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It's been a long two months, I have posted several times so first of all.. I want to thank you all, just for listening to me, giving me advice, giving me support and more. This has helped tremendously, even if it just was to rant sometimes. I hope this might be helpful to people going through something similar.

MyF'ex' vanished four weeks ago. She had a pattern of discarding and ghosting me previously but would always come back several days later with breadcrumbs,high emotional urgency,chasing me even when she ghosted me for a handful of days.

Previously she said she was scared to love me and scared I would run from her. She called me the perfect man. When we were together,everything felt easy but once distance came in to play, the games started.

4 Sundays ago we had a great call. After the fall for the first time she said she would actually wait for me and I am the only one for her. Her last message on that sunday night was 'love you'. I never heard from her again. Those were her last words to me.

I didn't chase after my last message or get angry/beg. 7 days later she put up a picture with her toxic ex, who kept talking about me, threatening he would kill himself etc. I didn''t react or send her a message. 4 days later that picture was gone.

By day 16 I sent a light check in, not even mentioning anything but she still chose to ignore me. I realized it was over. So I sent a closure message, just saying I was confused how it ended and wished we could have at least talked. I told her how I felt about her and I wished her many blessings on her journey. Never got a response.

I am not mad or angry. I can accept someone not wanting to be with me. That's life. I am dissapointed the way she left things. Saying love you and then vanishing. She left me alone to deal with everything. She left me with so many questions that I know I will never get an answer to. Which made it all harder. My heartbreak and real anxiety has gone. I accepted the situation for what it is but there is still a general sadness, which I know will not go away soon. I am letting go and I am happy I send my closure message (even if she maybe never even read it). I said what I had to say, I did what I could. If someone does not want me in their life, I have to accept that. I wish it could have ended differently but that was not in my hands. There will be tough times ahead, memories will pop up again randomly, feelings will come up but for everyone struggling with something similar.. You are not alone and you will be okay. Don't play games. Either someone wants you or they don't. Don't chase, don't beg but if you feel like you need to send a closure message, then go ahead.

I don't want any anger in my heart or any bitterness. I truly and honestly want the best for her and I do hope she is happy, regardless of my own pain. If you truly love someone, you also need to let it go.

Now time to try and let go. Focus on myself and my future. What happens will happen and what doesn't will not. I don't want anything that does not want me. If something is truly for you, it will not miss you.

All easier said than done, but we will be okay in the end. The person is missing out on you, not the other way around. If they can't accept healthy love, that is on them. It is not on you. Stay strong and always here if anyone needs someone to listen to them or just talk to them.

We are going to be alright in the end 🩷

It's been a long two months, I have posted several times so first of all.. I want to thank you all, just for listening to me, giving me advice, giving me support and more. This has helped tremendously, even if it just was to rant sometimes. I hope this might be helpful to people going through something similar.

My Fearfulavoidante vanishedlfour weeks ago. She had a pattern of discarding and ghosting me previously but would always come back. With breadcrumbs,high emotional urgency,chasing me even when she ghosted me for a handful of days.

Previously she said she was scared to love me and scared I would run from her. She called me the perfect man. When we were together,everything felt easy but once distance came in to play, the games started.

4 Sundays ago we had a great call. After the fall for the first time she said she would actually wait for me and I am the only one for her. Her last message on that sunday night was 'love you'. I never heard from her again. Those were her last words to me.

I didn't chase after my last message or get angry/beg. 7 days later she put up a picture with her toxic ex, who kept talking about me, threatening he would kill himself etc. I didn''t react or send her a message. 4 days later that picture was gone.

By day 16 I sent a light check in, not even mentioning anything but she still chose to ignore me. I realized it was over. So I sent a closure message, just saying I was confused how it ended and wished we could have at least talked. I told her how I felt about her and I wished her many blessings on her journey. Never got a response.

I am not mad or angry. I can accept someone not wanting to be with me. That's life. I am dissapointed the way she left things. Saying love you and then vanishing. She left me alone to deal with everything. She left me with so many questions that I know I will never get an answer to. Which made it all harder. My heartbreak and real anxiety has gone. I accepted the situation for what it is but there is still a general sadness, which I know will not go away soon. I am letting go and I am happy I send my closure message (even if she maybe never even read it). I said what I had to say, I did what I could. If someone does not want me in their life, I have to accept that. I wish it could have ended differently but that was not in my hands. There will be tough times ahead, memories will pop up again randomly, feelings will come up but for everyone struggling with something similar.. You are not alone and you will be okay. Don't play games. Either someone wants you or they don't. Don't chase, don't beg but if you feel like you need to send a closure message, then go ahead.

