u/ConcentrateAny4630

So, I don’t think most of you will be surprised, but I posted this on other subs and got yelled at. Like a lot. Boy oh boy, the judgments I got.
So yeah I’m basically looking for a triad/throuple situation and I think my family has the perfect set up to make this happen. I’d love to hear if people here think that it’s possible, and any recommendations you’d have.

This was the post:

Wife and I are going to look for a partner

So we are just getting into this idea. I’m 43 and she’s 40 and we have two kids. We’ve talked about this a lot and we take it very seriously.

We’re looking for an ideal partner that would embrace both of us and become a part of our family. This feels like a real needle in a haystack kind of situation.

I’d be curious to hear from people - mostly women - how they’d feel about joining a family.

This might be strange to say but our family is rock solid. My communication with my wife is great. We live great lives. We have two kids. But we want someone in our lives that is really invested and loves us and is a great partner for us. When we make friends with people they usually disappoint us or they move away.
My wife is great, super loving and giving and kind and smart. And she deserves another partner and I know she’d make that partner (a woman, which is what we’d both want) really happy. And if the woman was kind and caring she’d make my wife (and I) really happy as well.

Are there women out there that seek out this kind of situation? Joining a family with young kids? Or am I just going to feel disappointed by a lack of interest and options?

This is not an r4r post - I just want to hear people’s experiences and if I’m off base here.

I guess I’m just genuinely interested in any thoughts people may have.

Thank you

So we are just getting into this idea. I’m 43 and she’s 40 and we have two kids. We’ve talked about this a lot and we take it very seriously.

We’re looking for an ideal partner that would embrace both of us and become a part of our family. This feels like a real needle in a haystack kind of situation.

I’d be curious to hear from people - mostly women - how they’d feel about joining a family.

This might be strange to say but our family is rock solid. My communication with my wife is great. We live great lives. We have two kids. But we want someone in our lives that is really invested and loves us and is a great partner for us. When we make friends with people they usually disappoint us or they move away.
My wife is great, super loving and giving and kind and smart. And she deserves another partner and I know she’d make that partner (a woman, which is what we’d both want) really happy. And if the woman was kind and caring she’d make my wife (and I) really happy as well.

Are there women out there that seek out this kind of situation? Joining a family with young kids? Or am I just going to feel disappointed by a lack of interest and options?

I guess I’m just genuinely interested in any thoughts people may have.

Thank you

I'm 43 and I've been writing Upper MG/YA books. I created a world where the fairy tales all happened. I have a very thought out chronology and have planned everything from the origins to what happens to all the fairy tale characters 15 years after their stories ended.

I am writing coming of age stories (short novels) for characters like Jack, Goldilocks, Red Riding Hood, Rumpelstilitskin, and Hansel and Gretel. And then I'll have a series of books that take place 15 years after the princesses become queens and have kids.

I finished the Red book, and I'm working on the Goldilocks book.

Obviously, it would be nice to talk about my work. Not to sound selfish, but I'm rather busy and I'm not sure how much time I'd have to really read someone else's. I just want to be transparent about that. I'm not saying its not a possibility, but my timing is limited.

If anyone has any thoughts or opinions I'd love to hear them.

I wrote a novel that's 100k words. It takes place in a world I created where all the fairy tales happened. I am writing a series of books - it's a very long story! - and I will have a few coming of age stories for Red Riding Hood, Goldilocks, Jack (and the beanstalk), Hansel and Gretel, and Rumpelstiltskin. These will interconnect. And then I am writing a series 15 years later when all the princesses (like Cinderella, Snow White, Sleeping Beauty) are all queens and have children.

But I have finished the one about Red Riding Hood. It's told through the daughter of the Big Bad Wolf. It's Ya with crossover appeal for Upper MG (but I honestly think adults might enjoy it as well). I'm hoping to find some people that might want to read it and give me feedback. If there are subreddits that you'd recommend me to post in about this I'd love to hear it!

Blurb:
For two years, Nella has lived in the shadow of her father’s disappearance. To humans, he was the Big Bad Wolf: monster, murderer, nightmare of the forest and their villages. To wolves, he was something else entirely—the protector who kept Wolfpine safe.
But now he is gone, and the forest he once ruled is breaking apart. Humans are cutting deeper into Wolfpine Forest. The packs of dire wolves are starving, divided, and restless.
Then one night, Nella discovers a dead animal with something worse than sickness in its body—something bitter, unnatural, and old. As fear spreads across Wolfpine, Nella is forced toward a role everyone expects her to inherit, whether she wants it or not.
It may be up to her to save Wolfpine. But to do so, she’ll have to trust the least likely ally of all: a girl in a red cloak.
Red’s family history is tangled with Nella’s in blood, grief, and stories neither of them fully understand. Not yet. But as corrupted animals appear more often and humans and wolves edge closer to war, Nella and Red must decide whether the past will dictate the future—or whether they can build a peace strong enough to save Wolfpine before fear destroys it.

In a couple weeks my daughter starts kindergarten. I’m not sure how I feel about it. I’ve been a stay at home dad since she was born.

I was a teacher before being a SAHD.

Part of it is I’m so used to being around her all the time. The other part is that schools aren’t what they used to be.

Any thoughts?