Research and maybe I'll consider it."

So we went online and found websites from different doctors to find risks for it, My mom had also told me that I had RSV as a kid and that it was a risk of kissing the baby before the babies immune system was built up, So I sent a screen shot of the research to her and she said "The baby will get RSV regardless of if you kiss him or not so not kissing him isn't doing anything besides depriving him of love." Me and my husband both replied saying "The only people we are depriving love from is people who aren't his parents", She then said " Whatever, I'm not fighting you on this, your reasoning doesn't stack up, I'm not going to be bullied into agreeing to that." My husband replied saying that "Welp, We aren't bullying you, We're setting a basic boundary and if you can't see that, we can make sure of it." which made her reply saying "You forget who is supporting you and your family, who helps you, This isn't a smart fight to pick."

Are we the asshole for asking people not to kiss our son?

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I'm 19 and 8 months pregnant, 5 Months ago I had brought up to my MIL that I didn't want anyone kissing my baby cause of Risks that I had read online and the fact that she smokes both Weed and Cigarettes, I didn't want to risk anything happening with my baby (we also live with her so I had only told her at the time because she was the only one I had to worry about) and she told me "Whatever, I'm gonna kiss all over that baby." Which I thought was weird but also thought it was a joke at the time, so I let it go. Yesterday, Me and My husband had mentioned it again to her and the fact that I didn't want to risk anything and she said "Find Research and maybe I'll consider it."

So we went online and found websites from different doctors to find risks for it, My mom had also told me that I had RSV as a kid and that it was a risk of kissing the baby before the babies immune system was built up, So I sent a screen shot of the research to her and she said "The baby will get RSV regardless of if you kiss him or not so not kissing him isn't doing anything besides depriving him of love." Me and my husband both replied saying "The only people we are depriving love from is people who aren't his parents", She then said " Whatever, I'm not fighting you on this, your reasoning doesn't stack up, I'm not going to be bullied into agreeing to that." My husband replied saying that "Welp, We aren't bullying you, We're setting a basic boundary and if you can't see that, we can make sure of it." which made her reply saying "You forget who is supporting you and your family, who helps you, This isn't a smart fight to pick."