I don't want any anger in my heart or any bitterness. I truly and honestly want the best for her and I do hope she is happy, regardless of my own pain. If you truly love someone, you also need to let it go.

Thanks everyone for being here for me through these hard times. It really did make a difference. Now time to try and let go. Focus on myself and my future. What happens will happen and what doesn't will not. I don't want anything that does not want me. If something is truly for you, it will not miss you.

All easier said than done, but we will be okay in the end. The person is missing out on you, not the other way around. If they can't accept healthy love, that is on them. It is not on you. Stay strong and always here if anyone needs someone to listen to them or just talk to them.

We are going to be alright in the end 🩷

It's been a long two months, I have posted several times so first of all.. I want to thank you all, just for listening to me, giving me advice, giving me support and more. This has helped tremendously, even if it just was to rant sometimes. I hope this might be helpful to people going through something similar.

My Fearfulavoidante vanishedlfour weeks ago. She had a pattern of discarding and ghosting me previously but would always come back. With breadcrumbs,high emotional urgency,chasing me even when she ghosted me for a handful of days.

Previously she said she was scared to love me and scared I would run from her. She called me the perfect man. When we were together,everything felt easy but once distance came in to play, the games started.

4 Sundays ago we had a great call. After the fall for the first time she said she would actually wait for me and I am the only one for her. Her last message on that sunday night was 'love you'. I never heard from her again. Those were her last words to me.

I didn't chase after my last message or get angry/beg. 7 days later she put up a picture with her toxic ex, who kept talking about me, threatening he would kill himself etc. I didn''t react or send her a message. 4 days later that picture was gone.

By day 16 I sent a light check in, not even mentioning anything but she still chose to ignore me. I realized it was over. So I sent a closure message, just saying I was confused how it ended and wished we could have at least talked. I told her how I felt about her and I wished her many blessings on her journey. Never got a response.

I am not mad or angry. I can accept someone not wanting to be with me. That's life. I am dissapointed the way she left things. Saying love you and then vanishing. She left me alone to deal with everything. She left me with so many questions that I know I will never get an answer to. Which made it all harder. My heartbreak and real anxiety has gone. I accepted the situation for what it is but there is still a general sadness, which I know will not go away soon. I am letting go and I am happy I send my closure message (even if she maybe never even read it). I said what I had to say, I did what I could. If someone does not want me in their life, I have to accept that. I wish it could have ended differently but that was not in my hands. There will be tough times ahead, memories will pop up again randomly, feelings will come up but for everyone struggling with something similar.. You are not alone and you will be okay. Don't play games. Either someone wants you or they don't. Don't chase, don't beg but if you feel like you need to send a closure message, then go ahead.

I don't want any anger in my heart or any bitterness. I truly and honestly want the best for her and I do hope she is happy, regardless of my own pain. If you truly love someone, you also need to let it go.

Thanks everyone for being here for me through these hard times. It really did make a difference. Now time to try and let go. Focus on myself and my future. What happens will happen and what doesn't will not. I don't want anything that does not want me. If something is truly for you, it will not miss you.

All easier said than done, but we will be okay in the end. The person is missing out on you, not the other way around. If they can't accept healthy love, that is on them. It is not on you. Stay strong and always here if anyone needs someone to listen to them or just talk to them.

We are going to be alright in the end 🩷

It's been a long two months, I have posted several times so first of all.. I want to thank you all, just for listening to me, giving me advice, giving me support and more. This has helped tremendously, even if it just was to rant sometimes. I hope this might be helpful to people going through something similar.

My Fearfulavoidante vanishedlfour weeks ago. She had a pattern of discarding and ghosting me previously but would always come back. With breadcrumbs,high emotional urgency,chasing me even when she ghosted me for a handful of days.

Previously she said she was scared to love me and scared I would run from her. She called me the perfect man. When we were together,everything felt easy but once distance came in to play, the games started.

4 Sundays ago we had a great call. After the fall for the first time she said she would actually wait for me and I am the only one for her. Her last message on that sunday night was 'love you'. I never heard from her again. Those were her last words to me.

I didn't chase after my last message or get angry/beg. 7 days later she put up a picture with her toxic ex, who kept talking about me, threatening he would kill himself etc. I didn''t react or send her a message. 4 days later that picture was gone.

