Repost, got it from r/CBSE

This happend in class 7th, three years ago.

There was this girl, let's call her Tanya, we were both in the same class but she was 2 years older than me.

She was around the same height as me, or even a bit taller than me💔. But she was kinda fat, or I should say kind of plump.

I didn't came to know about this from her, but my friends told me, cause she told my friends about it and then my friends told me.

So when we both were discussing... Like having a conversation about the thing, i straight up told her that I like another girl and moreover just too she's fat😭

Dayum i shouldn't have said that🤧 after which a whole chain of events got triggered. Which caused my parents to be called to school 3 times throughout the whole year and me going to the principal office 4 times.

Class 7th was hell of a survival game.

Today at school I found out that my crush who is a year older than me and is the daughter of my sst teacher didn't leave the school.

She's in class 11th, idk the stream.

I thought she'd left the school after doing 10th but now she's still in the school. And this year my sst teacher has left the school. Btw I was his favourite student.

I have my maths retest Tommorow. Why? Because the average class marks for math were 7/40.

Yeah, 7 out of 40 marks😭.

I myself only attempted 2 questions and 3 mcqs out of 17 questions, and got 12 marks 🥲

It was abandoned but me and my friend took its ownership.

r/TeenHimIndia

I've made it public, anyone can contribute now.

Start posting gng.

My friend u/Fit_Comfortable_2555 helped me get it's ownership by his guidance. All credit to him.

You know many teenagers have started dating in this era, you might be one or might know someone who is. Now I'm not saying it's inherently wrong.

This is for those single guys who hadn't had a girlfriend till now, and you wish to have a girlfriend some day. Whatever the reason maybe, whether you think you're ugly, or maybe you think that you're "too short", it doesn't matter. Listen carefully to what I say.

In this path to pursue improvement, you may fall into one of the two major categories -

1. You have a support system

2. You don't have a support system

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The need for validation is a basis of human nature, it can't be get rid of. We crave attention of other people, it's a truth no matter how much "self fulfilled" you are.

When your upbringing is not proper, it leaves invisible damage in your thought processes and beliefs. And you and also know what type of parenting you've received as a child, and what many other people like you have received.

Now these wounds are never able to heal, and we aren't able to form a image of our imaginary self, who is perfect in every way. Whenever we are hurt by the world, or if we're facing hardships, we retreat to this inner self and soothe ourselves, and validate ourselves. This is called Self-Esteem. But as we aren't able to properly form this sense of "superior self", we start to seek validation from outside sources.

This makes you dependent on other people to validate yourself, your ideas, your judgements and your opinions.

Here's where the "girlfriend" thing enters. You want a girlfriend to validate yourself. To feel that you're loved. As there's no inner Self-Esteem to validate our own actions. And if you keep depending on external sources of attention and validation, you'll fail to build a true sense of Self, and because of which you'll stay stuck for the rest of your life where you are currently, because you will seek validation from others when the thing you needed was a true sense of self. Which can power you from inside out like an engine instead of you needing to borrow it from outside sources.

So the real message isn't to "Break up" if you're already in a relationship, or to "never get in a relationship" if you're single. But it's to build your identity from the ground up, so that you can use it to navigate your life.

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Now if you have a support system, it'll be far more easier for you to reprogramme yourself and break free from the chains of contagion that were holding you.

And if you currently don't have any support system then it'll be naturally harder for you to overcome this hurdle.

But you know what is better than complaining?

TAKING AGGRESSIVE ACTION

Thanks for reading, and as always

—Keep Ascending

David laid

No nonsense, I'll get straight to the point.

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Your height matters relative to the female.

Your height acts as a filter, not a attractiveness measure.

The threshold starts from around ~3 inches, peaks around 5-6 inches, and after that it begins to lower, and after ~8 inches, it dips.

So what does this mean?

If a girl is 5ft 4 inches tall, she isn't going to choose a 6ft male over a 5ft 9inch male just because one is taller than the other.

There is a concept known as Sexual Dimorphism in Stature (SDS) preference. Which means girls prefer guys that are taller than her, it makes her feel safe and protected. There's a threshold for this Dimorphism.

After the threshold is satisfied SUFFICIENTLY (4-7 inches), height isn't a limiter to how attractive you are perceived to a woman, the limiter becomes your facial features, frame and personality.

So for example, if you're 5ft 7 inches, there's no need to feel insecure about your height, just find a girl who's around 5'1" – 5'2" and focus on your dressing sense, your etiquette, personality, physical frame(muscles and body fat), grooming etc.

For context the average indian female is 5' – 5'2" And the average indian male is 5'5" – 5'7" Which already satisfies the threshold! Individual variations change this, but you've got the point.

This was height's role in mating and relationships with the opposite gender.

But the Male Dominance Hierarchy doesn't work the same way. But there's still a way to quench your insecurities about height in this field also. But that's a topic for future.

Thanks for reading, and as always,

— Keep Ascending