By day 16 I sent a light check in, not even mentioning anything but she still chose to ignore me. I realized it was over. So I sent a closure message, just saying I was confused how it ended and wished we could have at least talked. I told her how I felt about her and I wished her many blessings on her journey. Never got a response.

I am not mad or angry. I can accept someone not wanting to be with me. That's life. I am dissapointed the way she left things. Saying love you and then vanishing. She left me alone to deal with everything. She left me with so many questions that I know I will never get an answer to. Which made it all harder. My heartbreak and real anxiety has gone. I accepted the situation for what it is but there is still a general sadness, which I know will not go away soon. I am letting go and I am happy I send my closure message (even if she maybe never even read it). I said what I had to say, I did what I could. If someone does not want me in their life, I have to accept that. I wish it could have ended differently but that was not in my hands. There will be tough times ahead, memories will pop up again randomly, feelings will come up but for everyone struggling with something similar.. You are not alone and you will be okay. Don't play games. Either someone wants you or they don't. Don't chase, don't beg but if you feel like you need to send a closure message, then go ahead.

I don't want any anger in my heart or any bitterness. I truly and honestly want the best for her and I do hope she is happy, regardless of my own pain. If you truly love someone, you also need to let it go.

Thanks everyone for being here for me through these hard times. It really did make a difference. Now time to try and let go. Focus on myself and my future. What happens will happen and what doesn't will not. I don't want anything that does not want me. If something is truly for you, it will not miss you.

All easier said than done, but we will be okay in the end. The person is missing out on you, not the other way around. If they can't accept healthy love, that is on them. It is not on you. Stay strong and always here if anyone needs someone to listen to them or just talk to them.

We are going to be alright in the end 🩷

It's been a long two months, I have posted several times so first of all.. I want to thank you all, just for listening to me, giving me advice, giving me support and more. This has helped tremendously, even if it just was to rant sometimes. I hope this might be helpful to people going through something similar.

My Fearfulavoidante vanishedlfour weeks ago. She had a pattern of discarding and ghosting me previously but would always come back. With breadcrumbs,high emotional urgency,chasing me even when she ghosted me for a handful of days.

Previously she said she was scared to love me and scared I would run from her. She called me the perfect man. When we were together,everything felt easy but once distance came in to play, the games started.

4 Sundays ago we had a great call. After the fall for the first time she said she would actually wait for me and I am the only one for her. Her last message on that sunday night was 'love you'. I never heard from her again. Those were her last words to me.

I didn't chase after my last message or get angry/beg. 7 days later she put up a picture with her toxic ex, who kept talking about me, threatening he would kill himself etc. I didn''t react or send her a message. 4 days later that picture was gone.

By day 16 I sent a light check in, not even mentioning anything but she still chose to ignore me. I realized it was over. So I sent a closure message, just saying I was confused how it ended and wished we could have at least talked. I told her how I felt about her and I wished her many blessings on her journey. Never got a response.

I am not mad or angry. I can accept someone not wanting to be with me. That's life. I am dissapointed the way she left things. Saying love you and then vanishing. She left me alone to deal with everything. She left me with so many questions that I know I will never get an answer to. Which made it all harder. My heartbreak and real anxiety has gone. I accepted the situation for what it is but there is still a general sadness, which I know will not go away soon. I am letting go and I am happy I send my closure message (even if she maybe never even read it). I said what I had to say, I did what I could. If someone does not want me in their life, I have to accept that. I wish it could have ended differently but that was not in my hands. There will be tough times ahead, memories will pop up again randomly, feelings will come up but for everyone struggling with something similar.. You are not alone and you will be okay. Don't play games. Either someone wants you or they don't. Don't chase, don't beg but if you feel like you need to send a closure message, then go ahead.

I don't want any anger in my heart or any bitterness. I truly and honestly want the best for her and I do hope she is happy, regardless of my own pain. If you truly love someone, you also need to let it go.

Thanks everyone for being here for me through these hard times. It really did make a difference. Now time to try and let go. Focus on myself and my future. What happens will happen and what doesn't will not. I don't want anything that does not want me. If something is truly for you, it will not miss you.

All easier said than done, but we will be okay in the end. The person is missing out on you, not the other way around. If they can't accept healthy love, that is on them. It is not on you. Stay strong and always here if anyone needs someone to listen to them or just talk to them.

We are going to be alright in the end 🩷